Ruby Slippers Posted July 14, 2020 Posted July 14, 2020 This is why it's so important to give yourself plenty of time to heal and let go of any bitterness before trying to date again. In my last round of dating, it was so easy to identify the time wasters and I was cool as a cucumber about ruling them out. No matter how lame, gross, or weird their come-on, I just gave a simple "no, thanks, and good luck to you" or deleted and blocked with zero emotion about it. My only feeling about it was gratitude that they made it so easy and clear they weren't worth any consideration. 1
Author girlnextdoor2020 Posted July 14, 2020 Author Posted July 14, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, dangerous said: Now I am going to be controversial.. To the OP, and some who have agreed about saying that the men didn't have the courtesy to read and take on board her morning availability statement: I do feel, in isolation, this is not a big deal at all, and that seeing problems here is over-reacting: as an online dater, until I meet and start a relationship, I have no investment or responsibility to you, and you have no right to make demands on me. OLD is fundamentally a numbers game and should be taken light-heartedly. It is when you meet that real life takes over. If you are upset, angry, feel entitled to anything other than common decency, then you are not in the right mindset for OLD, at least not at the current time, in your current mindset. I agree that I am not in the right mindset to date (yet) as I am still getting over my last break up and some things hit me harder than they should. That's why I am taking a break from OLD. But... and having said that, I also have to say that you're right these guys have no investment or responsibility to me and I have no right to make demands, but if you look into it, THEY ASKED me when can I meet and when I said in the morning they said is fine. So, they have at least the responsibility of listening to what people respond to THEIR questions. Edited July 14, 2020 by girlnextdoor2020
Author girlnextdoor2020 Posted July 14, 2020 Author Posted July 14, 2020 15 minutes ago, Ruby Slippers said: This is why it's so important to give yourself plenty of time to heal and let go of any bitterness before trying to date again. In my last round of dating, it was so easy to identify the time wasters and I was cool as a cucumber about ruling them out. No matter how lame, gross, or weird their come-on, I just gave a simple "no, thanks, and good luck to you" or deleted and blocked with zero emotion about it. My only feeling about it was gratitude that they made it so easy and clear they weren't worth any consideration. Totally agree. But if I haven't had these OLD experiences I wouldn't have known how hurt I still am from my break-up, so it was good to show me that, and now I am taking a break to focus on myself, heal and get positive again about dating. That's my goal, go back into dating and even OLD cool as a cucumber, zero emotion about what strangers tell me online. When I get to that point, I'll go back on OLD. 2
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