SumGuy Posted July 11, 2020 Posted July 11, 2020 @amaysngrace I do love speed and acceleration...he should try a Tesla S. Better acceleration and eerily quite...it's surreal to go so fast without engine sound. It also corners like a dream. 2
Author amaysngrace Posted July 11, 2020 Author Posted July 11, 2020 35 minutes ago, SumGuy said: @amaysngrace I do love speed and acceleration...he should try a Tesla S. Better acceleration and eerily quite...it's surreal to go so fast without engine sound. It also corners like a dream. sweet! but I like the rumble of the old school american made motor best 1
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 7 hours ago, amaysngrace said: So I have a date with guy #2 tonight, he’s cooking dinner for me. He’s the one I slept with once when I was 17 and he was 20 and he’s from the town our summer house was at. I slept with him because I didn’t want to get a reputation back home plus I really wanted to. First we had sex in the beanbag chair then we had sex in the shower while his gf banged on the window peering in. Good memories. He came and picked me up on his Harley and I went and broke my vegetarian diet with him by sharing a cheesesteak. He also just got a hellcat and that thing is smokin’ hot. 707 hp baby! He also has a couple jet skis, a boat, a camper, like four trucks, a Jeep Wrangler and he wants to cook for me. How could I possibly say no?? Why don't you just get those things yourself
Author amaysngrace Posted July 12, 2020 Author Posted July 12, 2020 5 hours ago, Realitysux said: Why don't you just get those things yourself Because I don’t want them I just want the man I’m with to have them. Men love toys and as long as I can drive sometimes I’m good, like when it’s their turn to drink 1
basil67 Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, amaysngrace said: He should of just got it fixed if I meant that much to him, right? Did you ever discuss whether he'd seen a doctor and what the doctor had said? If not, it's wise to not presume what he would have been thinking or feeling and whether or not it wax fixable. Edited July 12, 2020 by basil67 2
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 7 hours ago, amaysngrace said: Because I don’t want them I just want the man I’m with to have them. Men love toys and as long as I can drive sometimes I’m good, like when it’s their turn to drink Kudos 1 1
Author amaysngrace Posted July 12, 2020 Author Posted July 12, 2020 7 hours ago, basil67 said: Did you ever discuss whether he'd seen a doctor and what the doctor had said? If not, it's wise to not presume what he would have been thinking or feeling and whether or not it wax fixable. He said he needed to go to the doctors more than once. I’m not sure for what. I’ll presume it was for that since he’s an otherwise healthy guy. Too bad he never got to whatever doctor he needed to see though. He had plenty of time.
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 5 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: He said he needed to go to the doctors more than once. I’m not sure for what. I’ll presume it was for that since he’s an otherwise healthy guy. Too bad he never got to whatever doctor he needed to see though. He had plenty of time. Honestly, sometimes it takes more then a feeling to make changes for another person. A feeling is just a feeling and without appropriate actions, it's a waste of time and given your responses and the type of person you appear to be for writing about someone like your above them, he probably didn't want to satisfy you enough to see the Dr.
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 8 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: He said he needed to go to the doctors more than once. I’m not sure for what. I’ll presume it was for that since he’s an otherwise healthy guy. Too bad he never got to whatever doctor he needed to see though. He had plenty of time. In fact this guy from your old job needs to understand what type of person you are for not enabling someone with medical issues to properly heal and move on. I didn't ask for the feelings. I didn't want them.
