Creepy or not

[Lorenza]

4 minutes ago, Mystery4u said:

Sounds like a terrible idea to meet tomorrow.

He's already told you he is not ready to date you and you are second best/a rebound.

Do you really want to be with someone who is making excuses already?

Have a bit of self worth and don't settle for crumbs.

I just want to sleep with him and have fun

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

 I'm going to go through with that if a situation arises that is more important than having sex, and there's plenty of those when one has responsabilities and obligations in his life.

And this guy told her what was on his mind......It was his *ex*. 

So business with *ex* made him forget all about beautiful young sexy Lorenza and the fact she wants him in her bed. 

[Mystery4u]

1 minute ago, Lorenza said:

I just want to sleep with him and have fun

C'mom we all know that's not true. Even your opening post said you felt you connected in a 'specific way'.

You want to have sex with him because you think that will make him like you more and want to actually be with you.

[Gaeta]

2 minutes ago, Lorenza said:

I just want to sleep with him and have fun

I understand that girl but.....geez! you're chasing this guy down! like you have no other options!! You can get any guy you want, why do you have to lower yourself like this?

[Watercolors]

2 minutes ago, Lorenza said:

I just want to sleep with him and have fun

How are you going to make this happen? Are you going to text him today and tell him that you just want to have sex with him? 

Look, you are a young woman and you deserve to be with a guy who respects and appreciates you for who you are. This guy is not even available to you emotionally. He just broke up with his ex and he's looking for a rebound. Don't be a rebound. 

[SumGuy]

35 minutes ago, Lorenza said:

He probably saw his ex and was all feely about her. But its been a month, so hopefully he can now put it away for some time 

Sounds about right from your earlier post, and after he saw you unmatched him figured he had blown it with you.  I also put a lot of stock in shared “weirdness.”    

People are only human, can’t see his behavior as clear red flag stuff just young and uncertain.    
As long as you keep in mind he still may be processing the break up, why not.  

[preraph]

7 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

Yes, yes, listen. I'd sell a kidney to sleep with Selena Gomez, but that doesn't mean I'm going to go through with that if a situation arises that is more important than having sex, and there's plenty of those when one has responsabilities and obligations in his life.

Nah, she was hotter than a Brazilian Samba dancer, so it was worth it, and it's not like I was sitting pretty with a bouqet of daisies waiting for her to gather the guts to approach me. I was getting together with the women who were mature and had the necessary confidence to approach a guy and ask him out. It was great, would do it again.

As for him chasing after his ex-girlfriend, really, what if he's waiting to see if OP is really interested in him?  If she puts in the work, she wants me that badly. That's someone I can see myself getting all worked up about, because she could have any guy, but she's risking getting rejected over me?

Instant baby-momma material right there.

You got serious problems. Self-esteem problems, ego problems.  

[Lorenza]

2 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I understand that girl but.....geez! you're chasing this guy down! like you have no other options!! You can get any guy you want, why do you have to lower yourself like this?

Eh, I don't know, I've been out with quite a lot of guys lately and wasn't attracted to any of them and I miss physical intimacy so much. 

Maybe I will bail again tomorrow if it comes to that. Could also be I've fantasized about him too much 

[Azincourt]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

And this guy told her what was on his mind......It was his *ex*. 

So business with *ex* made him forget all about beautiful young sexy Lorenza and the fact she wants him in her bed. 

Once I was having trouble performing. For the life of me I couldn't get the job done,  the engine didn't even want to start. What did I do? I told her that I had totally forgotten about having to pick up my brother at the airport, I apologized, and I left.

I don't have a brother.

I was as into her as a Stephen King was into hard drugs back in the 80's and 90's, but for a reason that I couldn't control, I just didn't get to sleep with her. Who's to say  OP's guy wasn't in the same situation?  No guy is going to say that there is no gas in his tank, the woman would automatically think there's something wrong with her.

[Lorenza]

3 minutes ago, SumGuy said:

Sounds about right from your earlier post, and after he saw you unmatched him figured he had blown it with you.  I also put a lot of stock in shared “weirdness.”    

People are only human, can’t see his behavior as clear red flag stuff just young and uncertain.    
As long as you keep in mind he still may be processing the break up, why not.  

I bet he still is processing the break up, but at this point it would be nice to at least have a summer romance with a handsome cool weirdo that shares my interests. I have not been with anyone for a year now and it makes me crazy! 

[Azincourt]

6 minutes ago, Watercolors said:

How are you going to make this happen? Are you going to text him today and tell him that you just want to have sex with him? 

Look, you are a young woman and you deserve to be with a guy who respects and appreciates you for who you are. This guy is not even available to you emotionally. He just broke up with his ex and he's looking for a rebound. Don't be a rebound. 

