d0nnivain Posted July 18, 2020 Posted July 18, 2020 I'm sorry for what happened to you as a teen. Like others have said & you have concluded, you probably dodged a bullet. Going forward, know you can rely on your own instincts. If something doesn't feel right it probably isn't. Be safe! 1
Author Fox Sake Posted July 18, 2020 Author Posted July 18, 2020 @basil67 omg that’s crazy! I’m glad you’re okay now. I think it’s worse for women to go through that than men. I don’t know why, and I could be way off on saying that. Well done for educating your daughter @d0nnivain thank you so much! @everyone - 1
dangerous Posted July 18, 2020 Posted July 18, 2020 18 hours ago, Fox Sake said: Ah well that was short lived I got unmatched . Not sure why but definitely for the best I think. Sorry for wasting all your time! lol, when I started reading your thread, i thought she was flakey straight away: - Young girls, under 23 say, are commonly flakey, unreliable, they are mainly still teenagers in all but name. - She was being too enthusiastic and easy? Remember, the good things in life are usually not easy to come by. - A young girl inviting a man to visit her home on a first date shows immaturity, and a high probability of cancelling. - Big age difference = warning signs: it would be nice, but again high chance of flaking. I speak from experience on these points 1
Author Fox Sake Posted July 18, 2020 Author Posted July 18, 2020 (edited) 12 minutes ago, dangerous said: lol, when I started reading your thread, i thought she was flakey straight away: - Young girls, under 23 say, are commonly flakey, unreliable, they are mainly still teenagers in all but name. - She was being too enthusiastic and easy? Remember, the good things in life are usually not easy to come by. - A young girl inviting a man to visit her home on a first date shows immaturity, and a high probability of cancelling. - Big age difference = warning signs: it would be nice, but again high chance of flaking. I speak from experience on these points Are you literally quoting all my posts in threads?! I’m so out the game man, forgive my naivety it came across like that. My grandpa was 23 years older than my granny and they had the most amazing and beautiful relationship. Actually my dads side of the family all the males married much younger women...apart from my dad. My grandpa is still my hero even tho he isn’t alive anymore, I strive to be as much of a gentleman as he was. He was a truly amazing man and treated my granny very well. They had a beautiful marriage. My parents however, who are the same ages dont have a healthy relationship. That doesn’t go for everyone by any means and your post holds a lot of truth about young girls but it’s not the same for everyone. I agree tho that under 23’s are generally flakey but there’s always a few exceptions to the rule! Again might I remind you that everyone’s experiences are different. edit - I really hope this post doesn’t come across as pissy! I respect your views Edited July 18, 2020 by Fox Sake Edit add
dangerous Posted July 19, 2020 Posted July 19, 2020 No problem, Fox Sake, you didn't come across as ungrateful. I totally agree, there are exceptions, I was just giving some trends that I've seen. And I am with you, personally, I'm enjoying "age gap" dating at the moment. As an unusually fit guy (who is also into current rock bands!) I usually date much younger girls (but again I am generalising, there are exceptions!). Good luck and enjoy the journey OP 1
Hopeful30 Posted July 19, 2020 Posted July 19, 2020 On 7/17/2020 at 6:49 PM, Fox Sake said: Hinge , a girl asked to match with me. Chatted a few days but she never asked questions. Answered everything I asked. Asked her for a date before I wrote her off as a non questioner and only interested in attention. Because really what did I have to lose. She agreed on a date, to my surprise. I suggested something fun and chill , like a walk, a drive, mini golf, or some food or something. There’s nothing else really opening up for another while here so options are limited. She suggested I come to hers and watch a movie with her and chill. 3 hour drive but my brother stays locally to her so I said I would go stay at his place after the date. Now , it would be totally naïve of me to assume sex is on the cards. Im happy just to chill and get to know each other. If it happens- a lot can change in 4 days! I’m half tempted to tell her not to expect sex but that may come across like I was expecting her to expect it, but I fear that could also have the opposite effect. From my past experience, when you tell someone that you’re not gonna sleep with them right away it has the effect of making them want what they can’t have. I just think it’s an odd request to invite a guy 13 years older than you(she’s 21 I’m a young looking and probably quite immature 34) , that you’ve never met or know much about into your house? Opinions please? As a woman, my biggest concern is safety. A strange man in my own home? God knows what can happen! Sex was also my first impression. Netflix and chill = physical contact, closeness, and intimate time spent together. It's not even a real date. Maybe you can hint that sex is off the table and gauge her intentions by how she reacts? Not sure how to suggest that though. Hmm...
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