I asked my fwb if he wanted to like hang out/hook up this week and he replied, nah.

[Bluesky00]

On 6/21/2020 at 5:06 PM, snowcones said:

Has no one in this thread mentioned Covid-19 yet?  Maybe he just doesn't want to meet up during this time.

Actually 2 months ago during lockdown he did say he didn’t want to meet up because of Corona. I told him I was covid free and then he replied that I wouldn’t know if I could be a carrier 

[Ellener]

On 6/22/2020 at 4:01 AM, Azincourt said:

just not feeling it.

^that.

I've heard that a couple of times but the guy was polite enough to give me a hug. It doesn't mean anything bad about you @Bluesky00 but you should save yourself for people who treat you with respect and kindness.

[basil67]

You asked him a while ago to meet up and he said No because of COVID.   You went on to disrespect his reason.   With this context, it's immediately obvious why you received a "Nah".   

Nah is shorthand for "I've already said No because of COVID and by trying to talk me around to it then, it shows you didn't respect my reason.   And apparently you still don't respect my decision.  Is it not obvious that I don't want to do this now?"    By not respecting his stance on COVID, you deserved a Nah.   And frankly, anyone expecting casual sex in places where the infection rate is still high deserves a Nah.

 

[Miss Spider]

but he was cool meeting with her/having sex with her after he said that up until a few/couple weeks ago...and apparently still is cool w  sex...

Edited June 27, 2020 by Cookiesandough

[basil67]

Oh, OK....I didn't realise that they'd been at it after he'd earlier said No.    Sorry.   Carry on.  

[Azincourt]

I know that this might sound strange. But men can be tired. Men can be feeling sick. Men can have things going on in their lives that are more important than sex.  And even super hot women get rejected for casual sex or for whatever.

5 pages of people discussing why a dude didn't want to hook-up. Turn the tables around and pretend OP was a dude and he was asking why his FWB didn't want to hook-up.  Think about the responses you'd be giving. 

There you go. 

[elaine567]

6 hours ago, Bluesky00 said:

Actually 2 months ago during lockdown he did say he didn’t want to meet up because of Corona. I told him I was covid free and then he replied that I wouldn’t know if I could be a carrier 

Why has it taken 5 pages to get to this  pure gold snippet of information?

[Azincourt]

''Because if he was really attracted to me he'd have braved Medieval Europe Black Plague to sleep with me, duh...''

That's how I see many young women thinking about it. Lots of attractive young women don't take sexual rejection well. Even when it's justified. Like a worldwide pandemnic that is destroying our economy and the lives of millions and millions of people.

[Roswell91]

5 hours ago, elaine567 said:

Why has it taken 5 pages to get to this  pure gold snippet of information?

Apparently they met after he said that anyway.

[ExpatInItaly]

6 hours ago, elaine567 said:

Why has it taken 5 pages to get to this  pure gold snippet of information?

OP has indicated they've met in the last couple weeks, while he asked her about Covid 2 months ago. 

I don't think this was the reason he's recently blown her off. 

Edited June 27, 2020 by ExpatInItaly

[Azincourt]

Maybe he's grown more self-conscious about the COVID problem after the USA become the world's most problematic nation with more than 1 million people infected, 123 000 dead and thousands upon thousands of new cases discovered every day?

[Miss Spider]

Hahaha yeah... I’m sure that’s it 

[Azincourt]

Sex is great. Being alive is even better.

[Bluesky00]

6 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

OP has indicated they've met in the last couple weeks, while he asked her about Covid 2 months ago. 

I don't think this was the reason he's recently blown her off. 

He mentioned covid during the lockdown. Our lockdown lasted like a month and half. We didn’t see each other during the time. We still texted. However he did say that we were going to get together and even wanted me to get on birth control so that we can get have sex consistently. We hooked up 2 months later, which was 3 weeks ago. and a week a half later we sent dirty pics to each other which he initiated. A week later I reached out to him and asked if he wanted to get together, and he said no.

when he told me he had a “girlfriend” but that he still wanted to f**k I was just indifferent about it and didn’t care/or go off at him again. 

[poppyfields]

8 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Maybe he's grown more self-conscious about the COVID problem after the USA become the world's most problematic nation with more than 1 million people infected, 123 000 dead and thousands upon thousands of new cases discovered every day?

That would be 2.5 million+ infected in the US with daily per state increases due to many restrictions being lifted in recent weeks.  

Your close re death rate -- 127,000.

I'm getting my haircut tomorrow and before they will cut it, my stylist just called me to advise they need to take my temperature!  Over 98.6, no cut.

