Author gringoloco Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 7 minutes ago, schlumpy said: I don't see how you are going to find out anything for moment unless you spend some money and time. You either to hire a PI or fly there yourself. Next time she tells you she gets crazy, ask if you will have to polygraph her when she gets home. Note the reaction. How great is your need to know? Much easier to end it and move on or use it as a self-test as to how much you like this girl. You could spend your time investigating her background. Run her name through several online services that look for information on people. Talk to any friends she has nearby and see if they will tell you some stories of her past exploits. I am sympathetic. I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there but so have many other people. The question is what are you willing to do about it? I would kind of feel stupid for ending it now out of nowhere what i don’t get is why she feeds me that type of information there s nothing i can do to know what she’s up to all i know is i am thinking way too much about it i didn’t respond to her last texts because I wanted her to realize that they were stupid. I m not the kind of person who s going to brag about being drunk or that kind of stuff. I have other interests. if she has a double personality when sober/drunk, this to me a is a major red flag and could make me end it. it’s just that I haven t seen her act like that before my eyes so it’s hard to take a decision 1
schlumpy Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 9 minutes ago, elpandillero said: what i don’t get is why she feeds me that type of information I would suspect that she sees you as a party boy just as she is a party girl, and that you will appreciate the fun she is having. She is sharing what she thinks is a common experience that you can relate to in a positive manner. If I could chat with her I'd recommend she send you pictures of castles, manors, and museums. That would have been smart thing to do.
Author gringoloco Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 7 minutes ago, schlumpy said: I would suspect that she sees you as a party boy just as she is a party girl, and that you will appreciate the fun she is having. She is sharing what she thinks is a common experience that you can relate to in a positive manner. If I could chat with her I'd recommend she send you pictures of castles, manors, and museums. That would have been smart thing to do. Maybe ... I once was, but I guess i ve just matured. I have stopped drinking, become a lot more into sports and music, but maybe due to that i ve become a bit less social because i avoid going out drinking with friends as for her, she s 28 so not exactly in her party era lol
schlumpy Posted August 16, 2020 Posted August 16, 2020 8 minutes ago, elpandillero said: as for her, she s 28 so not exactly in her party era lol Yes. That would be a red flag for me as well.
Author gringoloco Posted August 16, 2020 Author Posted August 16, 2020 37 minutes ago, schlumpy said: Yes. That would be a red flag for me as well. she s not going to clubs or stuff like that but she has a lot of friends so she s always away for weekends during the summer, renting houses with friends for birthdays etc... and she s suggesting to me that she s all crazy and s*** when she drinks with them at the same time she was pursuing me like crazy in the beginning and very afraid that i might leave for another I ve backed off a bit not to play with her but because i want to reconnect a bit with myself to stop being so anxious 1
Phallacy Posted August 17, 2020 Posted August 17, 2020 Whether or not I offer a 2nd date depends on 2 questions. 1) Did she ask me 5 questions not related to my status? 2) Did she flirt? A no to either question means she gets no 2nd date.
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