kendahke Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 5 hours ago, Lorenza said: im guessing bailed due to recent breakup. I think you're right. He wasn't over her and you'd have been his rebound relationship.
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Watercolors said: This. Exactly. Nope. I hate phones. I bought a phone in 2000 and I still have that phone as my main and only phone. I don't enjoy voicecalls. Unless I'm taking to my parents or sisters, I much prefer the conversation to take place through text. I also don't like to spend more than 5 to 10 minutes. I'm not waiting 5 days to contact a woman because I'm trying to build attraction in. My six-pack or my biceps will do that, that's their job. Or she isn't into that, or she doesn't like my face, or she doesn't like blonde guys. Dunno, don't care. I take so long to pick up the phone because I hate phones. If you are interested in me, contact me. Ask me out. Don't expect me to be on the phone like a smitten teenager.
kendahke Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Lorenza said: He's reaaally hot also and unavailable. Trust me, if he was really open to you, he wouldn't have let 5 days go by for some other guy to swoop in and scoop you up. That he maintained silence like he did says that while he may have enjoyed your company and had a good opinion of you, he wasn't emotionally ready to move forward with someone new. Edited June 18, 2020 by kendahke 2
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 Just now, kendahke said: and unavailable. Trust me, if he really open to you, he wouldn't have let 5 days go by for some other guy to swoop in and scoop you up. That he maintained silence like he did says that while he may have enjoyed your company and had a good opinion of you, he wasn't emotionally ready to move forward with someone new. As far as I know guys don't have to be emotionally available to sleep with a woman
kendahke Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Lorenza said: As far as I know guys don't have to be emotionally available to sleep with a woman but did he want to sleep with you? is the question. His behavior says "no". 1
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 If it's what you're aiming at then why didn't you go to bed together on that first date? 2
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 Just now, kendahke said: but did he want to sleep with you? is the question. His behavior says "no". Well his kisses said yes and the question to come over as well. I really wanted to, but have never done anything like that, so I bailed
kendahke Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) 1 minute ago, Lorenza said: Well his kisses said yes and the question to come over as well. I really wanted to, but have never done anything like that, so I bailed and he never followed up. Between that night and now, for him, something fundamentally changed for him to cut the line and set you adrift. Edited June 18, 2020 by kendahke 2
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Lorenza said: As far as I know guys don't have to be emotionally available to sleep with a woman I remember my dating as if it was yesterday. Guys interested in going to bed didn't leave me without news for 5 days. They were in my face with their best game to get what they wanted. 2 2
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: If it's what you're aiming at then why didn't you go to bed together on that first date? I didn't dare its new to me
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: I remember my dating as if it was yesterday. Guys interested in going to bed didn't leave me without news for 5 days. They were in my face with their best game to get what they wanted. He probably saw his ex and was all feely about her. But its been a month, so hopefully he can now put it away for some time 2
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 Just now, Gaeta said: I remember my dating as if it was yesterday. Guys interested in going to bed didn't leave me without news for 5 days. They were in my face with their best game to get what they wanted. Sometimes stuff comes up. Or you got work tomorrow and you get up at 5AM. Or your tummy is giving you trouble. Or you have to walk the dog. That can easily spread to 1, 2, or 5 days.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Azincourt said: Sometimes stuff comes up. Or you got work tomorrow and you get up at 5AM. Or your tummy is giving you trouble. Or you have to walk the dog. That can easily spread to 1, 2, or 5 days. That's weak lol, he forgot to call her because of bathroom issues and he had to walk the dog! 2 1
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 5 minutes ago, Lorenza said: He probably saw his ex and was all feely about her. But its been a month, so hopefully he can now put it away for some time Yes because it only took you 1 month to get over your ex, right... 2
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 1 minute ago, Gaeta said: That's weak lol, he forgot to call her because of bathroom issues and he had to walk the dog! Yeah? A woman once slept with me because her regular FWB was having severe stomach issues after eating spoiled seafood and she wanted sex and I was around. Human beings are complicated. In any case, ladies, if you really want a guy in particular, go after him. It feels good to be pursued, it makes us feel sexy, desired, and it makes us see the women who pursue us as having high self-esteem and being confident with themselves, their bodies, and their sexuality. That's pretty hot. 2
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 10 minutes ago, kendahke said: and he never followed up. Between that night and now, for him, something fundamentally changed for him to cut the line and set you adrift. Completely agree. He realized young beautiful women on Tinder don't make the seperation pain go away. 2
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Completely agree. He realized young beautiful women on Tinder don't make the seperation pain go away. Yeah, and painkillers don't dull an aching tooth.
