RW M Posted July 10, 2020 Posted July 10, 2020 Hi guys, I started a thread a few months ago about a barmaid at my local pub (link above, if it works!) I thought she may have shown an interest before the lockdown but then obviously the pubs were shut for months so I didn't see her for a while. Anyway, I saw her for first time since this week. Had a brief chat with her, asked her how lockdown went and established she lives on her own so sounds like she's single. Problem is I can't stop thinking about her now.(I'm a pretty low confidence guy, not much experience). I feel like I need closure on this before I start obsessing too much about her (which may already be happening). I'm starting to think I read too much into her supposed interest, she is someone who talks to regulars a lot. But just think I need closure on this one way or the other. Sadly I can't find her on social media so can't find any other avenues than seeing her at the pub. Any tips on the best way to find out for sure? Would feel weird in the pub setting to just ask her out. Cheers guys.
Erik30 Posted July 10, 2020 Posted July 10, 2020 25 minutes ago, RW M said: established she lives on her own so sounds like she's single. Why would that mean she's single? She could easily have a boyfriend, they just don't live together. You could mention "her boyfriend" next time you're talking with her. If she says she doesn't have one, you'll at least know that for sure and she will probably assume you're interested. The way that she might say it could tell you a lot 3
Author RW M Posted July 10, 2020 Author Posted July 10, 2020 23 minutes ago, Erik30 said: Why would that mean she's single? She could easily have a boyfriend, they just don't live together. You could mention "her boyfriend" next time you're talking with her. If she says she doesn't have one, you'll at least know that for sure and she will probably assume you're interested. The way that she might say it could tell you a lot True. I should've said 'might be single'. Not a bad suggestion. Feel like I may have given something away asking if she lives alone. She didn't make eye contact answering, though I'm probably over-analysing.
kendahke Posted July 11, 2020 Posted July 11, 2020 3 hours ago, RW M said: She didn't make eye contact answering, She probably picked up on the vibe that you were trying to suss her out and she might not date customers at the pub... and like was earlier mentioned in your other thread, she was more than likely being friendly because it's her job to be nice to the customers. If you want to know, the the most direct way of finding out is to ask her the next time you see her at the pub. Be prepared for her to tell you she doesn't date customers at the bar. 1
Author RW M Posted July 11, 2020 Author Posted July 11, 2020 7 hours ago, kendahke said: She probably picked up on the vibe that you were trying to suss her out and she might not date customers at the pub... and like was earlier mentioned in your other thread, she was more than likely being friendly because it's her job to be nice to the customers. If you want to know, the the most direct way of finding out is to ask her the next time you see her at the pub. Be prepared for her to tell you she doesn't date customers at the bar. Cheers, think you're right. If I'm honest, I think I liked the idea of her liking me rather than actually liking her. And if she diesn't like me there's no reason for me to dwell on hr anymore. I suspect I've already found out what I needed to know, no point in making things awkward in my weekly local.
d0nnivain Posted July 11, 2020 Posted July 11, 2020 She probably does chat with the locals. That doesn't mean she wants to date her customers. When a woman in the hospitality business wants to take it farther then professional flirting in pursuit of a tip she will communicate that very clearly to a customer. It will sound something like "I get off at midnight. Why don't you take me out to breakfast?" Absent that she's not interested & you will make things awkward by asking for more then she's willing to give so she has to gently shoot you down. For now, enjoy the flirting at the local pub but don't push for more. 2
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