Pab118 Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 So my ex broke up with me about 3 months ago. We still follow each other on social media, however I have muted his posts so I don’t see his posts. On Mother’s Day I had put up a post with a pic of my mom and I, he “liked” it and I didn’t read too much into it figuring he probably liked since he had met my mom a few times. A week later I posted a selfie and he liked that as well. Then just this past Sunday I put up a post for Father’s Day with a pic me as a baby with my dad, he “liked” that as well, and he had never even met my dad (my dad lives across the country). I have not liked any of his posts, and I used to like all his posts when we were together, so I don’t quite understand why he’s doing this. I know in Normal situations a like is just a like and who cares? But in this instance it was not an easy break up and feelings were hurt (at least on my end). I also think it’s not as simple as “oh it’s just a like” when it comes to exes unless it was a totally amicable breakup and you remain friends. I also just want to add he’s not they type to just like all his friends’ posts. I know the obvious advice is to delete him from seeing my stuff, but I have a lot of pride and don’t want him to know these stupid likes affect me lol. I am moving on and have started to date but sometimes I still have my moments when I think of him. Do you guys think these likes mean anything?
Realitysux Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Pab118 said: So my ex broke up with me about 3 months ago. We still follow each other on social media, however I have muted his posts so I don’t see his posts. On Mother’s Day I had put up a post with a pic of my mom and I, he “liked” it and I didn’t read too much into it figuring he probably liked since he had met my mom a few times. A week later I posted a selfie and he liked that as well. Then just this past Sunday I put up a post for Father’s Day with a pic me as a baby with my dad, he “liked” that as well, and he had never even met my dad (my dad lives across the country). I have not liked any of his posts, and I used to like all his posts when we were together, so I don’t quite understand why he’s doing this. I know in Normal situations a like is just a like and who cares? But in this instance it was not an easy break up and feelings were hurt (at least on my end). I also think it’s not as simple as “oh it’s just a like” when it comes to exes unless it was a totally amicable breakup and you remain friends. I also just want to add he’s not they type to just like all his friends’ posts. I know the obvious advice is to delete him from seeing my stuff, but I have a lot of pride and don’t want him to know these stupid likes affect me lol. I am moving on and have started to date but sometimes I still have my moments when I think of him. Do you guys think these likes mean anything? I was effected by a recent rejection and this guy has other people in my city, two provinces from him telling me to block him. I know how hard this is to do but block him. He wasn't responsible enough with your feelings to value them and the best thing you can do is accept it or you will end up where I am which is low. When they say block him, block him. It means nothing. Edited June 28, 2020 by Realitysux 1
ShyViolet Posted June 29, 2020 Posted June 29, 2020 No I don't think it means anything. Maybe he just doesn't think it's a big deal. Maybe wants to kinda show that he wishes you well and has no hard feelings. 4
Author Pab118 Posted June 29, 2020 Author Posted June 29, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, ShyViolet said: No I don't think it means anything. Maybe he just doesn't think it's a big deal. Maybe wants to kinda show that he wishes you well and has no hard feelings. I don’t see why he would have hard feelings, the breakup was due more to his circumstances rather than anything else. There was no fight or anything. I think if anyone would have hard feelings it would be me not him since I was pretty blindsided by it. After he broke up with me I never contacted him again. Edited June 29, 2020 by Pab118
basil67 Posted June 29, 2020 Posted June 29, 2020 In that case, he probably just wishes you well. If his likes are unwelcome, unfriend him. 2 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 29, 2020 Posted June 29, 2020 What were the circumstances of the break-up, OP? It could help contextualize his recent activity.
d0nnivain Posted June 29, 2020 Posted June 29, 2020 Your idea that you have your pride & don't want him to know the likes are affecting you is rubbish. You two are apart. Why allow him continued access to you life? Besides when you are ready to date again, your new SO is going to be unhappy that you are still friends with your EX. Just disconnect already. Problem solved. 1 1
Author Pab118 Posted June 29, 2020 Author Posted June 29, 2020 4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: What were the circumstances of the break-up, OP? It could help contextualize his recent activity. We were together for under a year, the pandemic hit and things went downhill. He basically had to choose between his kids and I and he made the obvious choice (which I understand).
kendahke Posted July 1, 2020 Posted July 1, 2020 (edited) On 6/28/2020 at 7:03 PM, Pab118 said: I know the obvious advice is to delete him from seeing my stuff, but I have a lot of pride and don’t want him to know these stupid likes affect me lol. Lol.. pride goes before destruction. Quote I am moving on doesn't sound like it if you're ruminating about why he's liking your posts. Since you're dating someone new and he most likely isn't going to like your ex orbiting and more to the point: you encouraging him to orbit, block him and move on--for real. Edited July 1, 2020 by kendahke
stillafool Posted July 1, 2020 Posted July 1, 2020 On 6/28/2020 at 11:41 PM, Pab118 said: I don’t see why he would have hard feelings, the breakup was due more to his circumstances rather than anything else. There was no fight or anything. I think if anyone would have hard feelings it would be me not him since I was pretty blindsided by it. After he broke up with me I never contacted him again. Well there you go. He has no hard feelings against you and just liked your pictures. I do feel like a like is just a like because you have no idea how many other pictures he's liking. He may be bored. 1
stillafool Posted July 1, 2020 Posted July 1, 2020 On 6/28/2020 at 7:03 PM, Pab118 said: I have a lot of pride and don’t want him to know these stupid likes affect me lol. That fact that his "likes" affect you is all the more reason you should block him. You are delaying your healing by seeing them.
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