stardustfox Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 So my ex and I broke up 6 months ago. Recently I drunk texted him some stupid stuff and he got mad and told me to stop messaging him and stuff like that. Then the next morning I sent a huge apology and told him how I felt about him. Then I told him not to worry because he will never hear from me again (I had no intentions of contacting him & accepted it as over). Then a few weeks later he messages me out of the blue saying: "how have you been?" I still feel guilt about being a bad girlfriend to him. So I told him: I'll be honest you are sweet and nice and everything and I'm not regretting our times. I'm glad I know you for you are a blessing and never let anyone say other wise. To which he replied: Awww thank you (insert my nickname) Later in the convo he asks me if I go outside and stuff then later says: "I wanted to come by and say hi and give u ur stuff but u don’t go out u said so." I told him it was fine and i don't need my stuff back and to throw it away (I even told him this a few times before). But he keeps insisting he'll give it back to me when I go outside again. So my question here is: If an ex says: I wanted to come by and say hi and give u ur stuff but u don’t go out u said so Does that mean they genuinely wanna return ur stuff or using that as an excuse to see u?
gamon Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 (edited) He doesn't want to throw away perfectly good stuff and doesn't seem to understand that you could simply step outside the front door and retrieve whatever he might leave there. He also doesn't know how to respect your thoughts and feelings and take "no" for an answer despite you making it perfectly clear you don't want your stuff back. Doesn't sound like such a blessing. Edited June 17, 2020 by gamon 1
Author stardustfox Posted June 17, 2020 Author Posted June 17, 2020 14 minutes ago, gamon said: step outside the front door and retrieve whatever he might leave there If that was the case I would or if he mailed it back to me. But he specifically told me to go outside (during COVID) then come get my stuff. He didn't tell me to come pick it up either. So I am not sure if that's all he wants or if he was using that as an excuse to see me again.
Uptown182 Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 Sounds like he’s using returning your stuff as an excuse to see you. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 21 hours ago, Uptown182 said: Sounds like he’s using returning your stuff as an excuse to see you. Exactly. He took your texts to heart and thinks maybe you'll take him back. How were you a bad girlfriend? What went wrong?
kendahke Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 23 hours ago, stardustfox said: If an ex says: I wanted to come by and say hi and give u ur stuff but u don’t go out u said so Does that mean they genuinely wanna return ur stuff or using that as an excuse to see u? Could be either reason... it could also be him taking your temperature to see if you're DTF... Is it stuff you can get from the drug store or is it personal property, like a laptop, your grandmother's jewelry--stuff that irreplaceable?
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