What is going on girls?!! I love this girl a lot and now she says I dont make her laugh anymore??!!

[MJ1]

Hi guys

 

My girlfriend and I have been together just over 2 years now. Until recently we both lived in the UK. We lived together for a year. Her mum had always had plans to move to Ireland (she is Irish) and my gf and her mum had always planned to go together before I got with her. As my gf's job came to an end where we lived and she didnt like the town we were in because shed lived there all her life, she decided to go with her mum. I was devastated, but accepted that she needed to move and holding her back would just make her resent me. It also something she really wanted to do. She is 23 and Im 26.

 

Anyway we started a long distance relationship - I gave up the house and moved back home with my parents. She tried to settle in and get a job in Ireland. Things are tough where she lives as its remote and there are few opportunities. After just over a year her mum decides to move back to the UK (great, albeit the other side of the country, but at least in the same country!). Things are looking up!

 

Thing is of late she just isnt committing to anything. We've had so many rows since she's been over there - mainly because I never really wanted her to go and to some extent I do resent it. Anyway, last time she came over she met a guy at the airport in Ireland from Seattle who she saw for 4 hours whilst her plane was delayed and on her plane journey over to England. When she met me she couldnt stop talking about him and said they had so much in common. She had a picture of them together on her phone. She said he earns loads of money, he fanicies her and he will pay for her flight ticket to the states. This has really eaten away at me, Im so jealous of this guy I havent met. Ive asked her what is going on, but she just says he's a friend and she doesnt fancy him and its nothing. She still lives in Ireland and says she cant commit to coming over to see me in case we row and she cant be on her own. She doesnt have a job, so i offered to pay for her trip, but she doesnt want to take my money?! (I cant go over there easily because of my job - I have 3 days holiday left until the end of the next March).

 

OK - now for the weird bit, she's planning to go to Seattle for a holiday for 2 weeks! She says she will be staying with her godfather who I know lives there... I know she loves the States and Im not really keen on going (even though I cant right now). Should I be worried?? She also says she needs a break from everything as a lot has happened in her life. Thing is I went off to Japan for 6 weeks just after she moved just for a break myself, so it would be difficult for me to say dont go, when I know she needs it as it will do her confidence good.

 

I love this girl a lot and now she says I dont make her laugh anymore??!! I send her flowers, cards, phone her when I can (its very expensive), email her, text her and I just feel like Im making all the effort. Im finding the ldr a big strain. Often I tell her her how hard Im finding it and how I miss her and just want to be back together.

 

When we talk about the future now she is reluctant to commit to anything saying she has no money. I am looking for a job elsewhere and will move to cenral UK nearer to where her mum is moving back to, but it doesnt sound like she will move there with me... at least not straight away... money and us both having jobs are a problem and will keep us apart.

 

What should I do? I think she loves me - she tells me she does. We had such a strong relationship when we lived together and I really felt we'd marry one day.

 

Options:

 

1) Should I trust her and let her go without worrying. See how it works out when she gets back (it is only 2 weeks). Just hope that if anything were to happen with this guy the distance would kill it!

2) Should I call it a day and move on

3) Any other options?!!

 

I'd like to go with her to Seattle, but cant and she knows it

 

Am I being the over sensative, over paranoid boyfriend?

 

Lastly - of course this guy can make her laugh and happy - he's a new face, he prob listens to her problems (when they talk on phone and talk on net - yeah that too).

 

Female responses and analyses welcome!!!