FMW Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I don't think I would even be looking for someone right now, because we're still in the middle of this first wave of COVID and I don't think I'd be comfortable enough to get close to someone I was just getting to know to make it worth the effort. But - the guy I started seeing since late last year and I took an 8 week break of not seeing each other (although we were in regular contact through phone and text) when everything hit in mid March. For the past 5 or 6 weeks we're back to normal, no distancing even though we live separately. I can tell you that I really did miss physical contact, just simple things like having my arm touched or hand held. So that's why I prefaced my response with "I don't think". Maybe the lack of contact would make me reconsider if there wasn't someone I already knew. But again "I think" that it would have to be a situation where I could trust the other person was taking precautions about who they were around. And it's hard to trust someone you don't really know yet. 1 1
poppyfields Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, Ellener said: To be fair there is always a small risk of one thing or another in dating. Ok, but currently there is an extremely high risk of contracting the virus when dating new people. Unless one follows proper protocol, it is almost guaranteed you will contract it if exposed. And even if you don't care about yourself, you are unknowingly passing to others, as symptoms take up to 14 days to appear. And trust me, you do not want this virus, I know a few people who have, young, healthy, vibrant. One died (he was 36 with no preexisting, may he RIP), and the two others were totally down for the count for 2-3 weeks, said it was the most sick they have ever been, and almost two months later, they're still not fully recovered. Edited June 24, 2020 by poppyfields 2 1
SumGuy Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I would think twice and much more so than normal before going for a kiss. Suspect if either of you have it a kiss is pretty much 100% guaranteed to transmit. Now on sex, heck of in for a penny in for a pound. If you are willing to kiss sex isn’t going to make it much worse if at all. 1
Calmandfocused Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 2 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: I just broke up with someone 2 weeks ago, so I won't be dating anytime soon. Oh no! Ruby you were so happy and settled with this guy. What happened? 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 We had some great times, but it didn't work out 1
Ellener Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 3 hours ago, FMW said: it's hard to trust someone you don't really know yet. In online dating I think it would soon become a script 'taken all precautions' just like 'friends first' etc. I just had a chat with a friend, during the pandemic I am the only person who visited her home, once, and she has visited mine twice, my son has been here three times now: these are the kinds of things we will be running in our heads and asking each other. I was thinking earlier it will evolve into a practice, like 'what's your contact number' ie number of times with unmasked person in confined space, and how would we design a usable 'scoring system'... 1
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 15 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: No problem. I've just heard a lot of friends mention that they are looking forward to going on a date with someone, but they never mention a 'virtual date' so it makes me think that it's a physical date and you know the rest on what happens on dates usually....................... I was thinking of meeting people and keeping a distance...also no physical contact ( obviously). Im guessing from the responses here it wont fly with most men.
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 7 hours ago, poppyfields said: Ok, but currently there is an extremely high risk of contracting the virus when dating new people. Unless one follows proper protocol, it is almost guaranteed you will contract it if exposed. And even if you don't care about yourself, you are unknowingly passing to others, as symptoms take up to 14 days to appear. And trust me, you do not want this virus, I know a few people who have, young, healthy, vibrant. One died (he was 36 with no preexisting, may he RIP), and the two others were totally down for the count for 2-3 weeks, said it was the most sick they have ever been, and almost two months later, they're still not fully recovered. 36 omg. So whats the best thing to do if people want to still date? Im guessing not date at all then ☹
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 15 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: No, I'm not that guy. You have the wrong person. You've totally got the wrong end of the stick and have gone off an a massive tangent. My post was meaning the risk of contracting Coronavirus through actual physical contact (kissing/sex) even though there has to be social distance in place for many things right now. There is a 100 percent certainty you will get the virus if you are physical with a person who has the virus. Which is why i mentioned earlier..i would meet people but stay at a distance/wear a mask etc.