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 11 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Completely agree. He realized young beautiful women on Tinder don't make the seperation pain go away. Oh come on no single guy think that way, separation pain or not
Watercolors Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 6 minutes ago, Lorenza said: Oh come on no single guy think that way, separation pain or not The guy you're chasing just did that to you though. He's a single guy. 1 1
Author Lorenza Posted June 18, 2020 Author Posted June 18, 2020 Just now, Watercolors said: The guy you're chasing just did that to you though. He's a single guy. We kissed and he did invite me home on that date so...
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) Quote Oh come on no single guy think that way, separation pain or not Not even when they're married to a beautiful woman and the marriage is going great. Last year there was a scandal in the United Kingdom, because it was found that lots of very high-level soccer players within the Premiere League were patrons to a German escort agency that required a potential patron to have at least 13 million dollars/euros. It was hilarious. Had to stop eating because I was afraid I was about to choke on my food. There's only 2 conditions that can't be cured by sleeping with beautiful, young women. The aging process, and cancer. Heck, just being checked out by attractive young women makes me feel like a million bucks, those 70 year old men who are putting their wealth to good use must feel like they're 20 years old all over again, when they have those 12.000 dollars per hour escorts in bed with them. Edited June 18, 2020 by Azincourt
Mystery4u Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 Sounds like a terrible idea to meet tomorrow. He's already told you he is not ready to date you and you are second best/a rebound. Do you really want to be with someone who is making excuses already? Have a bit of self worth and don't settle for crumbs.
Gaeta Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 7 minutes ago, Lorenza said: Oh come on no single guy think that way, separation pain or not Usually single guys that know they can *hit it* they do, and they don't care if it rains, snow or fire is falling from the sky, but this guy didn't. He didn't because something *bigger* then sex with you kept his mind away from you. 2
preraph Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 48 minutes ago, Azincourt said: How do you know what most guys do? Do you know most guys? Maybe this guy is into her but he wants to see if she wants to put the work in? There was a woman in college who I waited 4 years before she gathered the courage to come up to me and say hi. I wanted to see how much she wanted me. Oh, for cripe's sake. "Put the work in?" He just found out she'll put up with ghosting and still chasing his ex. The fact she knows someone else who's dating her online may be why he tagged her to begin with. Someone who takes 4 years to get the courage to say hi is not worth waiting for. Someone who likes to see someone come crawling is sick. 1 2
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) Yes, yes, listen. I'd sell a kidney to sleep with Selena Gomez, but that doesn't mean I'm going to go through with that if a situation arises that is more important than having sex, and there's plenty of those when one has responsabilities and obligations in his life. Quote Oh, for cripe's sake. "Put the work in?" He just found out she'll put up with ghosting and still chasing his ex. The fact she knows someone else who's dating her online may be why he tagged her to begin with. Someone who takes 4 years to get the courage to say hi is not worth waiting for. Someone who likes to see someone come crawling is sick. Nah, she was hotter than a Brazilian Samba dancer, so it was worth it, and it's not like I was sitting pretty with a bouqet of daisies waiting for her to gather the guts to approach me. I was getting together with the women who were mature and had the necessary confidence to approach a guy and ask him out. It was great, would do it again. As for him chasing after his ex-girlfriend, really, what if he's waiting to see if OP is really interested in him? If she puts in the work, she wants me that badly. That's someone I can see myself getting all worked up about, because she could have any guy, but she's risking getting rejected over me? Instant baby-momma material right there. Edited June 18, 2020 by Azincourt 1
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