Hollywood-Tourist Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I know that the dating world has mostly turned 'virtual' at the moment due to the virus, but wondered if you would risk it by meeting up with someone you met online? Worse still, would you risk kissing them or having sex with them if you met them despite the one or two metre rule being in place?
manfrombelow Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 (edited) Are you the guy who insisted on asking a girl out for hiking on 1st date? Your questions/concerns, somehow, indicate to me that you're not really ready for the game of dating. How old are you? 18? 19? I mean, the right question should be "HOW to kiss someone", not "WOULD you...". Jesus Christ! Edited June 24, 2020 by manfrombelow 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted June 24, 2020 Author Posted June 24, 2020 4 minutes ago, manfrombelow said: Are you the guy who insisted on asking a girl out for hiking on 1st date? Your questions/concerns, somehow, indicate to me that you're not really ready for the game of dating. How old are you? 18? 19? I mean, the right question should be "HOW to kiss someone", not "WOULD you...". Jesus Christ! No, I'm not that guy. You have the wrong person. You've totally got the wrong end of the stick and have gone off an a massive tangent. My post was meaning the risk of contracting Coronavirus through actual physical contact (kissing/sex) even though there has to be social distance in place for many things right now. 1
manfrombelow Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 4 minutes ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: No, I'm not that guy. You have the wrong person. You've totally got the wrong end of the stick and have gone off an a massive tangent. My post was meaning the risk of contracting Coronavirus through actual physical contact (kissing/sex) even though there has to be social distance in place for many things right now. Sorry for being mistaken. Well, you have only TWO options here: 1- Stop going to the date altogether to protect yourself from the Coronavirus. 2- Go to the date, kiss, hug and even have sex with her if & when you have the chance. It's as simple as that. 1
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted June 24, 2020 Author Posted June 24, 2020 3 minutes ago, manfrombelow said: Sorry for being mistaken. Well, you have only TWO options here: 1- Stop going to the date altogether to protect yourself from the Coronavirus. 2- Go to the date, kiss, hug and even have sex with her if & when you have the chance. It's as simple as that. No problem. I've just heard a lot of friends mention that they are looking forward to going on a date with someone, but they never mention a 'virtual date' so it makes me think that it's a physical date and you know the rest on what happens on dates usually....................... 1
5x5 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 2 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: I know that the dating world has mostly turned 'virtual' at the moment due to the virus, but wondered if you would risk it by meeting up with someone you met online? Worse still, would you risk kissing them or having sex with them if you met them despite the one or two metre rule being in place? If I were dating others right now, I would be willing to meet up. And I would even go as far as having sex with them, if we all wanted to share sex together. 1
contel3 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 Right now where I am the virus is quite under control. So I have been going on dates with one person. But like I said numbers are very low here and I have to go to work again, so even if I wanted to I couldnt isolate. Its kinda like once restrictions are lifted you are pretty much forced to interact with others.... My thought process was I like this guy, seeing one more person won't make much of a difference. There is absolutely no way I would multidate though. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I wouldn't. I'm sure dating must be weird right now but a virus is a virus and anyone could have it. And it's not just about him possibly giving it to me. What if I gave it to him? I'd feel pretty bad about that. So no. 2
Author Hollywood-Tourist Posted June 24, 2020 Author Posted June 24, 2020 27 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I wouldn't. I'm sure dating must be weird right now but a virus is a virus and anyone could have it. And it's not just about him possibly giving it to me. What if I gave it to him? I'd feel pretty bad about that. So no. This is what I mean and I totally agree with you. It's an invisible virus and you could be carrier of it whether you know it or not. There are still many people who haven't even had themselves tested so to then interact at a close proximity with someone puts both of them in immediate danger. I genuinely think a lot of people underestimate the severity of this virus and it's consequences. 2 1
5x5 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 Well my wife and I still have to go to work at different locations and have done so throughout the pandemic, which means exposure to other people. Even though we aren't afforded the luxury of wearing TOPP3 either (which I guess would look a bit odd if we were wearing full NBC kit), so it's just been hand washing with no masks either. Plus we also regularly visit a hospital where our daughter is an in-patient, and frequently meet with the medical team that is treating our daughter and others. So we are at risk of community transmission from a variety of sources. Yet we still share sex together frequently and get on with things despite the risk we could pass it on to each other if we get it. Now given the level of restrictions in place, where I live in Australia right now. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that if I were dating others, I would be prepared to have sex with them if they were willing and I were willing.
