Author max3732 Posted June 20, 2020 Author Posted June 20, 2020 Just to follow up I'm definitely not going to bring it up again with the woman where we already talked about it. I just measured my height and I'm barely taller than 5'10. That's what I have on my profile and I see no reason to lie about it. If we're communicating on a dating site where we can both see each other's heights I guess there is no reason to ask her how she feels about the fact I'm shorter since she already knows that. If she didn't it might be worth bringing it up. Sounds like it's not a good ice breaker question so I'm not going to use it that way. If I actually meet any of these women I'll find out how it feels in person. Hopefully things will go well and I'll find out what it's like to kiss someone taller than me. This one that said she wants to talk to me looks like a model and has pictures with her long legs. I already know that I'm physically attracted to her face primarily followed by general body type. I'm suspecting that I'm going to find that height is irrelevant 4
Miss Spider Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 (edited) Yep my bf is 6’3 and he jokes my heels are fine as long as I’m not taller but it’s a joke. I’ve never cared about that and have dated dudes that were >5’6 Even shorter guys are still bigger than me but as long as it doesn’t interfere with anything, don’t see the issue. Honestly, the people I’ve seen most concerned about this are the shorter ones 1 hour ago, Azincourt said: Exactly. That's the average height for women in the Netherlands and in many other Countries with a young urban population, and most of the women are dating a man their own height or an inch taller, or shorter. Women and men are more than free to have expectations in the men and women they date, but remember that the more standards one has, the less of a dating pool one gets to swim in. A man being insecure about his height is pretty much like shooting yourself on the foot. Who cares. You're still 2 to 5 times stronger than her, chill bro. You're still man enough for her to want you. Edited June 20, 2020 by Cookiesandough
Realitysux Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 9 minutes ago, Cookiesandough said: Yep my bf is 6’3 and he jokes my heels are fine as long as I’m not taller but it’s a joke. I’ve never cared about that and have dated dudes that were >5’6 Even shorter guys are still bigger than me but as long as it doesn’t interfere with anything, don’t see the issue. Honestly, the people I’ve seen most concerned about this are the shorter ones I'm glad you found someone. You look so beautiful in your picture and I hope you find lots of happiness. I'm kind of getting over and moving on from someone who is also tall but rejected me so I have to log off this site for a while and make effort to detach, fall out of love and continue my life as an unattached single female with better hobbies. I have a therapist which makes it much more easy. Take care beautiful xxoo 1
Azincourt Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 34 minutes ago, max3732 said: Just to follow up I'm definitely not going to bring it up again with the woman where we already talked about it. I just measured my height and I'm barely taller than 5'10. That's what I have on my profile and I see no reason to lie about it. If we're communicating on a dating site where we can both see each other's heights I guess there is no reason to ask her how she feels about the fact I'm shorter since she already knows that. If she didn't it might be worth bringing it up. Sounds like it's not a good ice breaker question so I'm not going to use it that way. If I actually meet any of these women I'll find out how it feels in person. Hopefully things will go well and I'll find out what it's like to kiss someone taller than me. This one that said she wants to talk to me looks like a model and has pictures with her long legs. I already know that I'm physically attracted to her face primarily followed by general body type. I'm suspecting that I'm going to find that height is irrelevant The average height in America for men is 5'9''. World's average height for men is 5'8''. You're already taller than most men around the world. The chances of you coming across women who are taller than you - if you don't live in Scandinavia or in the Netherlands - is so low that it doesn't matter. If there are women you already know that you are interested in dating, and they're taller than you, then it's possible those women wouldn't date you because you're not taller than them, but with 3.5 billion women in the world you're really concerned about being shorter than a woman? Dude. No. Don't ask women how they feel about their height. If you don't bring attention to your height, you think women will? They don't even care. 1
Miss Spider Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 1 hour ago, Realitysux said: I'm glad you found someone. You look so beautiful in your picture and I hope you find lots of happiness. I'm kind of getting over and moving on from someone who is also tall but rejected me so I have to log off this site for a while and make effort to detach, fall out of love and continue my life as an unattached single female with better hobbies. I have a therapist which makes it much more easy. Take care beautiful xxoo Thank you so much for the kind words. I am sorry you’re still getting over someone. I’m sure you will find someone way better when the time and in the meantime enjoy your hobbies.
Mrin Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 Not to get all meathead here but if it means that much to you - get jacked. I'm 5'10". So I am usually taller or at least as tall as the women I date here in the US. Occasionally I do date a much taller women. I once asked if the height difference bothered her and she said it would if I wasn't so much bigger than her muscle wise. Her words were something like, "I may be taller but I feel almost dainty standing next to you". Plus your body will thank you for it.
ssm617 Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 On 6/19/2020 at 1:14 PM, Hopeful30 said: As a tall woman of nearly 6 feet who has struggled her whole life because of this, the answer is yes, mention it. First of all, it's considerate. No surprises (boy do I have stories for that) and second...do you actually know your height? I literally measured myself on a wall with a tape measure. Most guys I meet are surprised they aren't taller because they "thought" they were 6 feet. Which is annoying, know your facts. Lastly, date a shorter woman and don't compromise on height. From a female perspective, I also don't like looking down on my man. I don't feel ladylike and while height is not THE most important quality, I secretly always feel uncomfortable being the taller one. I love wearing heels and when I date men my height or shorter, I can't dress up as much because i will feel uncomfortable being taller...and a sexy dress in flats doesn't feel the same. Again, not the most important quality and easy to overlook if the guy is great...but deep down, every woman wants a bigger man. Just how deep down, every man wants to be "the man" in the relationship and feel bigger and stronger so he can protect his woman. That being said, follow your gut. Always follow your gut. Many (not all though) women on dating websites do want a taller man. I have heard women state this for a variety of reasons. Tall men can "protect a woman" better, have better genes etc. Short men have "Napoleon Complex". I have heard some women say tall men have "larger penises". Many men might have mild preference for a shorter woman. But I doubt a large percentage of men would turn down an attractive woman just because she is tall. In this particular case, if his height is on the profile, then she already knows she is taller than him. If his height is not on the profile, I would wait until she mentions it. Then just be honest with her when she asks him about it.
