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Wiseman2 Established Member

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1 hour ago, Remi5 said:

 Now he is asking to meet again, with no mention of the money. 

You need to mention the money.

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Ruby Slippers Established Member

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Would it help to block him? You could leave one option open, like email, in case he ever decides to pay you back.

Isn't that a great feeling, when you've finally had enough and are just OVER the guy? Gives you a feeling of strength and peace. 

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26 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said:

Isn't that a great feeling, when you've finally had enough and are just OVER the guy? Gives you a feeling of strength and peace. 

That's a door that swings both ways, Slippers.  When I finally cut my ex out of my life for good it was like Superman regaining his powers after shedding kryptonite.  I wish I'd done it sooner.

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Ruby Slippers Established Member

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Yes! I feel you! This applies to anyone who shakes off somebody dragging them down, taking them out of their brilliance, and gets it BACK. Such a great feeling. 

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I received a lot of calls and messages from him today.

all talk of me disappeared and what have i done wrong (from him).

I didn't answer.

He called from another number.

It turns out he is only calling because he needs his keys.

I think its incredibly rude and cheeky to ask for his keys when he owes me a smartphone.

How should i respond? 

A real piece of work he is. 

 

 

 

kendahke Established Member

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1 hour ago, Remi5 said:

How should i respond?

Remind him of this:

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I think its incredibly rude and cheeky to ask for his keys when he owes me a smartphone.

"B betta have my money"

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basil67 Established Member

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Sure you can have your keys....when you give me $X owed.

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Wiseman2 Established Member

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2 hours ago, Remi5 said:

It turns out he is only calling because he needs his keys.

Tell him to pick them up in a safe location you agree on. You can't hold his property for ransom. Why don't you ant to just get it over with?

basil67 Established Member

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50 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

You can't hold his property for ransom

Why not?  

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gamon Established Member

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1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

You can't hold his property for ransom. Why don't you ant to just get it over with?

Sure she can, and why should she? Because it's the only leverage she's got to see that money again.

 

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gaius Established Member

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He sounds more like a run of the mill loser who can't manage money than a con artist. There's a lot of them out there. 

They had an article the other day about a single mom who has to stay home to take care of her special needs kid and was struggling to make ends meet after her unemployment got cut off. She had my sympathy till she started complaining about not being able to pay her $581 a month car bill. 581 a month car bill, what the heck is the matter with people.

 

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Alvi Established Member

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Respond with something like this:

"Hey, sounds great!Since I have no use for your keys, I'll gladly return them back to you.How about you also return  me the money (insert the amount) that you've borrowed from me and my smartphone as well.  My sister/brother/mother/friend will gladly meet you  at some public place (insert the place) to exchange the money borrowed along with my smartphone for the keys. Enjoy the rest of your day!"

 

Alvi Established Member

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3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

You can't hold his property for ransom.

Sure she can. So what is he going to do? Sue her? Doubt this is the route he is willing to take since he owes her money and holds her smartphone for ransom as well. 

Doubt police would be much help to him here.

 

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basil67 Established Member

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1 hour ago, gaius said:

He sounds more like a run of the mill loser who can't manage money than a con artist. There's a lot of them out there. 

They had an article the other day about a single mom who has to stay home to take care of her special needs kid and was struggling to make ends meet after her unemployment got cut off. She had my sympathy till she started complaining about not being able to pay her $581 a month car bill. 581 a month car bill, what the heck is the matter with people.

 

Do you not have carer allowance in the US?   

Regarding the car bill, did her SN child require an adapted vehicle?    Buying an appropriate late model vehicle and having the mods done can cost a bomb.  And getting expensive mods done on an old beater not only doesn't give a long lifespan on the expensive mods, but when you're driving a disabled person around, having a relatively new (and therefore reliable) car is really important.

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HadMeOverABarrel Established Member

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13 hours ago, kendahke said:

"B betta have my money"

Lol! 😂 Love this!

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9 hours ago, Alvi said:

Respond with something like this:

"Hey, sounds great!Since I have no use for your keys, I'll gladly return them back to you.How about you also return  me the money (insert the amount) that you've borrowed from me and my smartphone as well.  My sister/brother/mother/friend will gladly meet you  at some public place (insert the place) to exchange the money borrowed along with my smartphone for the keys. Enjoy the rest of your day!"

 

thanks - i used this and he is now pretending that he had already tried to send the money and smartphone over (via a cab) when i wasn't in. The lies don't stop. 

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6 hours ago, Remi5 said:

thanks - i used this and he is now pretending that he had already tried to send the money and smartphone over (via a cab) when i wasn't in. The lies don't stop. 

Who even does that?

Yeah, no money/smartphone, no keys. He can call a locksmith and pay him to grind a new key if he needs it that bad.

That was just some rank bait he used to try to lure you back in, hoping you'd forgotten about the $$.

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Alvi Established Member

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11 hours ago, Remi5 said:

thanks - i used this and he is now pretending that he had already tried to send the money and smartphone over (via a cab) when i wasn't in. The lies don't stop. 

Wow, what a loser. I am speechless.  Ask him again. In case he makes up some tale, just get rid of his keys, lol.

Don't forget to block him completely. Unless you are planning to take him to small claims court.

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CaliforniaGirl Established Member

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On 7/21/2020 at 7:33 AM, Ruby Slippers said:

I'll never understand why people loan people they're dating money. I hope you learned a lesson and never loan a boyfriend money again. 

I find it weird too. I would never have loaned money and I would never have asked for money. 

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22 hours ago, Remi5 said:

thanks - i used this and he is now pretending that he had already tried to send the money and smartphone over (via a cab) when i wasn't in. The lies don't stop. 

He'll probably just change the locks unless he's a complete idiot.

He may just want to see if he can scam you some more because you allowed it.

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his house is probably in foreclosure lol

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mortensorchid Established Member

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Sweetheart, men (and women) borrow money from banks, not others.  If it's a small amount (say under $20), that's one thing in a true emergency situation.  Example : I was working at my first job and found I didn't have any money with me to take the train home from the city.  I asked a coworker if they had any spare change to loan me, then I would return it to them the next day, which I did.  Unfortunately you learned a very expensive lesson here.  If a man asks to borrow money from a woman, it's an automatic red flag.  MOVE ON. 

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If you have a significant other, you should just give them money. It's a relationship, not a bank deal. 

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Jeez, the nonsense continues.  Just text him back & say it didn't work. He can bring you cash & the phone IN PERSON and you will hand over the keys. Just be firm and clear. Get your money back, girl! Can you afford to just throw away $900 + an expensive phone just because it makes you uncomfortable? Get your money back!

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stillafool Established Member

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Demanding your money back should be the only conversation you should be having with him now.  It's clear he never cared about you, used you for money and God knows who he's spending it on in order to con her too.  If he doesn't give it back by such and such a date you need to block him, consider this a loss and learn to never lend money out again.

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