Sent my parents a thank you card...what is this supposed to mean???

[brooke7777]

Hi everyone. So, today, my mom tells me that my ex sent them a thank you card. His birthday was in the beginning of August, before we broke up, and it's now over two months past his birthday. The card read:

 

I just wanted to thank you for the birthday gift. I really appreciate all that you've done for me and for accepting me into your lives so generously. Thanks for everything.

 

So...what is this supposed to mean? I have this weird obesession with the mail and he knows it. I get the mail each day and sort through it, so he knew that I would see it. He also wrote his name on the return address. Was this supposed to spark my attention? Is this his way of making the first step of communicating? Why did he wait so long...is this his cry for me to contact him? He's usually very punctual with thank you cards and such. Am I overanalyzing this? Any advice is welcome.

[johan]

Brooke, I think you should take it at face value and not (try not to) have another thought about it.

 

The thank you card was meant to thank them. For the gift and for everything else. I suggest you stop there.

 

If he wanted to communicate with you, he would communicate with you. It is not a cry for you to contact him. If he wanted you to contact him, he would written "please have Brooke contact me".

 

I know it's easy to think it all meant something more, but you should expect more out of him than some lame tangential shot at you via a brief note to your parents. He can do better than that. Hang in there and be patient.

[Drivetildriven]

I went to my ex girlfriend's grandpa's funeral two months after she broke up with me. I didn't know if her new dude would be there and didn't really care. I wasn't there for her. I really liked her grandpa and went for him and my ex's mother. Anyway she sent me and my family a thank you card, thanking them for their condolences and me for attending the funeral. I'd say your situation is similar. It's a thank you card. Read it for what it says.

[brooke7777]

Thanks for your advice. I'm a virgo...so my job is to overanalyze everything to the bitter end. I think that's what I'm doing with this whole thank you card. I wish I could tell my brain to stop thinking so much sometimes.

[slubberdegullion]

I'm a virgo...so my job is to overanalyze everything to the bitter end.

It's got nothing to do with star signs. It's got to do with the fact that you're a woman. Nothing wrong with that, of course, but women do tend to read messages into things that men take as face value.

 

He's just saying thanks. No more, no less.

[magda]

Eh, my sister's ex did that for awhile... buying us christmas gifts, calling to chat with our gramma. He wasn't over her. Sure, he was friends with Gramma and all of us... but he was also trying to stay in her life.

 

How long were you together? The card is short and sweet so it's probably not a big deal.

[brooke7777]

We were together for almost 3 1/2 years.

[Topper]

Take it at face value and be thankful he has some mannors and a little sense social skills.