geezitsmatt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 Okay so here's whats going on. In the beginning of my first year of university (in Canada we don't say college) I met this boy (im also a boy) and we clicked a lot for the first couple days. The only time we would talk was during frosh week when we would see each other at a BBQ. I never had the courage of asking for his number because I thought he was straight. After frosh week I never saw him again because we weren't in the same program. Fast foward in November, i received a message on grindr from him. we talked for a while again and he came to a party i threw but turns out I wasn't vibing with him during the party so i kind of got distant while he was very pushy. He would send me snaps once every couple weeks but it stayed like that. Until this september i switched my program and turns out we are now in the same program. We had a class together first semester and we became friends again? We were just in the same friend group in this class, so we kind of relinked. The friend group started to hang out in an office for our program and some of our friends were shipping us but we told them about last year and that turns out we weren't each others type. After the class final, we all waited for each other so we could just vent cuz it was a s***ty exam and him and I were the only ones left in the building so we took the elevator. A girl was in it with us. I had the thought of kissing him in the elevator but i didn't. Couple weeks later we were all hanging out and I was playing in his hair for fun just to piss him off cuz he was working but it was just for fun. Then corona happened and I left campus. He lives in an apartment outside campus so he's still there. I just saw his tinder profile pop up and on his new pics he looks so handsome and now idk what to tbink. I have no idea if he still likes me or whatever. But i have some issues. 1) Im moving to an other province in the next couple months so ill be transferring to save money. I would be living like 12 hours away and idk if i can do long distance. I did it once with an ex girlfriend but it didnt end well. 2) For those who might saw my first post couple weeks ago, Im in love with my bestfriend. Im trying to move on and i try to keep him out of my head. So idk if its just sexual attraction or more because ive been in love with my bestfriend for like 3 years and im sure some of you know the feeling when I say theres 1 person on earth you will love for ever, and that person is my bestfriend for me. So idk what to do. My friends tell me to send him a snap because i do have him on it and talk to him. They say it might help me move on from my best friend. But idk if its gonna help me or if I will end up breaking things off again like the first time because im moving and i realize i dont like him the same way i like my best friend. So yeah. Idk if you can understand my problem.
d0nnivain Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 I think it's just bad timing. You & this guy couldn't make it work where you in proximity. I think trying to keep an LDR together across 12 hours is going to be nearly impossible. Between Covid & trying to get over your best friend, you are grasping at straws looking for any distraction & this guy is admittedly cute so he looks amusing to you now. That is no reason to try this. There are too many logistical challenges. Enjoy the fantasy but don't put too much effort into this. It would be like trying to hold back the ocean with a teaspoon.
Miss Spider Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 Send the message...but if it didn’t work in the past, don’t be surprised if it still doesn’t work
ShyViolet Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 I personally don't believe in long distance relationships, I think they are a waste of time. If you know you're moving far away soon, it doesn't make sense to start something up with him. Also, you had a chance to connect with him back in November, and you say you "weren't vibing with him." So if it didn't work back then, why would it work now?
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