contel3 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 12 minutes ago, 5x5 said: Well my wife and I still have to go to work at different locations and have done so throughout the pandemic, which means exposure to other people. Even though we aren't afforded the luxury of wearing TOPP3 either (which I guess would look a bit odd if we were wearing full NBC kit), so it's just been hand washing with no masks either. Plus we also regularly visit a hospital where our daughter is an in-patient, and frequently meet with the medical team that is treating our daughter and others. So we are at risk of community transmission from a variety of sources. Yet we still share sex together frequently and get on with things despite the risk we could pass it on to each other if we get it. Now given the level of restrictions in place, where I live in Australia right now. It seems perfectly reasonable to me that if I were dating others, I would be prepared to have sex with them if they were willing and I were willing. Yeah I do think it depends a lot on circumstances!! During full lockdown there is no way I would have breached the rules. Also, if I was in a high risk area I would probably continue isolating regardless. At this point my town has one case a day though, I would feel silly putting my whole life on hold. Im more likely to be run over by a car. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 A lot of people are now going on "real" dates again and re-engaging intimately with other people, yes. It's obvious from my username where I live; we were under complete lockdown (more like house arrest) for 2 months. Now that things are opening back up slowly, many here are getting back into dating. I assume this will all depend on where someone is geographically and their own personal comfort level and sense of caution, though. I know a lot of people in different countries who didn't (and still don't) really understand the seriousness of the pandemic. I have to wonder, are you asking because you're trying to suss out whether your girlfriend is going to kiss the guy she invited to sleep over at her house? (as per your last thread) 1
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 H-T I would not. The virus is spreading not being contained. When I was out the other day, a saw two friends. Both moved to hug me & I backed up explaining that I wasn't ready to break social distance. They understood. You shouldn't either because you just got out of a LTR about 72 hours ago. You are no where near ready. 2
elaine567 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 It is not about restrictions, restrictions are a political tool and easing restrictions is more about driving the economy, rather than individual safety. There is a weighing up of risks by those in power. x number of people fall ill, y number of people end up in hospital, z number of people die, vs the GDP. At the moment in the UK, it is deemed worth the risk to expose many to the virus to keep the economy turning over. The virus has not gone away. Tracking and tracing is inadequate, so no-one really knows where the virus is and where it isn't. So it is best to quantify your own risks and those you love and work with and act accordingly. 1
lurker74 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 Not only would, but did. Be smart about it and don't date around in this environment. But the best decision I made was a date at the beginning of this that ended in a nice make out sesh and someone to be with through the lock down. And the good news is that if things continue on this trajectory, I may no longer be able to give dating advice (that is, I may marry this one!). I am very happy that I didn't hold off and, if I am being entirely frank, for me it has definitely been worth the risk. But your mileage may vary. Just don't be dumb about it. 1
kendahke Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: I know that the dating world has mostly turned 'virtual' at the moment due to the virus, but wondered if you would risk it by meeting up with someone you met online? Worse still, would you risk kissing them or having sex with them if you met them despite the one or two metre rule being in place? It depends upon when I met them. If I met them - in person - before the shutdown, yes. The gentleman I've been talking to since early March and I have sporadically seen one another in person, but we've kept social distancing. He helped me get some tires for my car and the second time, I was shopping in his area and he met me at a parking lot and we chatted from our car windows. This past weekend, my state has opened up and we met for brunch. We're still at the point where we're not risking kissing each other. He's back at work and his work involves working with the public--mine doesn't and I work remotely--so we're both being very cautious. Mind you, we're both in our 60's, so we're in a demographic that's impacted. If I've only talked to them online since April and never met them in person, no. I wouldn't risk that. Edited June 24, 2020 by kendahke 1
