Thinking of you....

[Britney25]

10 hours ago, introverted1 said:

Recorded messages?

My guess is he's married.

Is this guy also much older than you are?

I meant WhatsApp the walkie talkie thing where you record yourself while talking. No he's not married

[Backinthesaddleagain]

Britney25, 

Calm down. You are reading into things way too much. Just be casual and let things flow. Try not to make everything a calculated move or you will drive yourself, your new guy, and us crazy.  

[Britney25]

19 hours ago, Backinthesaddleagain said:

Britney25, 

Calm down. You are reading into things way too much. Just be casual and let things flow. Try not to make everything a calculated move or you will drive yourself, your new guy, and us crazy.  

You're right.. he texted me he misses my lips. Don't know what to say to that without going to the sexual side. You know

[Britney25]

On 6/22/2020 at 6:26 PM, Stevnx3 said:

Well..to be fair. You are thinking about him, no? Hence the post! Of course, you would be as he text you, so that is to be given.

Maybe he is smitten with you and truly is thinking about you? I do not see why it would hurt anything for you to respond in kind, if you are thinking of him too or as some have said send an emoji or something simple, like hi.

 

Today he texted me he misses my lips. What do you think is a good reply to that without getting sexual?

[lurker74]

1 minute ago, Britney25 said:

Today he texted me he misses my lips. What do you think is a good reply to that without getting sexual?

REPLY FOR MISSING YOUR LIPS: Then play your cards right and you will see them again soon.

REPLAY FOR THINKING OF YOU: Good thoughts I hope? (don't forget the question mark)

[poppyfields]

13 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

You're right.. he texted me he misses my lips. Don't know what to say to that without going to the sexual side. You know

Not only is that comment totally cheesy (cringe) and straight out of the Corey Wayne dating handbook, like verbatim I've read it (he misses your lips? Lol) it's way too over the top for only having had one date months ago.

Yeah, it's pretty clear where he was going or hoping to go with that.

If this were me, I'd be totally turned off by that, next!

But your call.  Good luck!  

Choose wisely! 

Edited June 24, 2020 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Not only is him saying that totally cheesy and straight out of the Corey Wayne dating handbook (he misses your lips? Lol) it's way too over the top for only having one date months ago.

Yeah, it's pretty clear where he was going or hoping to go with that? 

If this were me, I'd be totally turned off by that, next!

But your call.  Good luck!  

He added thinking of you as well before the missing your lips. It's too forward you think? Really?

[poppyfields]

5 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

He added thinking of you as well before the missing your lips. It's too forward you think? Really?

Thinking of you is fine after only one date months ago. It was a feeler text, checking in, nothing more, nothing less.

I miss your lips?  I dunno, your call, you sound okay with it.

I cringed when reading it, it was cheesy, contrived, it's got player vibe all over it.  But that's just me!

Did you have sex with him on your one date?  Heavy make-out session? 

Did he explain why he hasn't stayed in touch after the date, where he's been?  

 

[Britney25]

9 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Thinking of you is fine after only one date months ago. It was a feeler text, checking in, nothing more, nothing less.

I miss your lips?  I dunno, your call, you sound okay with it.

I cringed when reading it, it was cheesy, contrived, it's got player vibe all over it.  But that's just me!

Did you have sex with him on your one date?  Heavy make-out session? 

Did he explain why he hasn't stayed in touch after the date, where he's been?  

 

He has always been in touch.  He lives in Canada.  We were supposed to see each other but because of covid it didn't happen. Yes we were intimate but no sex.

[Britney25]

12 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

Thinking of you is fine after only one date months ago. It was a feeler text, checking in, nothing more, nothing less.

I miss your lips?  I dunno, your call, you sound okay with it.

I cringed when reading it, it was cheesy, contrived, it's got player vibe all over it.  But that's just me!

Did you have sex with him on your one date?  Heavy make-out session? 

Did he explain why he hasn't stayed in touch after the date, where he's been?  

 

Why it's not romantic to you?

[poppyfields]

25 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Why it's not romantic to you?

