Britney25 Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 Just got a text from a guy I like but we only had one date since this covid started. Today he texts me "thinking of you"...I have no idea how to respond without sounding too forward. I feel like thinking of you too is too soon to say??
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 2 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Just got a text from a guy I like but we only had one date since this covid started. Today he texts me "thinking of you"...I have no idea how to respond without sounding too forward. I feel like thinking of you too is too soon to say?? I don't know. That's not much to go on. How about just a smiley face or "hi"? You don't have to say anything forward. He wanted to initate a conversation, let him do that. "Thinking of you" doesn't open anything up. "Thinking of you. How are you holding up during quarantine?" or something else where you can actually give a response would be opening up a conversation. You can't say "thinking of you too"...because were you even doing that? And if you do say that you just kind of sound like a parrot...KWIM? People who say "miss you too" have known eachother for more than one date, usually. They care about eachother in some way. (Just usually.) You can't say "thanks" because...eeew.... I'd just smile at him or something and then let it die right there if he couldn't come up with anything bigger than that. 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 22, 2020 Author Posted June 22, 2020 7 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I don't know. That's not much to go on. How about just a smiley face or "hi"? You don't have to say anything forward. He wanted to initate a conversation, let him do that. "Thinking of you" doesn't open anything up. "Thinking of you. How are you holding up during quarantine?" or something else where you can actually give a response would be opening up a conversation. You can't say "thinking of you too"...because were you even doing that? And if you do say that you just kind of sound like a parrot...KWIM? People who say "miss you too" have known eachother for more than one date, usually. They care about eachother in some way. (Just usually.) You can't say "thanks" because...eeew.... I'd just smile at him or something and then let it die right there if he couldn't come up with anything bigger than that. Can I say how are you and send him a kiss emoji? Or just kiss? 1
Amanda141 Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 Did you text much doing lockdown? If yes, I dont think it’s too soon that he told you that sentence, as covid crisis started 3 months ago. Actually, I find it very romantic I dont know where you live, but in many countries things are slowly getting back to normal, maybe you can arrange a second real date soon. if I were you I’d respond “ hope to see you soon” or “ how are you?”
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 (edited) 26 minutes ago, Britney25 said: Can I say how are you and send him a kiss emoji? Or just kiss? No. I mean, you did ASK me if you could. So there's my answer... No. No you may not. It's weird since you and he haven't spoken in a bit (???) and since you only had one date. Just "hi!" Give it a shot... ETA: Wait...are you saying you've been texting? Because I got the impression that you had had the one date but that's all you'd heard from him. If you've been texting back and forth only you know how "deep" things have gotten that way. I wouldn't take some random person on the internet's advice on how to keep speaking to someone you're already in a relationship (or developing) with. If for example you've been texting a lot but it's never been anything personal and you just start sending hearts that would be...maybe weird? There could be so many scenarios here... If it were me, and we'd been randomly texting but never anything very lovey-dovey, and all of a sudden he texted "I miss you," I'd probably respond with, "Oh, that's sweet!" If we hadn't texted at all and it had been a while since the date and he texted "I miss you" I'd check the time to see if it was just after the bars close, LOL...either way if it were out of the blue I might say "Whoa! So anyway, yeah, hi back" and maybe a laughing emoji? Or...something? If OTOH we were hot and heavy, or at least had both indicated we wanted to develop a relationship, I might say "I was thinking the same thing..." If we were already exchanging lovey-ish stuff I'd for sure send some sort of heart thingie. 'Cause why not... There are like...ten thousand possibilities here... Edited June 22, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 22, 2020 Author Posted June 22, 2020 12 minutes ago, amanda141 said: Did you text much doing lockdown? If yes, I dont think it’s too soon that he told you that sentence, as covid crisis started 3 months ago. Actually, I find it very romantic I dont know where you live, but in many countries things are slowly getting back to normal, maybe you can arrange a second real date soon. if I were you I’d respond “ hope to see you soon” or “ how are you?” We didn't text everyday no but he dis initiate all the time, and I would say it would be some texting not like every week sort of thing. Last time he texted me MISS YOU and hope to see you soon. I live in NYC and he's in Canada so things are complicated in that sense for a second date right now due to travel.
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 10 minutes ago, Britney25 said: We didn't text everyday no but he dis initiate all the time, and I would say it would be some texting not like every week sort of thing. Last time he texted me MISS YOU and hope to see you soon. I live in NYC and he's in Canada so things are complicated in that sense for a second date right now due to travel. Well, only you know the temperature of your texts... But I would probably just go "Awwww" and then maybe that emoji with the heart eyes if I felt compelled. Again...only you know how things have gone with him, what was said, how much of a future you talked about, if you and he have been romantic or more just like besties or what. What did you say last time he said "miss you"? Maybe say that again.
