I don't think he's ok

[balletomane]

8 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Anyone I've known in the mental health field says it's a myth that they have it together more than the next person. "Knowing" and being able are two different things.

This is why clinical supervision is so important in healthcare, and another reason why we don't involve ourselves in the care of friends and family members - it does cloud your judgement if you're close to the patient, no matter how reflective and self-aware you are.

[girlinNYC]

2 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Not suddenly. When you want someone like this it comes through. Trust me, he knows. And he's distancing himself.

 

We haven’t discussed ‘emotions’, his, mine, or whatever it is he’s going though since he raised it last. I don’t raise those deep chats. He’s started 90% of any conversation we’ve had lately, all of which have been light hearted and affable. 
Anything you want to psychoanalyse there? 

[ExpatInItaly]

Don't try to force yourself into his life in this way, OP. 

He's not opening up to you because he doesn't want to. You're reaching for reasons to be involved, when it doesn't seem you have a distinct reason to believe he's at a crisis point. Taking a break from social media is pretty baseline behaviour when someone wants to unplug and decompress. You may have a background in psychology but that doesn't mean he will want you to be the person to turn to. It also doesn't mean you are qualified to provide the sort of help and support he needs. 

Instead of deciding what's healthy for him, I would concentrate more on what's healthy for you. Surely insisting that someone spill their guts to you isn't it. Looking for ways to insert yourself in someone's life isn't it. You have a reason to worry that would come across as annoying, because, well, it likely would. It would more than likely seem pushy and invasive. He's already got a therapist. It's not up for you to decide if it's a match for him or that you know the better path of treatment for him. 

This whole idea is going to keep you stuck on a man who doesn't feel the same way about you. That isn't super-healthy for you. Sometimes we have to stay in our lane. This is one of those times. 

[balletomane]

OP, I glanced at your posting history and noticed that you're pretty young (about 25 or 26?). I was pining after a high school friend until my early twenties, so I can sympathise with you over unreciprocated feelings that won't go away. It's painful.

As ExpatInItaly says, you need to be focusing on yourself right now, and working on what's healthy for you. I apologise if some of my comments seemed too blunt, but I was replying in the belief that you were a qualified mental health professional. Talking about a clinical psych background and saying "I don't currently practise" implies that you were a practising clinical psychologist in the past, and in that context your posts do come across as inappropriate. Try to avoid overstating your experience when asking for advice, as it will change how people react to you.

In your recent thread you wonder if this man's ADD was what prevented him from staying in a relationship with you a few years ago. It may be painful to hear this, but it seems that part of you is hoping that he's just not dealing with the ADD well, and if only he gets proper treatment, he'll realise he wants to be with you. You can't change someone's mind. If he wanted it, you'd be his girlfriend by now. It hurts to acknowledge it, but it will hurt more if you keep putting off the awareness.

Focus on building up an active social life, as far as Covid permits. Make time for hobbies and fun. If you catch yourself thinking about this man, gently counter it with other thoughts. It will get easier in time.