Kinda crazy but better to be safe than sorry I s'pose. 

Edited June 28, 2020 by poppyfields

[Roswell91]

8 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Maybe he's grown more self-conscious about the COVID problem after the USA become the world's most problematic nation with more than 1 million people infected, 123 000 dead and thousands upon thousands of new cases discovered every day?

He met her after.. he clearly didn't  care that much. 

He simply lost interest in her

[Azincourt]

2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

That would be 2.5 million+ infected in the US with daily per state increases due to many restrictions being lifted in recent weeks.  

Your close re death rate -- 127,000.

I'm getting my haircut tomorrow and before they will cut it, my stylist just called me to advise they need to take my temperature!  

Kinda crazy.  

Probably a lot more than that.

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Coronavirus live USA: latest Covid-19 news - 25 June ... Stimulus check issued to a million deceased ... 20 million suspected infected. US ... a few hundred shy of the record 36,426 on 24 April, concentrated on states that were ...

Strange to me how people are going about their lives like nothing's wrong, but hey,  that weekend hookup better be worth risking a guy's life lol.

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He simply lost interest in her

Or maybe he's busy? I've rejected hookups before.  For several reasons. Had nothing to do with a loss of interest.

Edited June 28, 2020 by Azincourt

[Roswell91]

1 hour ago, Bluesky00 said:

He mentioned covid during the lockdown. Our lockdown lasted like a month and half. We didn’t see each other during the time. We still texted. However he did say that we were going to get together and even wanted me to get on birth control so that we can get have sex consistently. We hooked up 2 months later, which was 3 weeks ago. and a week a half later we sent dirty pics to each other which he initiated. A week later I reached out to him and asked if he wanted to get together, and he said no.

when he told me he had a “girlfriend” but that he still wanted to f**k I was just indifferent about it and didn’t care/or go off at him again. 

Forget about him. And try to get some self respect...and im saying that in the most  respectful way possible. 

Its not a good idea to mingle during these pandemic times anyway. 

[Roswell91]

2 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

Probably a lot more than that.

Strange to me how people are going about their lives like nothing's wrong, but hey,  that weekend hookup better be worth risking a guy's life lol.

Yeah i don't  get it either. 

I think a lot of people are ignorant and/or selfish. 

 

Edited June 28, 2020 by Roswell91

[Bluesky00]

8 hours ago, Azincourt said:

Maybe he's grown more self-conscious about the COVID problem after the USA become the world's most problematic nation with more than 1 million people infected, 123 000 dead and thousands upon thousands of new cases discovered every day?

Yeah I doubt it we did meet up end of last month and he supposedly wanted to get together more. He’s a fit, good looking guy I’m pretty sure he’s not hiding in a cave 

but oh well. It is what is it.

Edited June 28, 2020 by Bluesky00

[Azincourt]

I'm a fit good-looking guy and I've been hiding in a cave since the Chinese doctors leaked what was going on in China. And I'm not in the Country with the highest percentage of infected people. Maybe he began to think with his big head?

[poppyfields]

You could be right Azincourt.  2.5.million is only what's being reported (my source was CNN.com).

No doubt there are thousands to millions of cases unreported where people choose to recover quiety at home without being tested. 

I don't think that's the reason in the OP's situation though.  

Edit:  He might be too busy but still doesn't excuse his "nah "

I mean that's just plain rude, next. 

Why haven't you OP?  Nexted him?   Just curious. 

Edited June 28, 2020 by poppyfields

[CaliforniaGirl]

9 minutes ago, Azincourt said:

I'm a fit good-looking guy and I've been hiding in a cave since the Chinese doctors leaked what was going on in China. And I'm not in the Country with the highest percentage of infected people. Maybe he began to think with his big head?

If he's this thoughtful why couldn't be just SAY it was Covid?

"Look, I just don't want to risk it because of Covid."

 Voilà.

 

[basil67]

Bluesky00 in another post you talked about wanting to have about five guys on the go at once.  Have you mentioned this to the Nah guy?   It could explain a lot.

[poppyfields]

8 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

If he's this thoughtful why couldn't be just SAY it was Covid?

"Look, I just don't want to risk it because of Covid."

 Voilà.

 

I think he was sending a very clear message by responding "nah."

Me thinks he was intentionally attempting to knock her down a bit, he might think she's a bit full of herself.  

I mean, even the most disinterested guy in the world wouldn't say nah unless he wanted to knock the woman off what he perceives to be her self-entitled horse.  Jmo on that.

So rude. 

Edited June 28, 2020 by poppyfields