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So I started seeing this girl, she worked for the same company but at a different location.

off the get go she said she wasn’t looking for a relationship as she has commitment issues. (Meaning she just wanted to sleep together) I said that’s fine.

after a while I caught feelings, and I told her I did. I did tell her that we should cut things off because I had caught feelings and she got upset and told me she didn’t want to end things, soon after things got more serious. We hung out a lot more and it turned into a relationship. I fell hard for her and she seemed to have fallen hard for me too. 3-4 months down the road she got weird, distant and seemed to only talk text or call me when it was a last option. Went out with friends and ghosted me for a day or two acted like it was no big deal and when I voiced my opinion she told me she doesn’t know what she wants and doesn’t want to hurt me. 
 

she pushed me away and I told her I wasn’t just going to bail, that I don’t give up on things I care for. So I stuck around for a couple weeks and nothing changed, she pushed me away more barely spoke to me and continued to tell me she doesn’t know what she’s doing.. so I caved and decided that if she was going to push me away like that then I’ll walk away, I didn’t deserve that right?

well now work is starting, it’s been a month and a bit we haven’t spoken a word to eachother and I find out I’m starting at the location she’s at now.... I’m terrified :( 

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There is nothing to be terrified of but I get why you are uncomfortable.  Just be professional.  Don't talk to her about anything other than work & then only when absolutely necessary.  If you basically ignore her & treat her like she's somebody you barely know things should be peaceful at work.  It will take effort but you can get through this.  

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Man I hope for your sake you don't go through what I went through when my ex left. I had to watch her date two other guys in the office over 2 yrs it caused me so much pain the third yr I became really sick from the stress. We were together 6 yrs and in all honesty it was probably one of the worst break ups  ive ever experienced because I was seeing her interact with another guy. I should have left that company but where I live is not easy to find a job as good as the one where I was or that pays that well. I was stuck. In hindsight not sure I'd recommend the same. Hopefully it isn't the way it was for me for you. Luckily my health came good again after a few mths and by then she was seeing someone else but outside the office and I'd healed enough for it not to be an issue when he'd pick her up from the office. 

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Just go in there like you're a happy man without a care in the world.

Let her see that you are strong and confident.

Only talk to her if you have to and about work matters only.

Be super friendly with everyone. Be super happy.

She will hate that.

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