Pzykotik Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Well my girlfriend dumped me after a year and a half... I sent her this email... " I don't know if this will make sense but I need to say it... You're been really horrible to me, after dumping me at a party I had been looking forward to... You jump into going out with some other guy, not caring how that made me feel, you rubbed it in my face... THEN asked me to come up and fix your PC, which I dropped everything to come and do. Then while I was at your house fixing the thing you spent half an hour on the phone to him talking about how you wanted him to do your coursework... Then told me how you'd lent him the IPod I'd bought you 3 days before you dumped me! All this has come as a shock to me Jess as a week before you had sat with me in Nandos and told me how much you wanted our relationship to work, I loved you because you were such a sweet person... So what happened to you? After a year and a half of a great relationship, you now tell people how you're loving single life and that I treated you badly... How I didn't let you go out and had a problem with you having guy friends... If you remember it was NEVER about the people you were with, it was just that I worried about you being out late on your own and didn't appreciate that you lied to me. You lied about going out after D of E, stayed at your Ex boyfriends house, made up a BIG long story about it and then didn't understand why I was nervous about you going clubbing again with a load of guys! All I ever asked was that you let me know what was happening so I didn't worry about you. Jessica you expected me to take on a role where I was looking out for you, making sure you never went without, that you had new trainers when you needed them etc etc. Still you found it necessary to lie to me, about what I thought were purely innocent things. When you told me that you were going to KoKo with Georgie, all I asked was that you let me know you were ok every so often, but you couldn't even do that as your phone was in some other guys pocket all night! It seems Georgie didn't even go with you! It may have upset you when I met up with anybody but I always told you. Any time you got upset, I didn't go, and for me to just talk to you about any of it, well it seems you've taken that as me tying you down. It wasn't at my suggestion that you came to my house on a Friday night and stayed here until Sunday afternoon, it was because you wanted to. Now I'm not saying for a minute that I didn't enjoy being with you all that time but if you were so miserable doing it then why did you? If you were that miserable why didn't you pack me up before I took you to Cyprus, or before I built you a PC, or bought you an IPod?? My family and I put ourselves out for you, you were always made welcome and to be unkind about your time with me now seems a dig to all of us. I've been desperately hanging onto the thought that you might turn around and remember all the great times we had together and want to try and work things out. Instead it seems that irrespective of all of that, you would prefer to go and grind with other guys in clubs and cuddle up with Andre. So, I can't do this anymore... You've been more unkind than I know how to describe to you and I don't want it anymore I'm going to ask you not to contact me again. " Now I sent this email after a month of awkwardly talking to her and having her cry to me on the phone because she didn't want to hurt me and she wants to be friends but doesn't want to get back together and try and work things out... And talking to other people about how she thinks she's done the right thing breaking up with me... blah blah, anyway... I called her 3days after sending that email because I needed to sort out how she's going to pay me back the £400 she owes me and I needed to get my phone back from her, we spent an hour then on the phone talking about how she'd made me feel and then and then another hour talking about what we'd been up to recently, now this is all good... apart from that I have no idea what she's doing this for! Plus, she's suddenly going out all the time to clubs with this 'friend' of hers... Any input would be appreciated... I'm really getting down about this, I loved her with all my heart and then... well you can see how she treated me, I want to give her the benifit of the doubt and try and work things out with her but I don't know if that's a good idea or if I'm going to see her as a 'friend' and that'll be it....
Esteban1931 Posted October 11, 2005 Posted October 11, 2005 Hey man, I feel for u but she is really not ready for a relationship! She has treated u so badly but yet wants to keep u there just in case. Let her go and go NC and try to make her believe u moved on with ur life. Then when she thinks she can no longer have u she'll want u. Then it'll be up to u. In my case I was the reason she left but in ur case its not ur fault. so it could work.
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