ArcticNights Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 My partner and I have broken up. I don’t want to break up - it’s him. We’ve been on and off for about 3 years but in that time we had a baby girl so that complicated things more. She’s 6 months old. He says he has feelings for me and does love me but he wants a mother figure and I’m 11 years younger than him and I also have Aspergers so he said I seem childlike. It’s true that my executive functioning is poor. It’s true that I struggle with some things in life but I’m a good mum and he thinks so too. He’s used to having a partner who looks after him. He would always break up with me, then say he wanted to try again but he now tries to rewrite history and says that I’m chasing him. The main problem is that of course he wants to see his daughter and she’s too young to stay overnight with him. If he takes her out of the house and I’m not there, she cries. If he comes to see he at my house it’s harder for me. The last time he came he kissed me on the mouth and then said later that he shouldn’t have done it. I asked him if he could pick up our daughter from my mum’s house but he doesn’t want to do this. I just feel so sad. I know we aren’t an ideal match but I do love him and I hoped that we could work things out. I don’t really know what to do anymore. The only way I will get over him is if I don’t see him.
d0nnivain Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 I'm sorry that this is happening. Unfortunately because you share a child, you have to see him. Understand there is something wrong with a man who wants his lover to mother him. He should want a partner not a caregiver. Do what's best for your child. As much as you don't want this break up it may be for the best.
Author ArcticNights Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 Why do I have to see him when he gives mixed signals? Why can’t he collect our daughter from my mum? 1
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