brokengirl85 Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 I contacted him after a long period of no contact. We know each other and have had a sporadic relationship in the past, nothing serious. He’s moved to another state a couple months ago, I just wanted to keep talking with him, know how’s he’s doing...He always replied to my messages. So, after a week of back and forth messaging about him wanting to visit, wanting a kiss, Just flirting, I got more excited and asked some sexy questions, nothing too straightforward but definitely pursuing him. This was 4 days ago. He never replied. now I’m clueless. Maybe he was just being nice but in reality he doesn’t want anything to do with me? I mean, why he wouldn’t continue flirting? I didn’t say anything that could have been disrespectful... im just not contacting him anymore, just curious as to why he never replied. Today he visited my online profile, that’s another thing that makes me clueless.
Calmandfocused Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 He has a new life now. His head and his heart have moved on too. Maybe he was only interested in talking to you to keep connected to his old life but he’s not necessarily interested in keeping connected with you ... if that makes sense. My advice is: “let sleeping dogs lie” and move on to new horizons Op.
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 16, 2020 Author Posted July 16, 2020 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said: He has a new life now. His head and his heart have moved on too. Maybe he was only interested in talking to you to keep connected to his old life but he’s not necessarily interested in keeping connected with you ... if that makes sense. My advice is: “let sleeping dogs lie” and move on to new horizons Op. Thank you for your reply. I also think so. In any case, I will not contact him anymore. Edited July 16, 2020 by brokengirl85
ExpatInItaly Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 I think he enjoyed a little flirting but doesn't want to keep it going. Perhaps he's also distracted by another woman currently. I wouldn't reach out again. It sounds like it s going to be best to let this fizzle now. 1
Alvi Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 For all you know, his girlfriend walked in while you were messaging him and put a stop to it. Probably, it was just flirting, some sort of fantasy for him. Nothing more. Move on.
d0nnivain Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 It could be anything. The why doesn't matter so much as the fact that he did slack off contact. That speaks volumes about how important you are to him so just leave it be. 1
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 16, 2020 Author Posted July 16, 2020 I’ll let it be. Sad, but true that sometimes ones desires don’t match with the object of our affection. I wonder if he was just being nice and followed my game because he didn’t want to let me down but when I became more flirty he backed up as he wasn’t really interested.
Realitysux Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 7 minutes ago, brokengirl85 said: I’ll let it be. Sad, but true that sometimes ones desires don’t match with the object of our affection. I wonder if he was just being nice and followed my game because he didn’t want to let me down but when I became more flirty he backed up as he wasn’t really interested. You'll never know so ur wasting ur time asking these questions.
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 16, 2020 Author Posted July 16, 2020 10 minutes ago, Realitysux said: You'll never know so ur wasting ur time asking these questions. You’re right. Thanks!
Realitysux Posted July 16, 2020 Posted July 16, 2020 6 minutes ago, brokengirl85 said: You’re right. Thanks! Don't get all caught up and throw all your eggs in one basket. What helps me and might not help you is that everyone is looking for the same thing. It's not a good idea to go into dating with expectations or feelings. Let it go, dust yourself off, and try again.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 8 hours ago, brokengirl85 said: I wonder if he was just being nice and followed my game because he didn’t want to let me down but when I became more flirty he backed up as he wasn’t really interested. I think the major factor here is that he has moved away now. He's probably got new people and new activities on his mind, and this was bound to fade out sooner or later as he starts this new part of his life. Now is that time.
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 19, 2020 Author Posted July 19, 2020 Hello, I might need tour advice again. He has replied to my naughty message from Monday (6 days ago). He replied with playful comments and expressing his desire to continue the correspondence. Im not sure what to do. I’m not sure what took him so long to reply. He’s delay and lack of communication for 7 days made me feel inadequate, like I said something wrong expressing my sexual desires. id appreciate some suggestions on how to continue this. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted July 20, 2020 Posted July 20, 2020 Your are not inadequate. You are however not a priority to him. He toys with you when he's bored & you let him Stick up for yourself by walking away from him 1
smackie9 Posted July 21, 2020 Posted July 21, 2020 (edited) You said you just wanted to talk with him....now you are disappointed he may not be interested in you. This is just a simple flirtation to past the time. I suspect he went silent because he was dating. If he does end up visiting you, it's just for a one night stand. He is not interested in a relationship. Like D0nnivain has said, interested men will lock you down before anyone else does. He's just goofing around, might get laid, and he isn't going to invest. Edited July 21, 2020 by smackie9
ExpatInItaly Posted July 21, 2020 Posted July 21, 2020 On 7/20/2020 at 12:15 AM, brokengirl85 said: Im not sure what to do. I’m not sure what took him so long to reply. He’s delay and lack of communication for 7 days made me feel inadequate, like I said something wrong expressing my sexual desires. That's not it. The problem is that he fills his down-time with you. You're who he talks to when he's bored or wants his ego stroked; you're not the girl he's prioritizing. There could be another woman he's been communicating with more frequently, for all you know. In any case, it's evident that his feelings aren't involved, so he's up for a little no-strings fun if you are. But given that his long silence is triggering this reaction in you, I would not keep it going. He's not interested enough to reply more promptly, so it's largely a waste of your time. It's sexting but that's about it. 1
Redhead14 Posted July 22, 2020 Posted July 22, 2020 (edited) On 7/19/2020 at 6:15 PM, brokengirl85 said: Hello, I might need tour advice again. He has replied to my naughty message from Monday (6 days ago). He replied with playful comments and expressing his desire to continue the correspondence. Im not sure what to do. I’m not sure what took him so long to reply. He’s delay and lack of communication for 7 days made me feel inadequate, like I said something wrong expressing my sexual desires. id appreciate some suggestions on how to continue this. Thanks If this guy were truly interested in you, you'd know it. A guy who is interested in a woman doesn't drop off for 7 days. He responded to the "naughty" message, because he was bored and horny and looking for a little entertainment. It doesn't mean you're inadequate. It just means he's only in the market for sexting/sex Period. "I contacted him after a long period of no contact. We know each other and have had a sporadic relationship in the past, nothing serious" - History is simply repeating itself. The definition of insanity is doing the same things over again, expecting different results. Stop communicating with him in any way and move forward. Block, delete, forget, forever. Edited July 22, 2020 by Redhead14
N0TH1N6L3FT Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 On 7/16/2020 at 12:39 PM, brokengirl85 said: Today he visited my online profile, that’s another thing that makes me clueless Sounds like his wife finally hacked his account.
dangerous Posted July 23, 2020 Posted July 23, 2020 wow 7 days and replied to sexting! I'd just block him and move on.
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