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 12 hours ago, d0nnivain said: H-T I would not. The virus is spreading not being contained. When I was out the other day, a saw two friends. Both moved to hug me & I backed up explaining that I wasn't ready to break social distance. They understood. You shouldn't either because you just got out of a LTR about 72 hours ago. You are no where near ready. Erm. But if you saw two people, you're already in close contact right? Unless you kept the distance
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 9 hours ago, preraph said: I would say don't even date during this time. If you meet someone and can't see them, it will just ruin it and you'll end up just friends, no benefit of the excitement of seeing someone. What if you lose someone with good potential because of not being able to meet 1
Ellener Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 1 hour ago, Roswell91 said: What if you lose someone with good potential because of not being able to meet It all depends on length of time. At first I stopped looking and switched off OLD but if it goes on all year I'll feel differently about a lot of things! 1
carhill Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 (edited) 17 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: I know that the dating world has mostly turned 'virtual' at the moment due to the virus, but wondered if you would risk it by meeting up with someone you met online? Sure, no problem. I did a lot of dating during the AIDS/HepC era, this is nothing. Edited June 25, 2020 by carhill 1
preraph Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 12 minutes ago, Roswell91 said: What if you lose someone with good potential because of not being able to meet If they're worth having they'll keep. 1 1
Ellener Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 13 hours ago, d0nnivain said: When I was out the other day, a saw two friends. Both moved to hug me & I backed up explaining that I wasn't ready to break social distance. They understood. I hugged a friend in a store one day. I'll add that to my Covid contact number, neither of us got sick. It must be awful for the seniors with dementia, lockdown and no physical contact. I started writing a program for the staff at one place but it will have to be easy to do, they aren't doing group things and there aren't enough staff for long one on one sessions. 10 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: I don't imagine I'd be up for kissing unless we were both minimizing exposure and both got tested and were negative. Yes, I guess people could test and self-isolate but are they going to for dating purposes, it's a lot of time commitment for each date. I can see why people have reacted the other way and simply moved in together precipitously.
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 7 minutes ago, Ellener said: It all depends on length of time. At first I stopped looking and switched off OLD but if it goes on all year I'll feel differently about a lot of things! I only say because men tend to be more physical i can't imagine most wanting to talk for months without meeting. Whereas i would be willing to get to know someone in the hope i could eventually meet. I mean what else can be done during these times. A year minimum is a lot of time to lose out on. But im probably a special case lol
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 3 minutes ago, preraph said: If they're worth having they'll keep. True.
Ellener Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 1 hour ago, Roswell91 said: I only say because men tend to be more physical i can't imagine most wanting to talk for months without meeting. Whereas i would be willing to get to know someone in the hope i could eventually meet. I mean what else can be done during these times. A year minimum is a lot of time to lose out on. But im probably a special case lol I just can't see myself being happy without physical touch for months on end... At some point I'll have to take my chances I guess, weigh up what's going on around me and the numbers. There's going to be a low level of Covid infection everywhere for a long time. The vaccine trials in the Uk reported today look promising, they make the requisite required antibodies. 1
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Ellener said: I just can't see myself being happy without physical touch for months on end... At some point I'll have to take my chances I guess, weigh up what's going on around me and the numbers. There's going to be a low level of Covid infection everywhere for a long time. The vaccine trials in the Uk reported today look promising, they make the requisite required antibodies. I think if its a life or death matter, which unfortunately for thousands of people it has been, i would have to go without and be ok with it. Its not the best but it is what it is. Whatever works for you though . Everyone will have a different opinion on this subject lol Well i hope the vaccine works..since the last one completely flopped. Edited June 25, 2020 by Roswell91
preraph Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 32 minutes ago, Roswell91 said: I only say because men tend to be more physical i can't imagine most wanting to talk for months without meeting. Whereas i would be willing to get to know someone in the hope i could eventually meet. I mean what else can be done during these times. A year minimum is a lot of time to lose out on. But im probably a special case lol Youyr best just to wait until it's all over.
Roswell91 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 8 hours ago, preraph said: Youyr best just to wait until it's all over. that could be never lol
preraph Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 Could be never if people don't quarantine and keep going out on dates and the gathering in crowds. 1
dangerous Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 On 6/25/2020 at 1:18 AM, Roswell91 said: I was thinking of meeting people and keeping a distance...also no physical contact ( obviously). Im guessing from the responses here it wont fly with most men. Personally, I haven't been on any dates throughout lockdown. I have some offers now but tbh I'm not that motivated to go on social distance walks etc and I don't have an uncontrollable urge to risk getting Covid via kissing or sex. I'll wait for a while yet. Next week in the UK, we open bars and cafes, so I will see how that goes, and maybe meet friends. If that goes well then I'll date, but still social distancing (1M). 2
dangerous Posted June 27, 2020 Posted June 27, 2020 (edited) On 6/25/2020 at 1:42 AM, carhill said: Sure, no problem. I did a lot of dating during the AIDS/HepC era, this is nothing. hmm rather flippant that: Covid is way more contagious than AIDs! Edited June 27, 2020 by dangerous
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