patooks Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 Hi all. So I met up with a girl I'd been speaking to for 1 week last Sunday. She invited me to come over to her place to hang out on our 1st meeting which I did. We hit it off straight away, conversation easily flowed and it was fun. Later that night we slept together and I stayed the night and she wanted to see me again. A few days after I asked her what was the next step for us, she said she wanted to keep seeing me and not date anyone else as she really likes me, I felt the same. Since then in the space of 1 week we've stayed with each other 3 times now, and had sex all the time, and for both of us it has been the best we've had. She told me from the start whoever was going to be with her long term that she wanted a child as she's nearly 33 and works with children but so far hasn't found anyone decent to have a meaningful relationship with. I have a 6 year old already so I'm still unsure how I feel about this scenario personally at this moment. She hardly ever dates and is a home body, very similar to myself. She stayed at my place last night so as my dad lives with me she had to meet him, he liked her, my Pets also liked her straight off the bat. I guess after last night I feel in a haze about her, is this just the honeymoon period feeling as she said wer'e still dating but she likes me a lot already and wants to continue to get to know me before wer'e officially in a relationship. She gives just as much as she receives in everything, drove nearly 1 hour to stay at my place, had a great dinner out last night. If it feels too good to be true is it ? She ticks nearly every box I want in a woman, great sex, great conversations, she's sweet, great with kids, just hanging out seems so fun and natural. I've been nearly single for 4 years now as my ex burnt me badly and I somewhat suffered emotionally from it but this lady has walked in to my life and it feels amazing. Any advice from people that are far more experienced then myself. Thank you.
snowboy91 Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 I'm not seeing any negative descriptions from your post apart from your feelings about her wanting a kid. That's something you'll have to keep in mind going forward. Also you're right to keep in mind that it is the honeymoon period for you - and that it takes quite a long time to really get to know someone. That doesn't necessarily mean that things will turn sour once that period is over - with any luck, the good will still outweigh any bad after that point - and that's what determines a relationship that has the potential to last. We're always doing the best thing for us with whatever we know at any given point in time. At this point she seems like a great person to you, so there isn't any reason not to continue, but don't necessarily let that be the reason to stay put if you find out she's actually awful. 1
Miss Spider Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) Sounds like things are going pretty good so far. Don't overthink it. Edited June 27, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 Sounds awesome to me! Take your time, and enjoy yourselves!
Calmandfocused Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) I agree that it all sounds very good indeed! It’s nice to hear some happy news. Do you want anymore children Op? Are you on the fence? If you’re not sure you need to be upfront and honest about this so she can make an informed decision. If you decide at any point that you definitely do not, it would only be fair to let her know this. You cannot, at this early stage know whether you will be together long term and have a child together. However I can understand her raising this to ascertain whether you have the same future goals from the offset. She’s not getting any younger. Edited June 27, 2020 by Calmandfocused
Roswell91 Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, patooks said: Hi all. So I met up with a girl I'd been speaking to for 1 week last Sunday. She invited me to come over to her place to hang out on our 1st meeting which I did. We hit it off straight away, conversation easily flowed and it was fun. Later that night we slept together and I stayed the night and she wanted to see me again. A few days after I asked her what was the next step for us, she said she wanted to keep seeing me and not date anyone else as she really likes me, I felt the same. Since then in the space of 1 week we've stayed with each other 3 times now, and had sex all the time, and for both of us it has been the best we've had. She told me from the start whoever was going to be with her long term that she wanted a child as she's nearly 33 and works with children but so far hasn't found anyone decent to have a meaningful relationship with. I have a 6 year old already so I'm still unsure how I feel about this scenario personally at this moment. She hardly ever dates and is a home body, very similar to myself. She stayed at my place last night so as my dad lives with me she had to meet him, he liked her, my Pets also liked her straight off the bat. I guess after last night I feel in a haze about her, is this just the honeymoon period feeling as she said wer'e still dating but she likes me a lot already and wants to continue to get to know me before wer'e officially in a relationship. She gives just as much as she receives in everything, drove nearly 1 hour to stay at my place, had a great dinner out last night. If it feels too good to be true is it ? She ticks nearly every box I want in a woman, great sex, great conversations, she's sweet, great with kids, just hanging out seems so fun and natural. I've been nearly single for 4 years now as my ex burnt me badly and I somewhat suffered emotionally from it but this lady has walked in to my life and it feels amazing. Any advice from people that are far more experienced then myself. Thank you. You're most definitely in the honeymoon phase. You both are. And getting intimate with one another will cause hormones to be flying all over the place. Just keep in mind, it's only been a week! Saying that though let things flow naturally and see what happens. Don't worry too much now. Edited June 27, 2020 by Roswell91
ShyViolet Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 What? You met the woman one week ago and you're already talking about being exclusive, having a serious relationship, and having children? That is a little too much for having met someone one week ago. You both need to slow down. You're getting wayyy ahead of yourselves. You have no idea if this person is someone you can spend the rest of your life with and have children with. You don't even know her. Just continue seeing her and getting to know her before you enter into anything serious.
Ami1uwant Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 It’s good you have hit it off really well. But this could be too much to soon then a flame out. Have you thought about what you want in a wife?
Author patooks Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 Hi all, thanks for your replies. Another thing just happened this morning, she was given these condoms after getting the morning after pill last week, I don't use them so I said what are you going to do with them. She said I can use them with the other guy, I wasn't impressed with her response tbh even if she was joking why do I feel annoyed by this, wer'e exclusive as well. That's 1 thing I'd never joke about.
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