Amanda92 Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 Some time ago I met the most handsome guy in the world. I was really surprised that he wanted to date with me. Even if I am pretty I am not confident. He is very active on Instagram, so before our date, I had noticed that he is a bit crazy 'like from a reality show'. I thought: he is handsome and probably not too smart, he can be a great friend with benefits. After the first date, I was in shock. He was a gentleman. He was cute and even didn't try to touch me. He looked so deep in my eyes... He asked me so many questions... It was very nice. I was a bit scared that it looks too beautiful. I don't have any luck in love, so I was unable to be happy with that I was waiting for a catastrophe. He really wanted to meet again. but I refused twice meeting at home. Then we decided to go out for dinner. The second date was very stressful for me. I just had in my mind that he is so good-looking and he likes me and that made me so shy... But I wanted to try to have something serious with him. I didn't notice it, but now I know that he was disappointed that I didn't invite him home. I felt that something is wrong, he stopped to text so often... I asked about that and he explained to me that actually... he isn't looking for anything serious. I was surprised. Then I decided to hook up with him because I know I would regret that I could try to have a good time with such a pretty man. I told him that it's okay for me. Our date was great. He liked it too. I thought that it might be a one-night stand, but it wasn't. We met a few times to drink and we travel together for 4 days. I wanted to meet more often than once a week, but he doesn't want to. He doesn't want to text, too. I try to make our relationship more like a romantic relationship than only friends, but he didn't let me. Even if during our trip we behaved like a couple. We were staring at the ocean while sitting at the beach and drinking wine, we were walking a lot, holding hands, talking about our childhood... It was just perfect. Why did I fall for him? Firstly, he is so handsome. I could look at him forever! Really! This body is just perfect. But obviously, this is only how he looks like. He is just a great human. I have never met someone like him. He is very nice, never complaints. He is calm but crazy. He like saying stupid things and then he started to laugh. We are so different, but he made me feel comfortable with him. I don't feel any shame. I can tell him everything... like nobody else. About my problems, my family... I was really surprised that he opens me so much and so fast. We like to appreciate little things in life. We love traveling and camping. Our sex is so great. He likes the same things. And when he sleeps he hugs me so tight. He is like a teddy bear while sleeping, so cute. Since I am not shy anymore our conversation is great. It never ends. He always asks me what I want - for example, where to eat, what to bring when we meet at my place. And once again he is so nice. Why I wouldn't ever think that I can fall for him? Probably, he was dating with dozens of women. I even don't try to ask. I don't want to know... I don't have too much experience and never slept with a random person. Maybe even now he is dating someone else. What is weird for me - I am not jealous at all. He also says that he doesn't want to have a wife. I don't understand it. He can't clean his apartment. He spends a lot of time alone. Sometimes he even travels totally alone. He likes to say stupid things. I used to spend time with people who are or pretend to be smart... and what hit me... I feel much better next to him... He isn't Mr Right - a good future husband, but I don't care. I think I would accept his just the way he is. I just feel happy next to him like never before. Obviously, I have no idea what would it looks like when this sparks would go away... In my opinion, between us, there is just magic. For him, there is just fun. I knew that FWB isn't for me, I was aware that I will hurt myself, but I want to spend with him as much time as I can. Stupid and naive, right? Probably in some time, he will notice that I like him too much and he would like to end it... or I will feel to much hurt. I know that there is no future between us, but I am just crazy about him... He makes me feel that everything is possible. I don't think there is any advice that you can give me... but maybe someone is in a similar situation or have some similar experience? I just felt that I have to share my story with someone.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 You already know how this is going to end, OP. If you feel you can enjoy it in the moment, go for it. But if you feel you will not be able to handle the eventual end, it's best not to continue. My sense is that it's more the latter than the former, if you're unable to really consider the strong possibility that you're not the only woman he's dating. There's nothing wrong with having some fun, but be careful with your heart.
Mystery4u Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 There is only one way this will all end - with you getting hurt. In future if you want a serious relationship, do not make the mistake of thinking that giving up sex will make a man fall for you. It won't.
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 You are an adult & you seem to have gone into this with your eyes open. You know he said he didn't want anything serious & you voluntarily slept with him anyway. You enjoy the time you spend together & the sex is great. You say you have a handle on your jealousy so enjoy it while it lasts. Just so you know not all handsome men are philanderers. My husband is drop dead gorgeous. When I met him I thought Player! That was fine I was looking for a player because I wanted over the top romance but not much substance. My husband couldn't be a player with a PUA coach standing next to him whispering in his ear.
stillafool Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 Since you know the rules and are willing to accept the future pain that comes from this type of relationship then I don't see a problem. You already know what is going to happen when he decides he wants someone new and are ready to face it. Just make sure you don't do as other ladies when it ends and accuse him of using you because you are going into this with your eyes wide open. Good luck.
smackie9 Posted July 31, 2020 Posted July 31, 2020 (edited) 55 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: My husband couldn't be a player with a PUA coach standing next to him whispering in his ear. Edited July 31, 2020 by smackie9
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