Author amaysngrace Posted July 17, 2020 Author Posted July 17, 2020 I’m not considering him as an option. I feel very badly for him that I’m the reason he’s all messed up right now but I don’t see why I should be with him out of sympathy. I don’t see how that could end well. Besides I don’t want to be with him. He brought up taking me to go do archery but really that ship has sailed. The place opened up a couple weeks before we broke up, if he wanted to take me he had time to. I’m not a priority for him but now he’d have you believing I'm his whole world if you asked him.
Realitysux Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 (edited) 3 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: I’m not considering him as an option. I feel very badly for him that I’m the reason he’s all messed up right now but I don’t see why I should be with him out of sympathy. I don’t see how that could end well. Besides I don’t want to be with him. He brought up taking me to go do archery but really that ship has sailed. The place opened up a couple weeks before we broke up, if he wanted to take me he had time to. I’m not a priority for him but now he’d have you believing I'm his whole world if you asked him. In dating it is best to be able to read people if you want me to he honest. You should learn that some people need more forward communication then others. It seems like you have strung this man along for attention which ultimately caused him to hold on. Let the guy go and drop the conversation about him. Move on and if where you're at is fun with men, go have fun. Edited July 17, 2020 by Realitysux
rjc149 Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 (edited) OP believes the 1st BF is selfish because he didn't give her a disclaimer about an embarrassing medical condition he has, and hasn't yet gotten it fixed for her. While, of course, she's dating BF #2, who is a really great boyfriend because he's got a Harley and some toys she can play with. And that time he cheated on his girlfriend with her, while she watched, in what was probably an emotionally traumatizing experience for her? Ahh, good times! Lol! Although I'm a little too sickened by this thread to offer her advice, I do admire her honesty. She's got balls to lay her cards on the table like this. Even on the internet. Edited July 17, 2020 by rjc149 2
Mrin Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 19 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: I’m not stringing him along. I broke up with him last week. He texted me a bunch and I ignored them. So what does he do? Shows up at my house at dinnertime on my daughters birthday wanting me to talk. I texted him that it was her birthday, can he please just leave and that took like ten minutes before he finally pulled out of the driveway. I don’t know how much more clearer to be. Creepy! Bullet you dodged there me thinks. 1
Realitysux Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: I don’t even know why I’m responding to your bitterness but to say yes there was a miscommunication although an apology probably won’t be forthcoming from you. I said I enjoy his company because it’s comforting to be with someone who you know well and knows you so well because there’s a history of friendship. So it’s not all about his money or his cool toys. I like him. I wouldn’t be with him otherwise. There's nothing wrong with any of your posts if they were infact true. It's just I was suffering and trying to move on from someone who rejected me and you rubbed it on my face but to be honest, I wouldn't sleep with someone who had a deformed penis either. I wouldn't post about it but you didn't do anything wrong! Edited July 17, 2020 by Realitysux
Author amaysngrace Posted July 17, 2020 Author Posted July 17, 2020 (edited) 57 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said: RJC isn't trying to call you names or try to hurt your feelings, he is sharing his opinion with you. I happen to agree with him. rjc has been completely rude and insulting towards me and if you agree with him I’m probably correct in my assessment of him since you admitted this thread triggered you as well, so it’s really no wonder why you two see eye to eye. But to your credit, I’m so glad I broke up with my bf. Just this little bit of hostility really opens my eyes to what I’d have endured had I stayed with him so thanks. Edited July 17, 2020 by amaysngrace
rjc149 Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 (edited) 21 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: I don’t even know why I’m responding to your bitterness but to say yes there was a miscommunication although an apology probably won’t be forthcoming from you. I said I enjoy his company because it’s comforting to be with someone who you know well and knows you so well because there’s a history of friendship. So it’s not all about his money or his cool toys. I like him. I wouldn’t be with him otherwise. Maybe some things weren't communicated effectively, but maybe some things are a genuine reflection of your selfish approach to relationships. Like, a guy with a deformed penis. This is clearly going to be something that he's self-conscious and sensitive about. It's clearly something that has caused him pain in the past. But, according to you, he's wasting your time by not giving you a disclaimer. It's his fault. You want him to get it fixed for you. You want him to undergo an expensive, painful, and potentially scary surgical procedure -- for you. To show you how much you mean to him. While you're f--king another guy. So, you can simply conclude that I'm bitter and triggered at my own deformed penis (lol), you know, "whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you, nah nah nah." Or you can try to digest the feedback you're getting, from several posters, who are disgusted by your callousness and the "me me me me me" attitude about your self-constructed problem. It's not about being rude or insulting for it's own sake. This is narcissistic behavior and I'm calling a spade a spade. You don't like it? You don't have to. But no, you're not entitled to an apology. Edited July 17, 2020 by rjc149 2
lurker74 Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 I don't mean this as criticism, @amaysngrace but you remind me of ever Jersey Shore girl I've ever known and the two I've dated. You like two guys. Pros for guy #1 is he's good looking and firends. Cons for guy #2 is he's too nice and his penis sucks. The penis thing is completely reasonable but to be worried about. Guy #2 pros: he spends his money on toys and is OK with cheating on women. Cons are, well, not sure you listed any. So what you want is a hot guy with toys for a little while, because clearly he's not going to stay with you or, likely, you with him. But given this, I would say your attitude that guy #1 did something wrong by not getting things fixed FOR YOU is a bit much. I would guess he will get things fixed for the right girl...it's just the right girl isn't you. And although this is a broad brush, I've had extensive experience with JS girls when I was living out east. There's something cultural about the area that breeds a me-first attitude in both the men and women. And yet I cannot recall ever meeting anyone over the age of 35 and under the age of 75 that was romantically happy. Oh, many of them had lots of sex and loved to barbecue but happiness was not nearly as common as spray tans and roller coasters.
rjc149 Posted July 17, 2020 Posted July 17, 2020 7 minutes ago, lurker74 said: I don't mean this as criticism, @amaysngrace but you remind me of ever Jersey Shore girl I've ever known and the two I've dated. You like two guys. Pros for guy #1 is he's good looking and firends. Cons for guy #2 is he's too nice and his penis sucks. The penis thing is completely reasonable but to be worried about. Guy #2 pros: he spends his money on toys and is OK with cheating on women. Cons are, well, not sure you listed any. So what you want is a hot guy with toys for a little while, because clearly he's not going to stay with you or, likely, you with him. But given this, I would say your attitude that guy #1 did something wrong by not getting things fixed FOR YOU is a bit much. I would guess he will get things fixed for the right girl...it's just the right girl isn't you. And although this is a broad brush, I've had extensive experience with JS girls when I was living out east. There's something cultural about the area that breeds a me-first attitude in both the men and women. And yet I cannot recall ever meeting anyone over the age of 35 and under the age of 75 that was romantically happy. Oh, many of them had lots of sex and loved to barbecue but happiness was not nearly as common as spray tans and roller coasters. I'm from New Jersey. Hudson County, not down the shore but there's a contingent of that element up here. I think her 'me me me' attitude is more symptomatic of her generation, not her geographic place of origin. True, there is a stereotype of the "me first, I don't GAF about anyone else" that is prevalent in Italian-American NYC-area culture. But I think the vagina is so worshiped and coveted by men in our sex-obsessed society these days, that young women have massively inflated senses of their own worth and entitlement. 1
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