Author amaysngrace Posted July 12, 2020 Author Posted July 12, 2020 10 minutes ago, Realitysux said: Honestly, sometimes it takes more then a feeling to make changes for another person. A feeling is just a feeling and without appropriate actions, it's a waste of time and given your responses and the type of person you appear to be for writing about someone like your above them, he probably didn't want to satisfy you enough to see the Dr. He was selfish for asking me out in the first place and wasting my time. I’m not above him, I just don’t want to waste my time catching feelings for someone who wasn’t upfront about his condition. All he said was he wanted to be friends which is fine but then don’t kiss me like we’re more than that. I felt bad when I did that to him, kissing him and hugging him like I was okay with his condition when I really wasn’t which is why I ended it. I’m not the deceptive one here. He is. 1
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 6 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: He was selfish for asking me out in the first place and wasting my time. I’m not above him, I just don’t want to waste my time catching feelings for someone who wasn’t upfront about his condition. All he said was he wanted to be friends which is fine but then don’t kiss me like we’re more than that. I felt bad when I did that to him, kissing him and hugging him like I was okay with his condition when I really wasn’t which is why I ended it. I’m not the deceptive one here. He is. You play games like I'm an idiot and that's fine and I don't care. The damage happened for 7 years so it's done now. You played to close to the end. Sorry you missed out
Author amaysngrace Posted July 12, 2020 Author Posted July 12, 2020 Oh and let’s not forget how he blew me off the entire night before and the entire day that we had planned for me to stay at his house rather than tell me he had this problem. He let me think he wasn’t into me anymore rather than being honest. My heart hurt bad for him doing that and he was okay with it, with doing that to me. Totally selfish. 1
Realitysux Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 2 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: Oh and let’s not forget how he blew me off the entire night before and the entire day that we had planned for me to stay at his house rather than tell me he had this problem. He let me think he wasn’t into me anymore rather than being honest. My heart hurt bad for him doing that and he was okay with it, with doing that to me. Totally selfish. So there are other things in life that take priority over a relationship and maybe he didn't want to make you a priority. Maybe he just wanted to end it and move on in peace and quiet with some distance and privacy from you. Maybe he wants to move on and needs distance to do that. Maybe it's too late and games were played and it destroyed someone and they need space to move on from it. Give them space and find someone else. Don't rub it in their face and act like you are a friend 7 years after the damage.
Author amaysngrace Posted July 12, 2020 Author Posted July 12, 2020 3 minutes ago, Realitysux said: Don't rub it in their face and act like you are a friend 7 years after the damage. What is this 7 year thing you keep saying? I didn’t even know him 7 years ago.
FMW Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 15 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: I’m not the deceptive one here. He is. I think that's probably a little harsh. You don't have to feel bad about breaking it off with him, but I wouldn't be so hard on him. Who knows what was in his mind. But if things were going to get sexual he definitely should have been open about the issue and also discussed whether things might change. Since it doesn't sound like there was much conversation about the issue it's hard to know what his intentions were. If you were seeing the other guy at the same time, it doesn't sound like you were too deeply invested in him yet. I hope things with the one you're seeing now turns out well. 1 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 On 7/12/2020 at 6:56 AM, Realitysux said: Honestly, sometimes it takes more then a feeling to make changes for another person. A feeling is just a feeling and without appropriate actions, it's a waste of time and given your responses and the type of person you appear to be for writing about someone like your above them, he probably didn't want to satisfy you enough to see the Dr. Yeah, but it's so weird that it doesn't bother *him*...
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 On 7/12/2020 at 7:25 AM, amaysngrace said: Oh and let’s not forget how he blew me off the entire night before and the entire day that we had planned for me to stay at his house rather than tell me he had this problem. He let me think he wasn’t into me anymore rather than being honest. My heart hurt bad for him doing that and he was okay with it, with doing that to me. Totally selfish. As much as I feel bad for him, this was pretty cruel on his part. 1
Author amaysngrace Posted July 14, 2020 Author Posted July 14, 2020 thank you @CaliforniaGirl i thought it was pretty awful of him too but it kind of sucks because I don’t want a relationship with him if we can’t sex but really it’s more to it than that. he’s boring, he’s okay I guess but he works a TON and he dies the same thing all the time, everything I said i wanted to do with him he turned down because his shoulder would hurt or he doesn’t like water or he never tried something before so doesn’t know how, he wasn’t willing to do anything with me that I wanted to do except he said he would try archery over at the gun range but that took major coercing in my part so it’s not just a sex thing it was everything. plus he’s a chauvinist which my friend jen calls a misogynist. still not sure if that’s correct but he would interrupt me when I was speaking, crap like that.