It doesnt matter what I think.  Only what you think.  

I just read in response to his thinking of you text, you sent him a kiss emoji. 

So you kind of led him into making the miss your lips comment. 

JMO, but if you had an established intimate connection and relationship, telling your girlfriend you miss her lips, would make sense. 

But after only one date months ago with sporadic once a week communication since, I would find it a bit playerish and over the top.  

But I am not a fan of flowery romantic talk anyway, I find it contrived.  

You like me?  Make a plan to see me after covid, in the meantime, let's talk and get to know each other.

Not tell me meeting up will have to wait, but you miss my lips, ugh.

Sounds like a nice segue into sexting.

Again, just me though.  You do YOU!  

 

Edited June 24, 2020 by poppyfields

[Britney25]

10 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

It doesnt matter what I think.  Only what you think.  

I just read in response to his thinking of you text, you sent him a kiss emoji. 

So you kind of led him into making the miss your lips comment. 

JMO, but if you had an established intimate connection and relationship, telling your girlfriend you miss her lips, would make sense. 

But after only one date months ago with sporadic once a week communication since, I would find it a bit playerish and over the top.  

But I am not a fan of flowery romantic talk anyway, I find it contrived.  

You like me?  Make a plan to see me after covid, in the meantime, let's talk and get to know each other.

Not tell me meeting up will have to wait, but you miss my lips, ugh.

Sounds like a nice segue into sexting.

Again, just me though.  You do YOU!  

 

That was yesterday. He texted more with me on how I'm doing. This miss your lips and thinking of you is from today text. So he texted me again today.  

[Britney25]

11 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

It doesnt matter what I think.  Only what you think.  

I just read in response to his thinking of you text, you sent him a kiss emoji. 

So you kind of led him into making the miss your lips comment. 

JMO, but if you had an established intimate connection and relationship, telling your girlfriend you miss her lips, would make sense. 

But after only one date months ago with sporadic once a week communication since, I would find it a bit playerish and over the top.  

But I am not a fan of flowery romantic talk anyway, I find it contrived.  

You like me?  Make a plan to see me after covid, in the meantime, let's talk and get to know each other.

Not tell me meeting up will have to wait, but you miss my lips, ugh.

Sounds like a nice segue into sexting.

Again, just me though.  You do YOU!  

 

Plus we dont sext, and its never too sexual so why would this comment all of a sudden during daytime mean hes a player? Just confused because I do like him and dont want to be used...you know

[poppyfields]

Britney, you asked our opinions and I gave you mine.  No need to try and convince me otherwise, okay?

Again, if you are cool with it, that is all that matters!  Go with it, see where it takes you. 

I am just one person, perhaps others will chime in.

Good luck!  

Edited June 24, 2020 by poppyfields

[Stevnx3]

1 hour ago, lurker74 said:

REPLY FOR MISSING YOUR LIPS: Then play your cards right and you will see them again soon.

REPLAY FOR THINKING OF YOU: Good thoughts I hope? (don't forget the question mark)

You can reply with this. Pretty mild really, should get the job done.

[Britney25]

8 minutes ago, Stevnx3 said:

You can reply with this. Pretty mild really, should get the job done.

One more question...do you think that is being too forward ? Or it's just flirty?

[Backinthesaddleagain]

Just now, Britney25 said:

One more question...do you think that is being too forward ? Or it's just flirty?

Again, who cares if someone thinks it's too flirty or not? What do you think? We can give advice and opinions, but in the end you are the one who knows the guy and situation better than us. As a guy, I like it when a woman is a little more upfront without being too aggressive. It's let's me know she is into me. Hopefully she has good communication skills and doesn't say anything cringey. It sounds like a decent reply to me though. Here are some other options- don't forget the emoji's! Lol

REPLY FOR MISSING YOUR LIPS: "Settle down, tiger  " or"down boy  " or  "Oh yeah?" or "What do you miss about them?" or "They aren't missing, they are right here on my face  "

REPLY FOR THINKING OF YOU: "That's sweet, I was thinking about you too." or "Awww" or "What are you thinking about" or just a "  " 

Have fun with it and be creative. Huge bonus points for including humor. - guys love women with a sense of humor too!

