Rwebb7197 Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 I work with someone that I've 'liked' for around 4 years and always wondered whether my feelings are mutual. When we're alone, the atmosphere feels different, I can't describe it. I've always said X acts so differently when it's just the two of us. Very open body language (very open) slow movements, closeness, softly spoken. I always try to make and maintain eye contact in that way. He'll maintain for a few seconds and dart his eyes away, and repeat. Yesterday we had what I would describe as 'a moment' (I think). He was sat down showing me something on his phone, I leaned over the desk to see. I thought I would test the waters and try to move closer, and there was no awkwardness. There was a little something in his voice, and maybe slightly shaky hands, but nothing that signalled to me 'back away'. In fact it was the opposite. I got so close I could feel his body touching mine, and feel his warmth. At one point our faces were literally about 10 inches apart. My heart was racing and my gut was screaming at me, all the signs were there (I think), I strongly believe had we not been at work, something would have happened. I was slowly edging closer to gauge his reaction, and see how he would react to me getting even closer, and no matter how close I got, he didn't move away. In fact, to me, it seemed like he was trying to keep my there, by switching to different things every few seconds. We were interrupted by a colleague, who I think by the way she scurried back out picked up on the atmosphere. It happens quite a lot that if we're alone and hear someone about to enter the room he'll quickly get up, or switch his position. Not sure if its relevant, but a little later on he was plugging a phone charger in that was behind where I was sitting, and as he reached behind me, again getting VERY close, he purposefully 'fell' onto me, if that makes sense, and made a light-hearted joke. He's always smiling around me, and I can make him laugh by saying literally anything. The whole thing just felt right, you know? The whole experience lasted for only about 15 minutes but felt like hours. I've experienced the same rush of feelings before, and as it turned out, that person did indeed feel the same. I know you should trust your gut but I want to know what others think. Is there anything else I should look out for? I should point out that I am a gay man, which makes things like this all the more delicate, as I don't want to make things awkward. Thank you for your help :)
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 1 hour ago, Rwebb7197 said: I should point out that I am a gay man, which makes things like this all the more delicate, as I don't want to make things awkward. Do you happen to know if he is too? I would ask him if he wants to grab a coffee before/after work. It's something friends might do anyway, so you can see if he is open to it and perhaps picks up on your intentions.
Author Rwebb7197 Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 I'm unsure. He's not very open with anything like that. We joke quite a bit, and one of coworkers made numerous comments he was flirting with me. When I bring up the subject of girls he tends to avoid the question. I think your idea is certainly worth a shot. Thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 58 minutes ago, Rwebb7197 said: When I bring up the subject of girls he tends to avoid the question. I think your idea is certainly worth a shot. Thank you Does he know you are gay? If doesn't, and he also likes men, perhaps he's equally uncertain of your orientation so he's being delicate as well. Anyway, yes, I would ask him to hang out for a friendly coffee and see how he responds.
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