Realitysux Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 2 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: thank you @CaliforniaGirl i thought it was pretty awful of him too but it kind of sucks because I don’t want a relationship with him if we can’t sex but really it’s more to it than that. he’s boring, he’s okay I guess but he works a TON and he dies the same thing all the time, everything I said i wanted to do with him he turned down because his shoulder would hurt or he doesn’t like water or he never tried something before so doesn’t know how, he wasn’t willing to do anything with me that I wanted to do except he said he would try archery over at the gun range but that took major coercing in my part so it’s not just a sex thing it was everything. plus he’s a chauvinist which my friend jen calls a misogynist. still not sure if that’s correct but he would interrupt me when I was speaking, crap like that. I interrupt when I feel anxiety and I feel anxiety of I'm talking to anyone associated to the guy I used to work with but became obsessed with. Other then that, I'm pretty cool. I wanted this guy so bad, more then I wanted anyone and the constant rejection made me flipping crazy. I assume everyone is talking about him and just went nuts. I can't even sleep because I want to be unstuck so bad.
Backinthesaddleagain Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 On 7/11/2020 at 9:56 AM, amaysngrace said: So I have a date with guy #2 tonight, he’s cooking dinner for me. He’s the one I slept with once when I was 17 and he was 20 and he’s from the town our summer house was at. I slept with him because I didn’t want to get a reputation back home plus I really wanted to. First we had sex in the beanbag chair then we had sex in the shower while his gf banged on the window peering in. Good memories. He came and picked me up on his Harley and I went and broke my vegetarian diet with him by sharing a cheesesteak. He also just got a hellcat and that thing is smokin’ hot. 707 hp baby! He also has a couple jet skis, a boat, a camper, like four trucks, a Jeep Wrangler and he wants to cook for me. How could I possibly say no?? This guy cheated on his GF with you and she saw you two banging in the shower? Not sure why you think this is a good memory. Sounds awkward and hurtful for all parties involved, and possibly a sign of behavior to come. It sounds like you really like material possessions... I would try to find someone that I really like and not worry about what they own. Maybe a guy with a normal penis that doesn't cheat on his girlfriends would be a good start for you. On 7/11/2020 at 10:29 PM, amaysngrace said: Because I don’t want them I just want the man I’m with to have them. Men love toys and as long as I can drive sometimes I’m good, like when it’s their turn to drink Again, you sound like a gold digger. Cringey. On 7/12/2020 at 7:10 AM, amaysngrace said: He was selfish for asking me out in the first place and wasting my time. I’m not above him, I just don’t want to waste my time catching feelings for someone who wasn’t upfront about his condition. All he said was he wanted to be friends which is fine but then don’t kiss me like we’re more than that. I felt bad when I did that to him, kissing him and hugging him like I was okay with his condition when I really wasn’t which is why I ended it. I’m not the deceptive one here. He is. What did you want him to do? Shake your hand and say "hey, I have a crooked pee pee. wanna go on a date"??? You sound delusional, and I am really surprised no one else here has called you out on your behavior. On 7/7/2020 at 6:43 PM, amaysngrace said: I see it being an insult because we’ve been hanging out since March and he didn’t get it fixed yet. Plus he knew I wanted sex. I was more passionate about it than he was and one time I wanted to spend the night and he blew me off the night before and the day of our tentative plans. I was so happy it was finally going to happen and he blew me off and made me sad rather than let me see him naked. And now I’m being the exact shallow person he was afraid I was by trying to keep me from seeing his dick. I think I need to be done with him and move on to the next one more or maybe just be alone or something. Maybe he is scared to have someone work on his junk with a knife? Have you had any surgeries? Sometimes things go wrong and that is one organ I wouldn't want the Dr. to make a mistake on. What if it gets straightened and "fixed", but he loses sensation and can't orgasm? I think you are only seeing things from your side and are being incredibly selfish. On 7/11/2020 at 9:30 AM, amaysngrace said: He should of just got it fixed if I meant that much to him, right? Not unless you expressed how important this is to you, which it didn't sound like you did. You just avoided it altogether and then blamed him when he didn't read your mind. How long were you together, since March??? That's only 4 months!!!!!! If someone started dating me and within a few months told me I needed to get something "fixed" I would kindly show her the door, with gusto. Unless it was something causing painful sex, then you should talk to the person about it and see what can be done. Of course all of this doesn't matter if you don't care about this guy- which it sounds like you don't. Yes, you are shallow and you sound like an entitled brat. What if a man told you he couldn't be with you unless you got a boob job? How would that make you feel? Sorry to be so triggered, but no one else said anything and I thought I'd help you out. Good luck 5