She just said she is only looking for sex. What's with the ''don't be a rebound?''

She wants sex. She wants to have sex with him. Doesn't matter that he's thinking about his ex-girlfriend. I got dumped by a woman 10 years ago for a 60 year old rich dude, that still stings to this day, but ya think I'm going to stop wanting sex with women because of one woman?

Sometimes a woman, many times actually, just wants to have sex. Without strings attached. Guess what OP wants.

[Gaeta]

3 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

 No guy is going to say that there is no gas in his tank, the woman would automatically think there's something wrong with her.

Maybe all his gas went to his ex

 

 

[Lorenza]

7 minutes ago, Watercolors said:

How are you going to make this happen? Are you going to text him today and tell him that you just want to have sex with him? 

Look, you are a young woman and you deserve to be with a guy who respects and appreciates you for who you are. This guy is not even available to you emotionally. He just broke up with his ex and he's looking for a rebound. Don't be a rebound. 

I mean... I will follow the vibe tomorrow, don't think it's needed to agree upon on text before the date. If it comes to that tomorrow and I won't bail again... It's fine if he's not there emotionally, a fling is a fling 

[Azincourt]

6 minutes ago, preraph said:

You got serious problems. Self-esteem problems, ego problems.  

True, I still wonder why a woman hot enough to be a Playboy model would want to sleep with me, when I'm nothing special to look at. But women lower their standards in men all the time, either regarding his income, college education, or his physical looks, and she probably had gone without sex for a long time. What is a woman supposed to do? Wait for Brad Pitt to come knocking? LMAO.

As for you thinking about how to sleep with this guy?

First day of college.

I'm sitting in class.

This woman is staring at me hard.

Does the same for 2 days straight.

I start wondering if there's something wrong with me, obsessively pull out my hand-mirror to check myself, wondering if the 2 hours I had spent that morning applying creams on my skin and choosing my clothes for the day had something wrong about it, ehh, could be better but not too bad.

She comes up to me on the third day and says she wants to have sex with me.

BOOOOM.

That was all she needed to do to get to sleep with me.

Now, if you are shy and this approach is a bit too much for you, just flirt with him hard and I dunno, tell him he's hot and see where he goes from there.

Edited June 18, 2020 by Azincourt

[Watercolors]

1 minute ago, Lorenza said:

Eh, I don't know, I've been out with quite a lot of guys lately and wasn't attracted to any of them and I miss physical intimacy so much. 

Maybe I will bail again tomorrow if it comes to that. Could also be I've fantasized about him too much 

The first priority for yourself, should be to ask yourself, "what do I want in a guy." By asking yourself that question, you come up with a list of standards that guys you meet, will need to have because that means his standards and values will match yours. If you never ask yourself what you want, and you're always worried about what the guy thinks about you, that's a sign that you don't value yourself enough. That you don't worry about how THEY come across to you. Dating is a two-way street. 

You obviously have no problem going on 1-2 dates with guys from your online dating. Have you ever stopped to put your own emotional needs and values BEFORE the guy's? Who cares that this guy is hot. You've created a fantasy around him based on stalking his social media and snooping about him and his ex, who she's now dating. That is not how a girl with heathly self-esteem should act. What you should be doing, is carrying around inner confidence in yourself, your beliefs, your values, your standards and communicating this to guys you meet, who you are attracted to. Then YOU decide if you want to date them more. Not the other way around. Do not give guys power over your choices like you're doing with Mr. Fantasy guy here. 

Yes, you're young. And life is about having fun in your 20s. But C'mon. You can do better. Stop acting this way. 

[SumGuy]

5 minutes ago, Lorenza said:

I bet he still is processing the break up, but at this point it would be nice to at least have a summer romance with a handsome cool weirdo that shares my interests. I have not been with anyone for a year now and it makes me crazy! 

I think that answers the question why him.  He shares a unique connection with you, you hit it off, and he’s hot.   All good reasons to me to take the “risk” which I don’t see as that big, not everyone is a complete mess that goes for whatever after breaking up, and some people are a mess all the time     

Edited June 18, 2020 by SumGuy

[Lorenza]

5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Maybe all his gas went to his ex

 

 

guuuuys don't ruin the picture

 

4 minutes ago, Watercolors said:

The first priority for yourself, should be to ask yourself, "what do I want in a guy." By asking yourself that question, you come up with a list of standards that guys you meet, will need to have because that means his standards and values will match yours. If you never ask yourself what you want, and you're always worried about what the guy thinks about you, that's a sign that you don't value yourself enough. That you don't worry about how THEY come across to you. Dating is a two-way street. 

