June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 So if the gf/bf meets the brother/sister and adds them on facebook, this is a sign of a serious relationship?
Mystery4u Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 (edited) Surely the fact they are boyfriend and girlfriend is a sign it's a serious relationship? And the fact they have met family? What does trashbook have to do with showing a serious relationship? Nothing unless you are 15 years old. Edited July 27, 2020 by Mystery4u 3
d0nnivain Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, June2017 said: So if the gf/bf meets the brother/sister and adds them on facebook, this is a sign of a serious relationship? No. Its a sign that everybody thinks social media has value when it doesn't. Some people add random people they don't even know as their social media friends. Many people follow celebrities on social media. It means nothing.
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 If you are BF/GF wouldn't that be considered as serious anyways? I'm not talkin marriage proposal or anything like that.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, June2017 said: So if the gf/bf meets the brother/sister and adds them on facebook, this is a sign of a serious relationship? No. it is more likely a sign of inevitable doom. 2
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, June2017 said: So if the gf/bf meets the brother/sister and adds them on facebook, this is a sign of a serious relationship? No. Is a sign of crossing boundaries depending on how long you have been dating. Try to keep peripheral people off your respective social media until your relationship is established. 2
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, SincereOnlineGuy said: No. it is more likely a sign of inevitable doom. Why???
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: No. Is a sign of crossing boundaries depending on how long you have been dating. Try to keep peripheral people off your respective social media until your relationship is established. Dated 1 year and met family but only added the brother now. The brother is 21 though
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, smackie9 said: If you are BF/GF wouldn't that be considered as serious anyways? I'm not talkin marriage proposal or anything like that. then how is it serious when proposals aren't involved? That's serious???
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: No. Its a sign that everybody thinks social media has value when it doesn't. Some people add random people they don't even know as their social media friends. Many people follow celebrities on social media. It means nothing. but if someone adds family of the bf/gf , it definitely means gaining approval from the family and being accepted? For further marriage engagement stuff??
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 hour ago, Mystery4u said: Surely the fact they are boyfriend and girlfriend is a sign it's a serious relationship? And the fact they have met family? What does trashbook have to do with showing a serious relationship? Nothing unless you are 15 years old. meaning being accepted into family?
Ruby Slippers Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 No, this is not a sign of seriousness. I'm not big into social media except LinkedIn for professional purposes. I wouldn't want a boyfriend connecting with my family on SM. What if things don't work out? Awkward. I'd rather wait for that to happen only if we got married.
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 16 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: No, this is not a sign of seriousness. I'm not big into social media except LinkedIn for professional purposes. I wouldn't want a boyfriend connecting with my family on SM. What if things don't work out? Awkward. I'd rather wait for that to happen only if we got married. Then why addd if not serious?
Ruby Slippers Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 It's not a bad sign - but it doesn't necessarily mean the person is hearing wedding bells, either.
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 Adding family on social media is not a measurement of "seriousness". It's just an indicator that family are polite or friendly or casually add people they have met. If you want a metric for your level of seriousness you need to look inside and ask yourself questions of compatibility. Religion, politics, philosophy, goals, values and how you feel about each other. If you need to find hidden meaning in social media friending, like reading tea leaves, it sounds like things are not too serious. 1
Author June2017 Posted July 27, 2020 Author Posted July 27, 2020 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Adding family on social media is not a measurement of "seriousness". It's just an indicator that family are polite or friendly or casually add people they have met. If you want a metric for your level of seriousness you need to look inside and ask yourself questions of compatibility. Religion, politics, philosophy, goals, values and how you feel about each other. If you need to find hidden meaning in social media friending, like reading tea leaves, it sounds like things are not too serious. What do you mean by the last sentence?
Wiseman2 Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 People who are serious, know they are. They are not looking for "signs". 1 1
lana-banana Posted July 27, 2020 Posted July 27, 2020 It means absolutely nothing other than they've chose to add them on Facebook. For some people, Facebook is a big deal; for others, you simply add names without a second thought. It certainly is not indicative of the seriousness of a relationship or an individual's intentions. 1
Author June2017 Posted July 28, 2020 Author Posted July 28, 2020 8 hours ago, lana-banana said: It means absolutely nothing other than they've chose to add them on Facebook. For some people, Facebook is a big deal; for others, you simply add names without a second thought. It certainly is not indicative of the seriousness of a relationship or an individual's intentions. But why add when there is always a chance for break up?
assertives Posted July 28, 2020 Posted July 28, 2020 There are some people who would add anyone on Facebook that they have met or haven't met in real life. It doesn't mean anything. Plus, it's also very easy to unfriend anyone if the relationship doesn't work out. In any case, you cannot look at one's facebook or social media behaviour and evaluate if a relationship is "serious" or not. You should be evaluating within and not external. Things like life goals, religion, individual values, communication, etc should be what you are focusing on whether to assess whether the relationship has potential to last long-term. If you are uncertain about how she feels, it's time to have a talk with her. 1
lana-banana Posted July 28, 2020 Posted July 28, 2020 3 hours ago, June2017 said: But why add when there is always a chance for break up? There is always a chance for breaking up. So what?
Author June2017 Posted July 28, 2020 Author Posted July 28, 2020 1 hour ago, lana-banana said: There is always a chance for breaking up. So what? Yes meaning why add when the chance exist? Won't it cause embarrassment?
Mystery4u Posted July 28, 2020 Posted July 28, 2020 4 minutes ago, June2017 said: Yes meaning why add when the chance exist? Won't it cause embarrassment? Your posts make no sense whatsoever. Why even meet family if the chance exists and it will be embarrassing? Why even get into a relationship if the chance exists and it will be embarrassing? You are putting way too much importance on social media which is quite simply, not important at all. 2
lana-banana Posted July 28, 2020 Posted July 28, 2020 12 minutes ago, June2017 said: Yes meaning why add when the chance exist? Won't it cause embarrassment? The chance always exists, even after you get married. Literally nothing in life is guaranteed. There is nothing embarrassing about breakups on social media anymore thanks to the "mute" feature. You can simply mute someone and never see their updates again. You are putting an astronomical amount of weight on social media and the rest of us are telling you that weight doesn't exist. Adding someone's family isn't a big deal and does not mean anything.
Wiseman2 Posted July 28, 2020 Posted July 28, 2020 1 hour ago, June2017 said: Yes meaning why add when the chance exist? Won't it cause embarrassment? Anyone can add or block in one click. It's not a measure of anything even though you are desperately hoping it is.
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