Girl I really liked spurned me for my best friend (and I have to work with both of them)

[mr_marvel]

1 hour ago, Juha said:

Unfortunately this woman did not have the guts to tell you she was not interested

Her telling you she was not ready to date was a load of crap, as you have now noticed

This woman has no integrity, so no great loss on your part.

 

As for you supposed best friend, does not seem like a best friend to me.  If he was your real friend and knew

about the situation with this woman he would have said something about her liking him but he was a scumbag about not talking with you

 

Did he say anything to you?  Has he talked with you at all or is avoiding you?

 

Best thing to do is stay as far away from the two of them, have no interaction with them and disown your so called best friend who is a snake

and not really your best friend.  Sounds like he has no integrity and you do not want those type of people in your life

 

Move forward away from these two, they deserve each other...

 

Best of luck

While I fully agree that OP should stay away from those two, I find the idea of making them despicable monsters childish and ridiculous.

 

[Juha]

On 7/10/2020 at 3:49 AM, mr_marvel said:

Another disagreement from my point of view.

OP's friend had NOTHING to apologize about, or even just a feeling of guilty, because he WON this woman over OP's.

If we are friends, and you for whatever reasons didn't make a move (or didn't have the GUTS to make a move) on the woman you like for "months" (OP's words), and then I stepped in and make her mine, AND you take that as a reason to hold a grudge against me and my new girlfriend? Then f**k you, I don't need that kind of "friend."

If I am hungry, and I see some food on the table UNTOUCHED, and I even know for sure that food was never yours to begin with, I will definitely eat it and I will definitely not feel guilty about it. It is NOT my fault that you, for whatever reasons, DID NOT TOUCH the food until I see it. 

 

Some people have class and respect their friends and some don't

 

Obviously you do not respect your friends or the friendships you have

[Juha]

7 minutes ago, mr_marvel said:

While I fully agree that OP should stay away from those two, I find the idea of making them despicable monsters childish and ridiculous.

 

Unfortunately the woman was not interested but she had no integrity and could not just be honest with him, she had to lie

 

The guy, his supposed best friend is a scumbag and should be cut out of his life totally

[dispatch3d]

Surprised by a lot of responses in this thread. Yeah its pretty dispicable behaviour, I'd start looking for another job tbh.

[Velvet teddy]

On 7/11/2020 at 12:33 PM, mr_marvel said:

While I fully agree that OP should stay away from those two, I find the idea of making them despicable monsters childish and ridiculous.

 

If it was you in that position. I somehow doubt you would be saying these things

[Velvet teddy]

On 7/11/2020 at 12:33 PM, mr_marvel said:

While I fully agree that OP should stay away from those two, I find the idea of making them despicable monsters childish and ridiculous.

 

No ones making  them out to be despicable, however if his friend was straight forward  with him instead of getting with the girl behind his back? At the very least it would have been a good start. 

[stillafool]

On 7/10/2020 at 3:38 AM, mr_marvel said:

OP likes this woman, but didn't make a move, so another guy (who happened to be his "best friend") did it. It's all natural from a 3rd view.

He did ask her out but she said she wasn't ready to date yet because she had recently broken up with her boyfriend.

[stillafool]

OP, what did you friend say when you confronted him about this?