New Start Posted July 29, 2020 Posted July 29, 2020 I met a guy online and things seem to be going well. We have been getting to know each other for the past couple weeks. We are older and we are taking our time to know each other and that is great. He gives me a good feeling as he isn’t pressuring me. We are going to meet in a couple weeks time. Yesterday he sent me some pics of sunsets and interesting cloud formations from his home. I could see his house is huge The problem is today I sent him a text asking if he’s living with someone or married. I thought things are going well so far but perhaps he’s married or living with someone because of that huge house. Well he texted back why would he be in a dating site if he was married. I would hope he isn’t and that he’s honest so far but now and days you never know. Online dating can be a bit scary. He texted back his kids live with him and his grandchild. He then sent me pics. I felt a bit like a heel for making such a direct statement. Maybe I should of waited to meet him in person but I didn’t. It’s done. We chatted a bit more and he said he will chat more tonight. I’m wondering if I need to apologize or just move on from my question. I so far like the guy. He seems nice and polite I just don’t want to blow it as it’s hard to meet someone now and days and I think this guy has potential. any advice greatly appreciated.
Ami1uwant Posted July 29, 2020 Posted July 29, 2020 You could have asked differently Q why do you have such a large house is more openended what you asked was biased and implied something. a a typical early question to have given your ages is talk some about your life such as being married or having kids and places you traveled to. howfar apart are you from him? Trying to do long distance is going to get complicated. With him still having kids under his roof..he isn’t moving.
Wiseman2 Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 Don't bring it up again. Just move forward getting to know each other. 1
Giovane Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 1 hour ago, New Start said: just move on from my question. This!
chillii Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 lf it comes up again just tell him what you said here , it's understandable. Apologizing , l wouldn't bat an eyelid if she did , it'd be nice but l'd know why she asked anyway given the people out there these days , a womans gotta be careful, up to you, just really casual if you do.
d0nnivain Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 Don't look for problems where there aren't any. You asked. He answered. Move on. Why are you waiting a "few weeks" to meet? Generally it's better to meet an OLD connection sooner rather than later so you can get to know them as opposed to who you think they are through electronic interactions.
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