Stevnx3 Posted June 22, 2020 Posted June 22, 2020 Well..to be fair. You are thinking about him, no? Hence the post! Of course, you would be as he text you, so that is to be given. Maybe he is smitten with you and truly is thinking about you? I do not see why it would hurt anything for you to respond in kind, if you are thinking of him too or as some have said send an emoji or something simple, like hi.
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 1 hour ago, Stevnx3 said: Well..to be fair. You are thinking about him, no? Hence the post! Of course, you would be as he text you, so that is to be given. Maybe he is smitten with you and truly is thinking about you? I do not see why it would hurt anything for you to respond in kind, if you are thinking of him too or as some have said send an emoji or something simple, like hi. I replied how are you with a kiss emoji, he just responded with how are you my dear? I responded and that what is? What does that mean? He's just checking in?
Stevnx3 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 12 minutes ago, Britney25 said: I replied how are you with a kiss emoji, he just responded with how are you my dear? I responded and that what is? What does that mean? He's just checking in? Asking how you are? That is what I would mean by that I may do an emoji back. I wouldn't analyze it too deeply, right now. You can answer with, "I am fine, and you?" See what he says...or whatever you want, descriptive of fine my day was...and see what he says. 1
basil67 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 Yes, he's checking in. Tell him how you are and ask how he's doing. 1
divegrl Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 I would not stress over these simple little texts. Relationships are not built over texting. I would just respond, “ I am doing awesome “. Has he initiated phone calls with you? Or plans for another date? These would be signs he has a high interest. 2 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, Stevnx3 said: Asking how you are? That is what I would mean by that I may do an emoji back. I wouldn't analyze it too deeply, right now. You can answer with, "I am fine, and you?" See what he says...or whatever you want, descriptive of fine my day was...and see what he says. No sorry I meant I already replied to him I'm doing good and he left that on read only with no further texting 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 5 minutes ago, basil67 said: Yes, he's checking in. Tell him how you are and ask how he's doing. He already asked how I'm doing and I replied but he left that on read and didnt reply more.
Stevnx3 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 Just now, Britney25 said: No sorry I meant I already replied to him I'm doing good and he left that on read only with no further texting Really? Bummer...if he is interested one would think he'd talk more...er text. I would. If I were interested in you and was him, totally be carrying out a more thorough conversation... 1
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, divegrl said: I would not stress over these simple little texts. Relationships are not built over texting. I would just respond, “ I am doing awesome “. Has he initiated phone calls with you? Or plans for another date? These would be signs he has a high interest. No he doesnt iniatiate phone calls, only recorded messages or text, for second date he talked about it yes
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 1 minute ago, Stevnx3 said: Really? Bummer...if he is interested one would think he'd talk more...er text. I would. If I were interested in you and was him, totally be carrying out a more thorough conversation... Yeah...well sometimes he talks more and other times like today nothing...I dont understand him but he does initiate a lot.
Stevnx3 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 1 minute ago, Britney25 said: Yeah...well sometimes he talks more and other times like today nothing...I dont understand him but he does initiate a lot. That is peculiar. Is he very busy at times? Maybe tired from work or? Well...I hope he responds with more later on..
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 Just now, Stevnx3 said: That is peculiar. Is he very busy at times? Maybe tired from work or? Well...I hope he responds with more later on.. To be honest I'm not sure...sometimes I think he just keeps me on the hook maybe? He's just checking in if I'm ok
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, Stevnx3 said: That is peculiar. Is he very busy at times? Maybe tired from work or? Well...I hope he responds with more later on.. He just texted right now again...oops lol
Stevnx3 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Britney25 said: To be honest I'm not sure...sometimes I think he just keeps me on the hook maybe? He's just checking in if I'm ok I'd think so. Usually people are more invested in a new or budding ( potential ) relationship. As such put more energy into contacting( edit, I realize he initiates, I just meant more ). But maybe it is not his style...I realize with Covid, it puts a dent in that... Edited June 23, 2020 by Stevnx3 1
Miss Spider Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 This is a common text people put out there as a feeler or to keep a potential interest warm 1
introverted1 Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 10 hours ago, Britney25 said: No he doesnt iniatiate phone calls, only recorded messages or text, for second date he talked about it yes Recorded messages? My guess is he's married. Is this guy also much older than you are? 1
Blind-Sided Posted June 23, 2020 Posted June 23, 2020 What's the big deal? Do you like him on some level? Do you want to see him again? Then just say "I'm happy to hear from you again, and I've been thinking of you." It's non-committal and not overly flirty. Open the dialog and go out again. Good luck.
Author Britney25 Posted June 23, 2020 Author Posted June 23, 2020 9 hours ago, Blind-Sided said: What's the big deal? Do you like him on some level? Do you want to see him again? Then just say "I'm happy to hear from you again, and I've been thinking of you." It's non-committal and not overly flirty. Open the dialog and go out again. Good luck. You're right. I do like it. I texted hope to see you very soon. He said he wants to visit me again but because of covid he doesnt know when yet and that he misses me 1
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