caputo77 Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 I (24F) met a guy (25M) on bumble last week. We had some good text conversation going for a few days, then he asked me out for a drink. Due to the covid situation, I’ve been trying to vet guys via FaceTime before meeting up with them in person so I asked him if he’d be willing to do a video call first before planning an in-person date. He understood, agreed, and immediately moved on setting a day and time for the video call. Two nights ago we had the call and it went pretty well! We talked for about two hours and at the end he told me he’d really like to meet me in person and asked if I’d feel comfortable with that after our call. I felt enough of a connection that I said yes and he seemed enthusiastic about it and said we could text to set it up. Overall, he seemed pretty genuinely interested in me. The next day, he texted me and we were flirting back and forth for a little while until he just stopped answering. No mention of setting up a day to grab a drink. Since the last thing I’d said didn’t really require an answer I didn’t think too much about it and figured he’d text me again today and try to set something up. But now I haven’t heard from him at all today and I’m feeling antsy. I really would like to meet him in person in the next couple of days because I’ll basically be out of commission for the next two weeks as I have to travel out of state and quarantine upon returning. I told him this on the call and that’s when he said we could text to set up a plan before then. I’m not sure if the best move is to just go for it and ask him to meet up for a drink, initiate a text with him to see if he leads it in that direction, or just assume he’s not that interested until he initiates with me again. I just don’t want to lead myself on if he’s not that into it. Thoughts?
CaliforniaGirl Posted July 12, 2020 Posted July 12, 2020 Why not give it a shot? Text him, tell him you'd love to grab that drink this week...say Wed at 9? (Or whatever.) Have a date and time, otherwise it will be ambiguous. He'll say yes or no and then you'll know. 1
snowboy91 Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 Best to try and initiate, and then you'll know with more certainty whether he's interested or not. It's less painful than making assumptions IMO.
mortensorchid Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 I'd send a follow up text or just a "Hi how are you? Hope you're good". If he doesn't respond, then that's your answer. 2
Velvet teddy Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 12 hours ago, caputo77 said: I (24F) met a guy (25M) on bumble last week. We had some good text conversation going for a few days, then he asked me out for a drink. Due to the covid situation, I’ve been trying to vet guys via FaceTime before meeting up with them in person so I asked him if he’d be willing to do a video call first before planning an in-person date. He understood, agreed, and immediately moved on setting a day and time for the video call. Two nights ago we had the call and it went pretty well! We talked for about two hours and at the end he told me he’d really like to meet me in person and asked if I’d feel comfortable with that after our call. I felt enough of a connection that I said yes and he seemed enthusiastic about it and said we could text to set it up. Overall, he seemed pretty genuinely interested in me. The next day, he texted me and we were flirting back and forth for a little while until he just stopped answering. No mention of setting up a day to grab a drink. Since the last thing I’d said didn’t really require an answer I didn’t think too much about it and figured he’d text me again today and try to set something up. But now I haven’t heard from him at all today and I’m feeling antsy. I really would like to meet him in person in the next couple of days because I’ll basically be out of commission for the next two weeks as I have to travel out of state and quarantine upon returning. I told him this on the call and that’s when he said we could text to set up a plan before then. I’m not sure if the best move is to just go for it and ask him to meet up for a drink, initiate a text with him to see if he leads it in that direction, or just assume he’s not that interested until he initiates with me again. I just don’t want to lead myself on if he’s not that into it. Thoughts? Contact him if you want to meet
smackie9 Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 It's not a date, it's just to meet up....ask him if he is free to grab a drink for an hour.
ShyViolet Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 I don't see any reason why you should assume he's not interested. You last texted with him yesterday..? Just tell him that you'd like to meet up and see what he says.
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2020 Posted July 13, 2020 I think he thinks you are not interested. You required the video call. You didn't steer the texts to meeting & you planted the seeds about you being out of commission. Instead of make him use the laboring oar, put both of you out of your misery by suggesting a date / time. Initiating is still better then limbo. 1
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