Judamp324 Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 Just wanted to share with you my first experience trying to date a girl. Any advice would be great. I met this girl at college a couple of months ago. We had great chemistry since the beggining and became very good friends in just a couple of weeks. I liked her and felt that she liked me back. The last day that we were supposed to see each other in that semester we went for something to eat to a restaurant and stayed there until around 10pm. When we were leaving I offered her to drive her home. She accepted after I insisted a little bit and told me to go "like going back to campus". When we were passing by near the campus she told me to just leave her there. I insisted and told her that it wasn't a problem for me. She said that she didn't want to make me drive that far. We discussed that for a couple of minutes and then she said "I forgot that I had a group project meeting for XYZ class". Of course I knew it was a lie since it was very late but agreed to leave her there anyway and we said goodbye. During the next weeks I asked her out over text twice. She kind of accepted and seemed to be excited about it. The second time she even suggested to go to a rock concert saying “I really want to go :’(”. However, in both ocassions she cancelled the night before. A couple of weeks after that I found that she had a boyfriend already for almost one year. To my surprise it was a guy she had introduced to me once withouth mentioning he was her boyfriend. I tried to move on after that. I saw her again at campus a couple of times. She was the one coming to say hi and talk, but we never mentioned our "failed dates". I tried to avoid her as much as I could, and haven't talked to her for many months now. But now I’m regretting that and thinking that I should’ve insisted more. If she didn't mention her bf, maybe she was interested too..... What do you think ? Did I do the right thing ? Would it be a good idea to give it a try again ?
contel3 Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 Are you sure she realized that was a date? Maybe she thought she was just being friendly.
Author Judamp324 Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 32 minutes ago, contel3 said: Are you sure she realized that was a date? Maybe she thought she was just being friendly. That's a good point. I never used the word "date". I think she knew what was going on though. I mean she must have realized that I liked her after hanging out together regularly for a whole semester. She took her time to give me an answer too. For example, the first time I asked her out she replied me after one week....
Fox Sake Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 (edited) 7 hours ago, Judamp324 said: Just wanted to share with you my first experience trying to date a girl. Any advice would be great. I met this girl at college a couple of months ago. We had great chemistry since the beggining and became very good friends in just a couple of weeks. I liked her and felt that she liked me back. The last day that we were supposed to see each other in that semester we went for something to eat to a restaurant and stayed there until around 10pm. When we were leaving I offered her to drive her home. She accepted after I insisted a little bit and told me to go "like going back to campus". When we were passing by near the campus she told me to just leave her there. I insisted and told her that it wasn't a problem for me. She said that she didn't want to make me drive that far. We discussed that for a couple of minutes and then she said "I forgot that I had a group project meeting for XYZ class". Of course I knew it was a lie since it was very late but agreed to leave her there anyway and we said goodbye. During the next weeks I asked her out over text twice. She kind of accepted and seemed to be excited about it. The second time she even suggested to go to a rock concert saying “I really want to go :’(”. However, in both ocassions she cancelled the night before. A couple of weeks after that I found that she had a boyfriend already for almost one year. To my surprise it was a guy she had introduced to me once withouth mentioning he was her boyfriend. I tried to move on after that. I saw her again at campus a couple of times. She was the one coming to say hi and talk, but we never mentioned our "failed dates". I tried to avoid her as much as I could, and haven't talked to her for many months now. But now I’m regretting that and thinking that I should’ve insisted more. If she didn't mention her bf, maybe she was interested too..... What do you think ? Did I do the right thing ? Would it be a good idea to give it a try again ? Player! I have a funny feeling she maybe lives with her bf , or he was coming to stay with her and that’s why she didn’t want you take her home. Could be totally wrong but it would make sense given the fact she wanted dropped off and refused a lift further. Maybe he messaged her and said he was there early? Who knows. But most importantly , she has a bf so why the hell are you thinking of going after her?! Just don’t. It’s not honourable. At best you would be a rebound. And furthermore , if she left him for you, then that makes her a flake and it’s only a matter of time before she jumped ship to someone else that gave her attention, or started doing the same thing with other guys behind your back. Don’t let yourself be that guy. Respect yourself. Edit - personally, I wouldn’t ever go after anyone that was in or had just come out of a relationship. It takes time to heal , time to find yourself again as an individual and time to process things. Edited June 28, 2020 by Fox Sake
d0nnivain Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 You did the right thing by staying away from her. She is not a person of integrity. She lied to you. Leave her be.
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