Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 Hey y’all. I’m training this new girl at work. We were getting to know each other and asking questions. I told her I live with my brother and his girlfriend. She said “oh cool, are you seeing anyone?” Does this indicate interest or not necessarily? We were asking each other’s questions so maybe she was just curious since I mentioned my brother dating? Thanks y’all 1
basil67 Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 I wouldn't assume it means interest. But even if it does, you're her superior, so keep your hands off 5 1
Giovane Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 2 hours ago, Juggernut23 said: Hey y’all. I’m training this new girl at work. We were getting to know each other and asking questions. I told her I live with my brother and his girlfriend. She said “oh cool, are you seeing anyone?” Does this indicate interest or not necessarily? We were asking each other’s questions so maybe she was just curious since I mentioned my brother dating? Thanks y’all That's not a lot for forum people to go by, we really have no way of telling. I guess her body language and the chemistry you either feel or don't feel will be much more revealing. 1
Maldives Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 (edited) Too little info to make a call on it ...monitor it although I wouldn't recommend a work romance my last one we met at work and it went south.. if it doesn't work out it can be very Akward and not to mention painful like it was for me Edited July 6, 2020 by Goodguy05 1 1
Roswell91 Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 5 hours ago, Juggernut23 said: Hey y’all. I’m training this new girl at work. We were getting to know each other and asking questions. I told her I live with my brother and his girlfriend. She said “oh cool, are you seeing anyone?” Does this indicate interest or not necessarily? We were asking each other’s questions so maybe she was just curious since I mentioned my brother dating? Thanks y’all I ask people that out of curiosity but don't always want to be dating every guy. But it really depends. That alone is not necessarily an indicator. 2
Fox Sake Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 More to the point is why you’re asking this ?? Maybe she asked you so she could figure out If you were flirting with her. Maybe she asked you just making casual conversation. Either way, the fact you’re giving it enough thought to post about it says that there’s more to it on your side
Blind-Sided Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 As above..... It's hard to say. She could just be asking as a friendly "Chat" point. Since you live with your brother, she may assume you are out of a hard situation where you needed somewhere else to be. But, if she seems a little flirty in the next few days... it's because she is interested. Answer he honestly, and just go with it. 1
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Fox Sake said: More to the point is why you’re asking this ?? Maybe she asked you so she could figure out If you were flirting with her. Maybe she asked you just making casual conversation. Either way, the fact you’re giving it enough thought to post about it says that there’s more to it on your side Yeah, I think she’s cute.
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 1 hour ago, schlumpy said: She's just getting the "lay of the land."
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 6 hours ago, basil67 said: I wouldn't assume it means interest. But even if it does, you're her superior, so keep your hands off Where’s the fun in that
alphamale Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 7 minutes ago, Juggernut23 said: Where’s the fun in that if you like your job then don't sh*t where you eat 2
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 25 minutes ago, Juggernut23 said: Where’s the fun in that The "fun: in keeping your hands off a subordinate at work is staying away from the wring side of a sexual harassment lawsuit. Do you have $50,000+ to pay a lawyer to defend you when she complains to HR then comes after you for money damages & emotional distress? Even if you "win" the lawsuit & she gets no money out of you, you are still out the costs of defending yourself. 1 1
Fox Sake Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 I see from the advice you’ve been given, it’s not what you want to hear. So what are you after? As far as playing it safe goes you’ve been given very good advice already to make sure you don’t put your position or your job on the line. I would take heed. If it’s against the grain you wish to go , then all you can do is ask her out after work and see what your chemistry is like in a non professional setting. Be aware tho- if she says no or you’re just a friend , then your entire world at work is going to fall around you and make for some very awkward times. So if it’s “love at first site” then go for it. If it’s someone just to lay , then give it a miss. Either way you see it , I would be taking my time if I was you. Whichever move you make , make damn sure it’s the right one!
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 40 minutes ago, Fox Sake said: I see from the advice you’ve been given, it’s not what you want to hear. So what are you after? As far as playing it safe goes you’ve been given very good advice already to make sure you don’t put your position or your job on the line. I would take heed. If it’s against the grain you wish to go , then all you can do is ask her out after work and see what your chemistry is like in a non professional setting. Be aware tho- if she says no or you’re just a friend , then your entire world at work is going to fall around you and make for some very awkward times. So if it’s “love at first site” then go for it. If it’s someone just to lay , then give it a miss. Either way you see it , I would be taking my time if I was you. Whichever move you make , make damn sure it’s the right one! I’m after some advice as to whether or not asking someone if they’re seeing anyone could be an indicator of interest, as my question states. Not ethical advice on workplace violations. Lmao.
