dsd27205 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Both of these folks work with me. The husband works on second shift, the wife first. I am not as close as I once was to them because I don't visit much because of the conflicting work schedules. Still I talk to them and see them occassionally. Anyway, here's the story......... A month and a half or so ago, my female friend started flirting A LOT with this guy. Obviously, words don't describe it well, but anytime they were within sight, they both waived and laughed and smiled, and they talked constantly. They acted like little love-happy teenagers around each other. People began taking note and talking, of course. Once while talking, I mentioned that people were talking about her, and she became defensive and said she didn't care what people, she wasn't doing anything wrong. Yet afterward, she started talking much less to him. Two weeks ago Friday, I saw her write something and give it to this guy at quitting time. I really didn't think THAT MUCH of it. However, later that night, I went to an auto parts store right across the street from her church, which meets on Friday nights. (I've gone with them before, thats how I know where they go.) She attends almost every week, and I noticed her car wasn't there, but didn't think anything of it. Leaving the auto parts store I drove by her house on the way to visit another friend. I was stopped at a light within a hundred yards of her house, and noticed her car wasn't there but her husbands was. (He drives his truck usually.) Still, I thought nothing of it. Why should I? That Monday as we chatted, I asked her what she did over the weekend, and she said she went to church that Friday. I mentioned that I had been nearby and hadn't seen her car, and she said she drove her husbands car. Well, I just let that go, and didn't mention that I knew she didn't drive her husbands car. Still, I figured she was doing something she wanted secret to not tell where she was at. After that day, I noticed that she wasn't speaking to this guy at all, then one day last week I saw her writing something, and when he walked by her she gave it to him, but they didn't speak. Thay day as they left, I noticed they were in an area where no one was likely to eavesdrop on them off to themselves. They did the same thing again today. Now, perhaps I am just paranoid, but to me it seems odd that two people that work near each other all day, will not speak at all, will not even look at each other, but then have secretive and brief chats right before they leave and take time to pass notes, especially after being so flirty before. This has really bothered me. I don't want to see this stuff. I'd rather not know any of this. Still, right now, its a lot harder for me to have faith in my friend than it is believe she's cheating. I don't want to say anything and hurt our friendship, and I don't want to say anything to him, because I don't want to hurt our friendship either, and I don't want to create problems that may not exist. Also, hes the kind of person, that rather than keeping his cool and maybe keeping a closer watch of things, is likely to blow-up and accuse her or something, which she'd probably deny. I'm really concerned my friend may be risking their marriage and hurting not only him and herself, but especially their kids. What do you folks think?
slubberdegullion Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Back off. WWAAAYYYY off. There is absolutely no upside to getting involved in this in any way. Just steer clear and shaddap.
civettuolo Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Like the above poster said,stay away! Maybe avoid them ! i had a friend who cheated on her husband,and she dragged me threw her drama,and used me as a cover to get out of the house. And when she got caught he hated me!called me a whore blamed me! I didnt morally believe in cheating but i was a friend to her and didnt judge. It was a mistake.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 If you do anything (like write an anonymous note to their spouses), make sure your information is accurate and does not make assumptions in the place of fact. Times, dates, names, places, factual information. Fact is, there is something suspicious going on but nothing concrete. If you decide to write an anonymous note to the W and/or H, be sure you do not embellish, guess, or blow anything out of proportion and do not give anything away that would identfy you. Just the facts, ma'am. The potential BH and BW can do their own in depth investigating, if they choose to do so. Be careful, should you do this - If you get identified as the person doing this, you will catch at least half of the nine circles of hell for it. Anger will be diverted from the real problems, and the MM/MW will focus their efforts on using you as a whipping boy to divert from and cover what they are doing.
RecordProducer Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 I hope trhis is really about you being concerned about their marriage, not putting your nose in other people's business. She may have an affair that her husband will never find out about. She may have an affair and you interfering in it will bring no positive results in any case. You can only make things worse. She's a grown woman and it's absolutely none of your business what she's doing with her co-worker. She is not breaking the law. You don't even know what she'd doing or is up to. You're making assumptions that might do a lot of harm to her and her husband. Don't pay too much attention to what other people do. Don't you have problems of your own? Help those who ask for your help! Don't sperad any rumours about her!!!!!
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