Hot Coco Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 How would you take this email? All replies are welcome. Sure appreciate it! "Listen, why don't we just take a break from this? This way, you won't feel obligated to do anything. And I won't get my feelings hurt. It's a win-win situation! I love it. So, please don't give this another thought. All is well. Not too worry. Take care."
legrtova Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 I would need to know more background on that...what led you two to this point? But overall to me it sounds like he is backing out.... Is he emotionally unavailable? (hence the comment about his feelings)
Author Hot Coco Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 No, I wrote it. I wanted an unbiased reply which was why I didn't post more info. But I wrote it meaning to break the news gently that I was indeed breaking it off. Was I too subtle? Because the reply I got back from him said he'd sleep on it and that we'd decide together. Am I missing something? And yes, I wrote it because I feel he is emotionally unavailable. Runs hot and cold.
legrtova Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 You offered him a chance to take control. Now he is in power (I will sleep on it). If you wanna break it off, you should just tell him that. Men need answers nice and clear:) If he says he doesn't want to take a break, what are you gonna do then? Good luck
Author Hot Coco Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 But you said you took that to mean that I was backing off. So how did I give him control? I guess you're saying it was too wishy-washy and I should have been more direct. Well, I'm not answering his email back to me. You think THEN that might get the message across? Thanks for your help!
legrtova Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 I thought he sent it to you. It applies both ways...but my point was that if you want to break up with him, you should tell him. Prefferably in person or over the phone if you don't want to see him. If it was short-term, phone would do. If you were together for a long time, it would be respectful to talk face-to-face. You need to know what you want out of this. If you really REALLY want to break up, or are you just trying to see if he is gonna come back begging to stay together. Are you expecting him to change to stay together? His reply seemed a bit cold, I don't think he will be too hurt if you just tell him. You not replying might just tell him that you are waiting for him to 'sleep on it', not that it's over. Just my opinion. I really don't know enough about your situation to make a judgment. Good luck!
Author Hot Coco Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 Ok, I think you're right. I'll reply and be more clear. Thanks so much!
Author Hot Coco Posted October 11, 2005 Author Posted October 11, 2005 Ok, I will. Just finished the letter and sent it. Face to face is impossible. Long story that I won't bore you with but this is an email friendship with a friend I haven't seen in 25 years.
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