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 On 6/20/2020 at 10:57 AM, max3732 said: I'm barely taller than 5'10. That's what I have on my profile and I see no reason to lie about it. If your profile already mentioned your height -- whatever it may be -- there is no need to bring it up again. Presumably the lady the can read. 1
Author max3732 Posted August 19, 2020 Author Posted August 19, 2020 2 hours ago, ssm617 said: Many (not all though) women on dating websites do want a taller man. I have heard women state this for a variety of reasons. Tall men can "protect a woman" better, have better genes etc. Short men have "Napoleon Complex". I have heard some women say tall men have "larger penises". Many men might have mild preference for a shorter woman. But I doubt a large percentage of men would turn down an attractive woman just because she is tall. In this particular case, if his height is on the profile, then she already knows she is taller than him. If his height is not on the profile, I would wait until she mentions it. Then just be honest with her when she asks him about it. The last women I went on multiple dates with was about 5'0 and I felt a bit uncomfortable with that at first, but got used to it. I think I'd be the same way with a woman taller than me. With all the different things to look out for with dating height just isn't something on my radar. Generally I think it feels more natural to have someone slightly shorter than me, but it's a really low priority. Just yesterday I saw a profile with a woman who is 6'2 who said that finding someone tall is non-negotiable since she's tall. I messaged her with my height and saying she didn't define tall and that otherwise it looks like we might a good match, but if she's not interested since I'm shorter than her that's perfectly fine. 1 hour ago, d0nnivain said: If your profile already mentioned your height -- whatever it may be -- there is no need to bring it up again. Presumably the lady the can read. You'd think that! On 6/20/2020 at 3:08 PM, Mrin said: Not to get all meathead here but if it means that much to you - get jacked. I'm 5'10". So I am usually taller or at least as tall as the women I date here in the US. Occasionally I do date a much taller women. I once asked if the height difference bothered her and she said it would if I wasn't so much bigger than her muscle wise. Her words were something like, "I may be taller but I feel almost dainty standing next to you". Plus your body will thank you for it. It takes a long time to get really muscular. I'm getting pretty close to a good waist size after putting on some weight before and have been doing weights, but still have more of a skinny look. I can lift slightly more than before, but I don't know if you can even tell I do weights.
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 You were wasting your time with the 6'2 woman. She put her height in the profile so that men who were not 6'3 of taller didn't bother her. 1
introverted1 Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 On 6/19/2020 at 1:01 PM, max3732 said: I don't know if she's embarrassed about having long legs. Last I heard, long legs were a positive for women. Can't imagine being embarrassed.
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 She's not embarrassed about having long legs. She wants a guy with longer legs. 2
Author max3732 Posted August 19, 2020 Author Posted August 19, 2020 29 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: You were wasting your time with the 6'2 woman. She put her height in the profile so that men who were not 6'3 of taller didn't bother her. You're probably right. One of my friends is like 5'6 and says that I'm tall. She could have said to not message her unless you're taller than her in which case I wouldn't have sent her anything.
d0nnivain Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 1 hour ago, max3732 said: She could have said to not message her unless you're taller than her in which case I wouldn't have sent her anything. She was being more subtle. That apparently went over your head (pun intended) 1
Author max3732 Posted August 19, 2020 Author Posted August 19, 2020 41 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: She was being more subtle. That apparently went over your head (pun intended) Haha! 2
5x5 Posted August 19, 2020 Posted August 19, 2020 5 hours ago, d0nnivain said: You were wasting your time with the 6'2 woman. She put her height in the profile so that men who were not 6'3 of taller didn't bother her. I'm 5'3", well 162cm tall so a smidgin above 5'3". Yet I was in a sexual relationship with an attractive 6'2" woman, who asked me to be with her. Incidentally she is now married to a man who is 5"4. Likewise I have been with other attractive women who were close to either side of 6' tall. While most of the others have been in the 5'7" through 5'10 range (my ex-wife is 5'6" while my wife is 5'7"). Of which the majority of the women I have been dating/in sexual relationships with, asked me out or proportioned me. Given that I am short and never lacked for attractive mostly taller suitors. I don't see why any other men should avoid trying to be with women taller than themselves, in expectation that they will be rejected.
d0nnivain Posted August 20, 2020 Posted August 20, 2020 12 hours ago, 5x5 said: I don't see why any other men should avoid trying to be with women taller than themselves, in expectation that they will be rejected. I am not saying all shorter men should avoid tall women. I said a short man is probably wasting his time messaging a woman who puts her own tall height -- above 6 foot -- in a dating profile. That woman does have an issue with height & my take is that she is seeking a partner taller than she is. That may not be universally true for all women. It is true for that specific woman. The devil is in the details.
kismetkismet Posted August 22, 2020 Posted August 22, 2020 If your height is on your profile, then I definitely wouldn't worry about mentioning it! Even if it's not necessarily prominently displayed. If it's something she's sensitive/wary about, then she would definitely check that. Also I disagree with d0nnivan that her putting her height on her profile means she has an issue with height. It COULD mean that, but it could also just mean she's aware that some men have an issue with height and doesn't want to waste her time going on a date with someone who does.
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