You obviously have no problem going on 1-2 dates with guys from your online dating. Have you ever stopped to put your own emotional needs and values BEFORE the guy's? Who cares that this guy is hot. You've created a fantasy around him based on stalking his social media and snooping about him and his ex, who she's now dating. That is not how a girl with heathly self-esteem should act. What you should be doing, is carrying around inner confidence in yourself, your beliefs, your values, your standards and communicating this to guys you meet, who you are attracted to. Then YOU decide if you want to date them more. Not the other way around. Do not give guys power over your choices like you're doing with Mr. Fantasy guy here. 

Yes, you're young. And life is about having fun in your 20s. But C'mon. You can do better. Stop acting this way. 

I'm 31 and have had all kinds of experiences right now I want to have sex. Not sure why that it is linked with low self-esteem in women, while men can do it left and right. I'm no blushing maid myself and have had some adventures. Why do women have to either look for something serious or nothing at all? We all have needs. 

Edited June 18, 2020 by Lorenza

[Watercolors]

No one can have a "special connection" after one date. That's just hormones colliding. It takes time and communication to really establish a "special connection." 

[Gaeta]

I am hearing you just want sex

Then I am hearing you want intimidy

Then I am hearing you want a summer romance

 

[preraph]

6 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

 

She comes up to me on the third day and says she wants to have sex with me.

BOOOOM.

That was all she needed to do to get to sleep with me.

 

Well, she sounds like a real prize.

[preraph]

Just now, Gaeta said:

I am hearing you just want sex

Then I am hearing you want intimidy

Then I am hearing you want a summer romance

 

No woman is this worked up who only wants to get laid.

[Azincourt]

 listen. It's the way our society is set up.

Men want casual sex?

That's perfectly natural for a man to just want sex. Boys will be boys, they can't help theselves!

Woman is seeking sex and sex alone?

''well, you obviously have low self-esteem and you were hurt when you were young and now you don't feel like you deserve to be loved by a man who treasures you and buys you a castle in Scotland and pays for your 401k before he even gets a kiss! Now your worth, Queen!''

My mother encountered this back in the 80's, and remember that this was 80's Italy. Not the Italy of today. She met dudes who thought she wanted a relationship when all my mom was looking for an one-night stand, and they were pretty awkward about all of it, and let's not even talk about how women talked about her, either because they were afraid they would lose their boyfriends to her, or they were jealous that my mother was mature enough and a modern woman, strong enough, confident in herself to pursue what she wanted.

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Well, she sounds like a real prize.

 

6 feet tall, slender, naturaly tanned, think she had some Argelian in her, and she looked like Alessandra Ambrosio.  Yeah, she was a hell of a prize.  And I didn't have to lift a finger to get with her.  You have no idea how high my self-esteem got. Elon Musk could catch  a ride to Mars on it. Besides, she was very good at what she was doing, and everything she did was sensual. Women like that are amazing, not talking about the whole beauty part.

The going after what they want and making a guy feel HOT can make almost any woman, be a 19 year old Laetitia Casta, in the eyes of most men.

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No woman is this worked up who only wants to get laid.

Have you ever met women with a high sex drive?

Visit Brazil.

Spain. Portugal. Italy. Argentina. South Africa. Even in Iran you'll find women with a sex drive that high,  because of how attracted she is to the guy.

Edited June 18, 2020 by Azincourt

[Lorenza]

1 minute ago, Watercolors said:

 

 

Just now, Gaeta said:

I am hearing you just want sex

Then I am hearing you want intimidy

Then I am hearing you want a summer romance

 

Anything that can give my life some spice 

[Watercolors]

1 minute ago, Lorenza said:

guuuuys don't ruin the oic

 

I'm 31 and have had all kinds of experiences right now I want to have sex. Not sure why that it is linked with low self-esteem in women, while men can do it left and right. I'm no blushing maid myself and have had some adventures. Why do women have to either look for something serious or nothing at all? We all have needs. 

Ok, you're 31 with an array of sexual experiences in your dating/relationships. That still doesn't mean you have high self esteem if all you want is causal sex. I'm no prude or nun, but casual sex never works out in practice the way it does in theory. You clearly have developed emotional feelings for this guy yet claim all you want is sex. You claim you and he have a special connection but that can't be true because he JUST broke up with his ex and you two haven't even been on a date. You just hung out and kissed. That's not special connection. That's two horny adults. I still stand by what I advised. I think you're secretly hoping he forgets about his ex and wants to jump into a relationship with you. Otherwise, how many men do you feel a special connection to, whom you want casual sex from. Nobody feels a special connection to their casual sex partners. That's just not reality. 

[Lorenza]

Just now, preraph said:

No woman is this worked up who only wants to get laid.

I'm not worked up