Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 On 6/25/2020 at 10:40 PM, preraph said: You need people who aren't as "out there" and who you don't have to pretend with. You sound young. You can just walk up and make new friends. I once had someone caution me when I was about to enter college, "Don't just take up with the first group you talk to; be selective because whoever you start out with, that's who you'll end up with most likely." They were just saying don't let friends just happen to you . I should have listened! In school, it's easy to make friends. Do you think there's any future with this girl at all?
Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 On 6/25/2020 at 10:18 PM, preraph said: You just shouldn't have to hide who you are June2017. If you do, time to find new friends. Yes I agree. I'm working on it
preraph Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) I think you're afraid to let her go because you are afraid you won't ever have another friend. That's not true. You are in a very social environment, and you don't have to worry about that old crowd's feelings and can just go up and make friends with someone new who isn't affiliated with them. You can and should go to activities, join clubs, do hobbies, everything like that to expand your social circle. You can also use online dating, but for heaven's sake, restrict your searches to local, right there in your town. Otherwise, that is just a time wasting effort. It needs to be local so you can meet up right away and not waste time. Eat around campus or your neighborhood, whichever applies. Go somewhere regularly so you will start to get to know other people who hang out there. I don't see why you'd want to keep this girl. She sounds really awful to me. And so do her friends. They sounds ignorant. Edited June 27, 2020 by preraph
Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, preraph said: I think you're afraid to let her go because you are afraid you won't ever have another friend. That's not true. You are in a very social environment, and you don't have to worry about that old crowd's feelings and can just go up and make friends with someone new who isn't affiliated with them. You can and should go to activities, join clubs, do hobbies, everything like that to expand your social circle. You can also use online dating, but for heaven's sake, restrict your searches to local, right there in your town. Otherwise, that is just a time wasting effort. It needs to be local so you can meet up right away and not waste time. Eat around campus or your neighborhood, whichever applies. Go somewhere regularly so you will start to get to know other people who hang out there. I don't see why you'd want to keep this girl. She sounds really awful to me. And so do her friends. They sounds ignorant. No I don't want to keep her. I'm just asking if there is any hope with her. As I suspect she gets off on the fact that someone attractive is her boyfriend??? I'm told I'm attractive and I have been popular with girls and I very noticed that even when we are together or around each other, sometimes she would take no notice of me and walk off on her own with me going after her. Or at times, would simply go away to do her own thing leaving me at home or at uni. We had an event where she was translating for a lady and after the translation was done, she stood with her friends or with others not woth me. Not that I cared because I stood with other friends but I did notice that. We shared a 2 sec hug and I pecked her on her cheek and that was it. She went off again and after that, we stood near each other but she was going inside and I followed her. Edited June 27, 2020 by June2017
preraph Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 I mean, she just doesn't sound very respectful in general. Doesn't seem to care what you want or think.
Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 1 hour ago, preraph said: I mean, she just doesn't sound very respectful in general. Doesn't seem to care what you want or think. What about the wallpaper?
preraph Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 What makes you think she is even capable of love, given her general belief system?
Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 21 minutes ago, preraph said: What makes you think she is even capable of love, given her general belief system? I used to think because when I went to her country she helped cos I didn't know these language, people anything. And she loved having sex with me plus using my photos as her phone or laptop wallpapers??
preraph Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 My point is she doesn't sound like a good person, so why would you even care to have her in love with you? Assuming she's capable. Are you going to just latch onto any old girl who will have sex with you no matter her standards and beliefs or if she's a good person or not?
Author June2017 Posted June 27, 2020 Author Posted June 27, 2020 13 minutes ago, preraph said: My point is she doesn't sound like a good person, so why would you even care to have her in love with you? Assuming she's capable. Are you going to just latch onto any old girl who will have sex with you no matter her standards and beliefs or if she's a good person or not? No I don't mean to care that she does love me or not. I have understood now. It just clouded my kidhement because I mentioned the things above which felt like love? Or lust?
preraph Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 You tell if someone loves you if they respect you and treat you well and really care about your feelings and are loyal and enhance your life rather than make it more of a struggle.
Author June2017 Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 21 hours ago, preraph said: You tell if someone loves you if they respect you and treat you well and really care about your feelings and are loyal and enhance your life rather than make it more of a struggle. You didn't answer my query
preraph Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 I'm not psychic. I don't know what she was thinking.
Author June2017 Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 2 hours ago, preraph said: I'm not psychic. I don't know what she was thinking. No I mean would you classify this as love? used to think because when I went to her country she helped cos I didn't know these language, people anything. And she loved having sex with me plus using my photos as her phone or laptop wallpapers?? Quote
Author June2017 Posted June 28, 2020 Author Posted June 28, 2020 21 minutes ago, preraph said: No, I wouldn't. Why??? Any explanation? My friends would say its love
preraph Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 The whole thing sounds immature. And you are obsessing and need to stop. 1 1
kendahke Posted June 28, 2020 Posted June 28, 2020 On 6/24/2020 at 1:45 PM, June2017 said: She's quite rich. that's still not a reason to remain in a relationship with her. Her parents will make sure you get none of her money, so I'm not getting why you're mentioning that.
Author June2017 Posted June 29, 2020 Author Posted June 29, 2020 19 hours ago, preraph said: The whole thing sounds immature. And you are obsessing and need to stop. Immature???
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