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 3 hours ago, d0nnivain said: The "fun: in keeping your hands off a subordinate at work is staying away from the wring side of a sexual harassment lawsuit. Do you have $50,000+ to pay a lawyer to defend you when she complains to HR then comes after you for money damages & emotional distress? Even if you "win" the lawsuit & she gets no money out of you, you are still out the costs of defending yourself. Bruh how did my question turn into a passionate debate on sexual harasssment. This forum is funny..
kendahke Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 11 hours ago, Juggernut23 said: Hey y’all. I’m training this new girl at work. We were getting to know each other and asking questions. I told her I live with my brother and his girlfriend. She said “oh cool, are you seeing anyone?” Does this indicate interest or not necessarily? We were asking each other’s questions so maybe she was just curious since I mentioned my brother dating? Thanks y’all Not necessarily. She may be wanting to know so that she doesn't overstep if you have a girlfriend--she may not want to be that kind of chick. 1
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 9 hours ago, Giovane said: That's not a lot for forum people to go by, we really have no way of telling. I guess her body language and the chemistry you either feel or don't feel will be much more revealing. fair enough
kendahke Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 (edited) 13 minutes ago, Juggernut23 said: I’m after some advice as to whether or not asking someone if they’re seeing anyone could be an indicator of interest, as my question states. Not ethical advice on workplace violations. Lmao. that conversation is going to come along with the territory on any advice board when you write that you are someone's boss/superior trying to figure out if a subordinate is game for dating just because she asked you if you've got a girlfriend. Her question, in and of itself, doesn't mean she's interested in you like that. She was categorizing you. Edited July 6, 2020 by kendahke
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 53 minutes ago, Fox Sake said: I see from the advice you’ve been given, it’s not what you want to hear. So what are you after? As far as playing it safe goes you’ve been given very good advice already to make sure you don’t put your position or your job on the line. I would take heed. If it’s against the grain you wish to go , then all you can do is ask her out after work and see what your chemistry is like in a non professional setting. Be aware tho- if she says no or you’re just a friend , then your entire world at work is going to fall around you and make for some very awkward times. So if it’s “love at first site” then go for it. If it’s someone just to lay , then give it a miss. Either way you see it , I would be taking my time if I was you. Whichever move you make , make damn sure it’s the right one! I never asked for advice on playing it safe? love at first sight?? wha? youre an overthinker man relax a little lol
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 6 minutes ago, Juggernut23 said: Bruh how did my question turn into a passionate debate on sexual harasssment. This forum is funny.. I'm a woman, not your bruh. You asked about the potential for interest by a subordinate at work. You then gave sarcastic responses to various Qs. Those answers portray you as an HR nightmare in this age of #MeToo. In this age at work if you are unsure about a co-worker's intent / level of interest, it's best to err on the side of caution & back off. To do anything else makes you seem tone deaf. Had you met this woman in a different context, my answer to you would be vastly different. 1 1
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 3 minutes ago, kendahke said: that conversation is going to come along with the territory on any advice board when you write that you are someone's boss/superior trying to figure out if she's game for dating just because she asked you if you've got a girlfriend. Her question, in and of itself, doesn't mean she's interested in you like that. She was categorizing you. im confused as to where this whole superior/boss idea came in from. we are the same position, im training her. we are equal..shes just brand new and in the training phase for a month.
kendahke Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 11 hours ago, Juggernut23 said: Hey y’all. I’m training this new girl at work. 1 minute ago, Juggernut23 said: im confused as to where this whole superior/boss idea came in from. The fact that you're in a position to instruct someone new at your workplace is where it came from. Hit dogs will holler.... 1
Author Juggernut23 Posted July 6, 2020 Author Posted July 6, 2020 Theres some weird vibes going on here. how an easy question made everyone passionate about my love and work life. if i wanted tips on whether or not to pursue a coworker, that is what i would have asked. evidently schlumpy is the only person who gets laid around here...have fun yall lighten up. have a nice day!!
kendahke Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 A lot of the time, a public message board isn't an echo chamber.
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