pixelpen Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 I've been texting this girl for these last few days and shes pretty fun. She laughs at my lame jokes, we have the same interests and shes never left me on read. Our conversations pretty light hearted and fun. However, sometimes I get these one or 2 words and she rarely askes me any questions. She gave a somewhats positive response when i mentioned going on a date though. I have no idea where this stands. And oh and we met online. She lives 115km, and with Covid, its kinda hard to ask her on a date since that imply a small travel. So I'd like to have a gauge at her interest before I do anything else. 1
Mystery4u Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 What is a 'somewhat positive response'? Arrange to meet up as soon as possible. She is giving you cold answers because she's talking to other guys. That's why you don't 'gauge her interest before doing anything' because you are just wasting time. You should already assume she is interested and make your interest clear, why else are you even talking to her? 1
SumGuy Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 Just ask her if she would like to meet once whatever restrictions that are preventing that are lifted. Can you make a joke about it? Like I normally would ask a girl out and need to choose a place in a few days, now COVID gives us a few months. Keep the banter going. Don't get too wrapped up in trying to infer the future from tea leaves, I mean texts. Not everyone likes to converse by text, send questions or answer at length. If you wonder if she would like to meet just ask. 1
poppyfields Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) You posted you've been texting a few days, may I ask how you "met" her? On Facebook, IG or another SM platform? If the answer is yes, I must also ask what is your end goal here? Do you want to actually date her, develop a relationship? If so why would you intentionally reach out to a woman who lives 115 km away? Assuming you were the first to reach out. Which actually isn't that far, a little more than an hour drive by car. But I have always wondered this, why, if someone is looking to actually date (in person) versus becoming a text buddy, why wound they intentionally reach out and begin texting someone where dating that person presents such a huge challenge due to distance? That said, agree with others, make a date. That is the only way to gauge interest. If she says yes to your invite and doesn't flake. Make the drive or agree to meet halfway on your first meet. Frankly, I don't think anything can be determined by texting. People who are bored, text heaps. Or have social anxiety. Many people text A LOT for attention. Get her out on a real date and gauge chemistry. Edited June 27, 2020 by poppyfields
smackie9 Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 Hey it is what it is...she's enjoying the attention and talkin to other guys. Don't expect anyone you chat with to be that invested.
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