stillafool Posted July 1, 2020 Posted July 1, 2020 10 minutes ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: stillafool, you said "Women" in your statement, so my statement applies to said Women, not just the OP. Oh well I was talking about OP and her thread. But I still stand my my statement that women need to be independent before they marry and have kids. 1
BaileyB Posted July 1, 2020 Posted July 1, 2020 45 minutes ago, stillafool said: I still stand my my statement that women need to be independent before they marry and have kids. Or at least we’ll on their way... it’s never a good plan to marry expecting that a man will take care you and your children... For OP, I would agree that you have some things to settle in your life before you are ready for a serious relationship. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety such that you haven’t been able to get a driver license, and you are still living at home... then, he needs to know this. I wish you all the best - it’s not easy coming of age in this day and age. It’s not easy at the best of times... 1
Caauug Posted July 2, 2020 Posted July 2, 2020 12 hours ago, BaileyB said: it’s never a good plan to marry expecting that a man will take care you and your children... ??? I thought this was the main objective??? There is always government benefits to fall back on for support but normally do not pay as well as the working male's income (blue collar and up). On 6/30/2020 at 10:14 PM, Lady_Chiara said: I'm 31 years old and even though I have a good job, because I am on a contract, I have been living at home with my parents for the last two years. So it sounds like you are 16 going on 31. Don't take this the wrong way, it's kinda cool. Living with your parents is cool also, why blow a pile of money when you can enjoy living with your parents, they will not be around for ever and cherish the time you have with them. Yes we all have to fly from the nest at sometime but if you can stay longer you will fondly remember those years later in life. (Personality conflicts got me kicked out of the nest when I was ready to go anyway. Boys should be ready before girls age wise) You don't drive, you live in the UK, and you would likely have very good public transport. Not everyone everywhere needs to know how to drive. If you have good public transport why learn to drive? If you are still going to use public transport and not drive or own a car you are better off not getting a license to drive. You have lived this long without it, good, why pay for a license, insurance, registration on a car if you don't need it?. Not everyone lives in Idaho and needs to drive!!!! On 6/30/2020 at 10:14 PM, Lady_Chiara said: We have since been on a few more dates, culminating with us having sex on the last date and him asking me to be his girlfriend (I agreed). ON TARGET!!!! All good.... This is nearly as good as a Disney movie!!! On 6/30/2020 at 10:14 PM, Lady_Chiara said: He wanted to come back to my place afterwards and snuggle but I wouldn't let him as he doesn't know I live at home. Even if he did, my parents wouldn't approve as they quite religious and conservative. Yep, I've been there..... And you know what your parents will put up with. You HAVE TO come clean with your BF about what your life is like living with your parents. He will respect you more for it.... And it will help him understand you better. Now is not the time to be ashamed or shy about where your life is. He doesn't need to know about Preacher's Daughter Syndrome.... On 6/30/2020 at 10:14 PM, Lady_Chiara said: I am very into him, far more than I've been for a long time and he has said several times that he likes me a lot. Not everyday something this good comes along, don't let it slip between your fingers. Be honest with him, tell him everything he needs to know. It sounds like you are pushing him away saying to slow down a bit with the added excuse you have been hurt before.... We have all be hurt before!!! You are into him, he is into you, what more do you want??? Take the bull by the horns and point the relationship in the direction you want it to go!!! Have faith in yourself, have faith in him, and have faith in your parents.... This looks like a very good opportunity for you to exploit, don't let your fears push you away and miss it!!!! On 6/30/2020 at 10:14 PM, Lady_Chiara said: He is one of the nicest people I've met and says he thinks we could have potential for an LTR. I feel quite confused and this situation is adding to my stress. You "feel quite confused" because he likes you and wants a (LTR, I will spell it out) Long Term Relationship with YOU??? What's to be stressed about??? Yes he's new, yes he likes you, yes this relationship may lead to life changes that you never dreamed about (or maybe you have)…. Now is the time to help yourself and help him build a relationship with each other. Tick Tock, may not be happening yet but will he be around when it is?
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