Author amaysngrace Posted July 14, 2020 Author Posted July 14, 2020 (edited) Both guys saw the girls and both were more than okay with them. The time the one guy cheated on his gf was when we were younger. I was 17 and he was like 19 or 20 and we only had sex that one day. We’d both been partying that day together and it sorta just happened but we were friends for like five or six years before that so I probably knew him better than she did realistically. But if you want to judge me for my actions that one day when I was a teenager be my guest. Edited July 14, 2020 by amaysngrace
Backinthesaddleagain Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 12 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: Both guys saw the girls and both were more than okay with them. The time the one guy cheated on his gf was when we were younger. I was 17 and he was like 19 or 20 and we only had sex that one day. We’d both been partying that day together and it sorta just happened but we were friends for like five or six years before that so I probably knew him better than she did realistically. But if you want to judge me for my actions that one day when I was a teenager be my guest. I can only judge you based on what you write. My responses are not meant to attack you, but to get you thinking. #1- The fact that your first response is about your boobs and how nothing is wrong with them is concerning. This isn't about your boobs, it's about how you look at and treat people! The boob reference was just a hypothetical to get you to look at things from someone else's perspective. #2- The fact that your trying to validate and justify the sexual episode you had so many years ago is also very alarming. Who cares if you "knew" him better than she did? She was his GF, not you. "It just sorta happened"= LIE. Things never just "sort of happen"... Re-read the rest of my responses again. You sound like you are young and immature, and we have all been there. Take some time to analyze yourself and maybe you can learn and grow from all of this. 2
Author amaysngrace Posted July 14, 2020 Author Posted July 14, 2020 3 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said: I can only judge you based on what you write. My responses are not meant to attack you, but to get you thinking. Re-read the rest of my responses again. You sound like you are young and immature, and we have all been there. Take some time to analyze yourself and maybe you can learn and grow from all of this. You’re totally attacking me by that last paragraph as proof not to mention you admittedly say this thread has you triggered. Maybe you ought to check yourself before projecting on me.
Backinthesaddleagain Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 9 minutes ago, amaysngrace said: You’re totally attacking me by that last paragraph as proof not to mention you admittedly say this thread has you triggered. Maybe you ought to check yourself before projecting on me. Ok. Good luck with your love life AG. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 (edited) It's not shallow to want a functional sexual relationship with your romantic partner. If he's not willing to have surgery to improve his condition, and he wants to be with a woman who still has a sex drive, he's going to have to get creative with alternative ideas - toys, oral, etc. I have no experience with anything like this, but from my limited experience with men with ED issues and things I've read, it seems that most men have major issues around any kind of sexual malfunctioning - denial, avoidance, guilt, blame, just a whole bunch of heavy, burdensome stuff that naturally no woman wants to deal with. It's totally natural for you to be repelled by all that. As for the other guy, though you were teenagers when it happened, it does strike me as concerning that your only sexual encounter with him was him cheating on his girlfriend with you. Character doesn't change much throughout life, from what I've seen. And I agree you seem fixated on all his "toys." It sounds like you just want to have some fun with him, which is your prerogative. Edited July 14, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 4
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