She didn't respond for 4 days. and just now texted back

[Sedenog]

Hey guys so I was talking to this girl long distance for about a month now and she claims she is super busy and doesn’t respond sometimes for a day. I’m just as busy because we are in similar careers. But recently she didn’t respond for 4 days and then responded saying she was super busy....idk who is that busy. Was that a s*** test? 
 

 The strangest thing is that she seems interested. Like she askes questions and try's to make conversation. Even after not responding for 4 days she apologized and tried to act like it was normal. But I’m tired of being put on the back burner. I’m thinking of just not responding. Letting her get a taste of her medicine. This isn’t a relationship if I’m sitting waiting for her to “find free time” to text me back. Come on

She will clearly get the message. I like the girl but I came out of a prior relationship similar to this. So makes me want to pull away 
 

 

any advice is welcomed 

[d0nnivain]

Is this girl from your other thread?  

For now this is just an on-line distraction.  Any delays in response time is a function of the nature of the interaction.  

Don't get your nose out of shape about it.  You are not a priority for her nor should you be.  

[ExpatInItaly]

A woman who is interested isn't going to take 4 days to reply to you. 

It doesn't appear she views this online interaction the same way you do. You're a friend she chats with but she's not attempting to fan any flames. I think you would be wise to keep looking. 

[Wiseman2]

On 7/26/2020 at 11:30 AM, Sedenog said:

I became friends with this girl on Facebook- never met before but we had a mutual friend. She liked my picture and then I liked her back- typical millennial stuff I know. We then proceeded and started messaging on messenger and then I asked to text her and we started texting. It’s been almost 2 weeks now of messaging and texting back and forth. The texts are definitely delayed like 2 messages a day but she is definitely interested. She’s been asking questions and trying to keep the convo going. So here’s my thing we clearly are interested in each other and have a lot of similar aspects...age, culture, religion careers goals but for starters she lives in NY and I live in Fl. 

I really like this girl and would like to continue whatever this is lol. But how should I do it slickly without seeming like a creep or being overeager. I want to meet her you know face to face. Should I ask to FaceTime her?? Or is that creepy..should I wait a little longer? HELP
 

Im kinda lost considering we’ve never met and I really have no clue who this girl is. We just became friends on Facebook and now we are texting routinely. 

Texting random women on social media long distance isn't the best way to build a relationship.

[smackie9]

Time to stop with the LDRs and get with real life. Date locally.

[schlumpy]

What do you write to her about? The weather?

 

[ssm617]

If this happens once, then I might give them the benefit of the doubt because sometimes people may have cell phone problems and/or didn't see the message. But when someone constantly takes several days for responding, then most likely they aren't interested in you or aren't that serious about dating in general. They might see you as a text buddy to pass time when they are bored. In particular when it is long distance. 

Edited August 22, 2020 by ssm617

[rjc149]

You've never met, let alone been on a date, let alone had sex with her. There is no real connection here. This is not a relationship. 

Give that this is not a relationship, her interest in you is teetering on non-existent. Women must have, or be seeking, an emotional connection in order to have any interest in communicating with you. 

As for this girl, it's not going anywhere. So yes, take your time responding to her, if you bother responding to her anymore at all. If it takes her 4 days, it takes you 4 days. Get busy with your own things too. Meet women locally and date women you can interact with face-to-face.