Realitysux Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 (edited) In February this guy had a few people connect with me and told me to let go and move on so I did. He kept writing to me and I was responding since February and now that it's over, I feel sick. I'm at work and keeping busy but he keeps checking in which I asked him not to cause I want to completely heal and move on. Any tips on how to move on from such a prolonged rejection. Most men would just leave you alone but he was stringing me along for a long time and I didn't block him because I didn't see the point if he rejected me. I do not care about him and have moved on. Would like him to leave too. Edited July 10, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
Author Realitysux Posted July 10, 2020 Author Share Posted July 10, 2020 Pretty dangerous obsession that was fed. A lot of people comment and give advice but it doesn't reflect real life opinions which is why I initially stayed to the coping forum. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 10, 2020 Share Posted July 10, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, Realitysux said: Any tips on how to move on from such a prolonged rejection. I didn't block him because I didn't see the point if he rejected me. The thing is, while he did reject you, he's still batting your feelings around like a cat with a mouse. You're the one being played with--no one else. Stop being his boredom reliever. Block his number and block him on any social media so he can't contact you or creep on your social media, liking stuff cryptically. The longer you avoid blocking him, the more you give yourself hope and get hooked into pining for the next time he contacts you. That feeds something inside of you and that part of you needs to be starved into oblivion. When you take the initiative to nail the door shut, you know that you will not be hearing from him because you made that decision and took that action--IOW: you took responsibility for your own mental and emotional well being. You didn't leave it up to someone else to handle because it's not their heavy lift to manage. Edited July 10, 2020 by kendahke Link to post Share on other sites
Author Realitysux Posted July 10, 2020 Author Share Posted July 10, 2020 (edited) I guess I have to accept the tough love and that everyone was most likely right. I hate admitting that. It was so prolonged and it affected my world in Kitchener. I was humiliated and rejected and almost cornered. I am not going to lie, I have some work to do moving past this but I'm also relieved it's over. I'll give no contact a go and accept that it was a rejection. I thought by making them leave then I can feel a bit more better about myself around these other men but I shouldn't be focused on men right now. Instead of blaming him for rejecting me and feeding my obsession, I should find out why I allowed myself to be obsessed for that long. I'm at work and should focus. I like the work. Edited July 10, 2020 by Realitysux Link to post Share on other sites
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