[Britney25]

7 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said:

Again, who cares if someone thinks it's too flirty or not? What do you think? We can give advice and opinions, but in the end you are the one who knows the guy and situation better than us. As a guy, I like it when a woman is a little more upfront without being too aggressive. It's let's me know she is into me. Hopefully she has good communication skills and doesn't say anything cringey. It sounds like a decent reply to me though. Here are some other options- don't forget the emoji's! Lol

REPLY FOR MISSING YOUR LIPS: "Settle down, tiger  " or"down boy  " or  "Oh yeah?" or "What do you miss about them?" or "They aren't missing, they are right here on my face  "

REPLY FOR THINKING OF YOU: "That's sweet, I was thinking about you too." or "Awww" or "What are you thinking about" or just a "  " 

Have fun with it and be creative. Huge bonus points for including humor. - guys love women with a sense of humor too!

Thank you! I guess I'm asking this because I'm not sure his intentions yet. I hope he wants to potentially have a relationship with me and not just a fling, but since we are far away from each other I dont think he would waste his time maybe? 

[poppyfields]

11 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said:

Have fun with it and be creative. Huge bonus points for including humor. - guys love women with a sense of humor too!

Absolutely agree with this!  Be creative, have fun!

Try and chill. 

[Backinthesaddleagain]

3 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

Thank you! I guess I'm asking this because I'm not sure his intentions yet. I hope he wants to potentially have a relationship with me and not just a fling, but since we are far away from each other I dont think he would waste his time maybe? 

With relationships you just never know. No matter what the situation is, it is a gamble for both parties. Do your best to minimize risk and protect yourself, but don't be afraid to let things flow and see what happens. You may find out you don't like him as much as he likes you or vice versa. Hopefully he doesn't have a micro-peen 

[Britney25]

11 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said:

With relationships you just never know. No matter what the situation is, it is a gamble for both parties. Do your best to minimize risk and protect yourself, but don't be afraid to let things flow and see what happens. You may find out you don't like him as much as he likes you or vice versa. Hopefully he doesn't have a micro-peen 

So I asked him what he misses about them and he said everything.  Hmmm not very creative lol

[lurker74]

4 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

So I asked him what he misses about them and he said everything.  Hmmm not very creative lol

Well, we can help you with replies but not with making your guy interesting!

[Britney25]

4 minutes ago, lurker74 said:

Well, we can help you with replies but not with making your guy interesting!

I know lol

[lurker74]

5 minutes ago, Britney25 said:

I know lol

Here, type this into your phone and send it to yourself and then pretend it's him:

What do I miss about you, Britney? I'd like to say it's the way that you pupils widen when you notice me stare at you, the sound of your laugh when I surprise you, or the way that even though I barely know you, I already admire you. I'd like to say that it's the curve of your hip through your skirt or they way I can imagine myself sliding my lips softly along your collar bone one night under the stars. I'd like to say that I miss your thoughts and our conversation and the way that time ceased to exist in the short moments we were together. I'd like to say all of that, but the truth is, it's none of them. In fact, it's all of them...but it's more. I miss the way that I feel when I am with you and I would love another chance to feel that way. 

Edited June 24, 2020 by lurker74

[Britney25]

2 minutes ago, lurker74 said:

Here, type this into your phone and send it to yourself and then pretend it's him:

What do I miss about you, Britney? I'd like to say it's the way that you pupils widen when you notice me stare at you, the sound of your laugh when I surprise you, or the way that even though I barely know you, I already admire you. I'd like to say that it's the curve of your hip through your skirt or they way I can imagine myself sliding my lips softly along your collar bone one night under the stars. I'd like to say that I miss your thoughts and our conversation and the way that time ceased to exist in the short moments we were together. I'd like to say all of that, but the truth is, it's none of them. In fact, it's all of them...but it's more. I miss the way that I feel when I am with you and I would love another chance to feel that way. 

Exactly what I wish he would say actually hahaha