smackie9 Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 13 hours ago, Versacehottie said: Hmmmm, well I might have to re-read your latest post, OP, but if you are saying that when you received an inappropriate text message he made you block etc or unfriend the person & was demanding that you tell the person's wife, then it's a double standard in a way. Apples to oranges. It was a random text she got and she deleted this person without question. Telling his wife is optional. If he did it again, then yes tell the wife. IMO OP's BF should have defended his GF's honor and had words with this guy. Him, he interacted with this woman regularly, and got defensive about it when confronted.
kendahke Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 (edited) 20 hours ago, BNKSTR0308 said: He got very upset one night when a man we both know had sent an unexpected drunk message with a “picture”. I unfriended that person immediately but he was upset because I didn’t tell that mans wife. this is something else that's got me wondering: was it a butt dial to you or was it addressed to you? If you all are friends and are in the same social circles, then your boyfriend also has access to finding this guy and reading him for filth himself. In fact, if it bothered him that much, why didn't he phone the guy's wife and tell her himself? Why was it your responsibility to do his dirty work for him when you handled that neatly and quickly? Are you sure he's mentally sound? Edited July 30, 2020 by kendahke
OatsAndHall Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 Certainly a double standard in this situation. He expected you to confront a man's wife over a pic he sent but is also unwilling to unfriend a woman who is making advances... This would certainly concern me. It sounds like the two of you need to sit down and have a conversation about setting some boundaries over social media. To be honest, I think that it's something every couple needs to do as social media can cause issues in a relationship. Personally, I don't believe social media is as harmless as many people make it out to be. I think many situations that occur via social media should be handled as if they occurred face to face. If I were out to dinner with my gf, I certainly wouldn't be comfortable with random men paying her compliments and flirting with her. And, I know she wouldn't be thrilled if the shoe was on the other foot. In my opinion, people behaving that way on social media is just as disrespectful towards the relationship as it is face to face. 1
nibelheim89 Posted July 30, 2020 Posted July 30, 2020 He should be shutting this S down without you having to tell or ask him. 4
IHaveAnswers Posted August 4, 2020 Posted August 4, 2020 Her behavior is disrespectful to the nth degree. His lack of firm boundaries and checking her tells a lot about HIM. He likes that mess!!! Makes him feel good like he is in high demand and whatnot. People are mistaken about this being "about FB and not real life". That is irrelevant to the situation here. What is important is that this woman went overboard into disrespect land, your boyfriend didn't check her nor did he block her, which leaves the door open for more. By him being silent on the matter heis encourging this disrsepect of you. He is getting off on it. When you have a guy like this in your life it does not bode well for a committed relationship where you can be vulnerable and feel taken care of and adored. Instead you feel nervous, tense, unloved, unappreciated and like you are being pitted against some COW in a competition. Personally I would dump him. He doesn't have the proper attitude to move forward into something deeper and richer. He is not trying to protect your feelings at all. Get rid of him. He is a dusty bum. 1
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