poppyfields Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I wouldn't. I'm sure dating must be weird right now but a virus is a virus and anyone could have it. And it's not just about him possibly giving it to me. What if I gave it to him? I'd feel pretty bad about that. So no. I agree. Here in CA, the lockdown restrictions have lifted some and folks are going out to parks, beaches, dining in restaurants, going on dates with new people. And what's being reported now is there has been a massive spike of new cases, 6000 just last week! 300+ per day in my city alone. Higher in Los Angeles. This is triple the amount of cases per day since the lockdown began in March. Problem is, folks are going out but not adhering to the restrictions still in place, like wearing face masks in groups, maintaining social distance of six feet, it's business as usual. Ugh. Restaurants are in massive violation, allowing patrons to sit at tables close together, practically on top of each other. So now we have the spike, and may have to revert back to total lockdown again. If I were single, there is no way on God's green earth I would be kissing or having sex with a new person! No effing way. Symptoms can take as long as 14 days to appear, so that new person you're kissing or having sex with might be a carrier and not know it and will pass the virus to you. And in turn, you unknowingly pass to others. This virus is incredibly contagious! My bf and I are together now after being apart 3 months. We both self-isolated for 14 days before seeing each other again so we know we're safe. Sorry for the rant but it's pretty serious in CA right now and the thought of being forced into another full lockdown because of some (or many) irresponsible people who don't give a crap is very upsetting to me. Edited June 24, 2020 by poppyfields 1 1 1
Ellener Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 6 hours ago, Hollywood-Tourist said: I've just heard a lot of friends mention that they are looking forward to going on a date with someone, but they never mention a 'virtual date' so it makes me think that it's a physical date and you know the rest on what happens on dates usually....................... It's a difficult one. I planned a date finally for last weekend since we're now all reopening but the numbers went up and the mayor appealed for everyone to stay home until they fall again. So cancelled...but yes it's weird, will I ever have sex or affection again?! It must be on other people's minds too because Verywellmind website did an article a couple of days ago about 'navigating touch deprivation in the social distancing era'. 1 1
Ellener Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 1 hour ago, lurker74 said: don't date around in this environment. I think ultimately people will come to the conclusion they can't live life in solitary but they will minimise their own number of contacts and only have contact with people they trust to do the same.
Stevnx3 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 A little bit of risk never hurt! So kiss and sex me up! No. I am only kidding. In today's environment, only if I knew them to some extent. And knew their hygiene well enough. Still a risk. It is either that or make out with a screen. Ha!
preraph Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I would say don't even date during this time. If you meet someone and can't see them, it will just ruin it and you'll end up just friends, no benefit of the excitement of seeing someone. 1
Ellener Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 1 hour ago, Stevnx3 said: Still a risk. It is either that or make out with a screen. Ha! To be fair there is always a small risk of one thing or another in dating. There was an advice piece for safe sex when COVID first appeared which did the rounds, it was about trying new positions and never made official public health policy I don't think!
Stevnx3 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 Just now, Ellener said: To be fair there is always a small risk of one thing or another in dating. There was an advice piece for safe sex when COVID first appeared which did the rounds, it was about trying new positions and never made official public health policy I don't think! Rear positions, huh? None face-facing positions, eh? So much for face-sitting, huh? I could go on but I won't. Just no kissing.
Ruby Slippers Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 I just broke up with someone 2 weeks ago, so I won't be dating anytime soon. If I were single and looking right now, I might meet up with someone very special in a socially distanced way. I don't imagine I'd be up for kissing unless we were both minimizing exposure and both got tested and were negative. 1
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