mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 I have been chatting with a few people here and there on dating apps. Some of them immediately ask after we get past the basic introduction if I am on Snapchat. I tell them that yes I was but not anymore (which is the truth). They say they are disappointed that I don't have it, I tell them I got off because it's just a bunch of creepy photos - taken by me and/or others. And then they clam up and that's that. I wonder why they do this but in case they want to send me dick pics or whatever else,not going there. Or am I wrong?
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 Just now, mortensorchid said: I have been chatting with a few people here and there on dating apps. Some of them immediately ask after we get past the basic introduction if I am on Snapchat. I tell them that yes I was but not anymore (which is the truth). They say they are disappointed that I don't have it, I tell them I got off because it's just a bunch of creepy photos - taken by me and/or others. And then they clam up and that's that. I wonder why they do this but in case they want to send me dick pics or whatever else,not going there. Or am I wrong? They might think you're suggesting they're creepy too? If they literally will not speak to you unless you have Snapchat then I can guess what they want you snappin'. Any interested guy will say cool, just text instead of whatever. I think. LOL. All these new rules. Are these guys very young?
chillii Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 Crazy shyt , read a lot of the guys here moaning women won't date them if they don't have social media too , whatever the fk that's suppose to be. Unbelievable bs , forget em. 1
Amanda141 Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 May I ask how old are you? I haven't been using Snapchat since 2016/2017 I think lol I think it's a platform used more by teenagers, along with TikTok... if I chat with someone on a dating app, we usually exchange Instagram or phone number (I am early 20s), while I feel that older people are more on Facebook.
Author mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2020 Author Posted June 17, 2020 You may ask , and I am 45. These guys are at least 35 who ask this and I still think that's too old to use it. But it's what it is.
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 2 hours ago, mortensorchid said: You may ask , and I am 45. These guys are at least 35 who ask this and I still think that's too old to use it. But it's what it is. I do think it's weird, then. And, men pushing 40 haunting Snapchat...just...ugh. I get a pretty creeped-out vibe. It's weird though that you've encountered this more than once. I don't know anybody who's dating who requires SC or no date. Not even really young kids. 1
Backinthesaddleagain Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 1 minute ago, CaliforniaGirl said: I do think it's weird, then. And, men pushing 40 haunting Snapchat...just...ugh. I get a pretty creeped-out vibe. It's weird though that you've encountered this more than once. I don't know anybody who's dating who requires SC or no date. Not even really young kids. I got rejected by a couple girls because I have no social media. It's a red flag for some I guess. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 2 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said: I got rejected by a couple girls because I have no social media. It's a red flag for some I guess. Social media in general, yes. If you are literally untraceable in this day and age it's actually a little odd. Some women may fear you're not who you say you are, that you may be married, etc. because literally nearly everyone is on some form or other of SM, even if just for their jobs. Facebook or whatever. But Snapchat is like...quick pics...like kids do. And a lot of young girls trying to look sexy and awesome. For a dude pushing 40 to require *that* exact platform *is* a little weird. 1
smackie9 Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 (edited) When people ask questions like that, stop being so serious/negative about it...make a joke of it instead. Just say "omg there were too many dicks pic! lol." "if you are ok with it we can vid chat instead...and please keep yer pants on for now! lol" Gotta have a sense of humor. True story: I was in a line up up at the bar...so I started crakin jokes with the guy in front of me....he turned around bought me a shooter because I made him laugh. Cheers! Edited June 17, 2020 by smackie9 2
Miss Spider Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 Agree with smackie. Could they have just wanted to snap you for creepy stuff? Maybe, maybe not. But what I think would definitely put anyone off is you insulting something that they apparently seem to like and assuming the worst/being negative about it. Same thing with the social justice warrior you were chatting with. Even if you just saw "nah I don't use it sorry" and change the subject/ask them another question. 1
Backinthesaddleagain Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 3 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Social media in general, yes. If you are literally untraceable in this day and age it's actually a little odd. Some women may fear you're not who you say you are, that you may be married, etc. because literally nearly everyone is on some form or other of SM, even if just for their jobs. Facebook or whatever. But Snapchat is like...quick pics...like kids do. And a lot of young girls trying to look sexy and awesome. For a dude pushing 40 to require *that* exact platform *is* a little weird. Yeah I agree that is kinda weird. I am almost untraceable because I don't like social media. Matter of fact, I don't like most people in real life either lol. 1
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 4 minutes ago, Backinthesaddleagain said: Yeah I agree that is kinda weird. I am almost untraceable because I don't like social media. Matter of fact, I don't like most people in real life either lol. Okay...there you have it...it isn't just because of SM specifically...if you don't like people many women might shy from that...most of us want an SO who can stand people, unless we too are antisocial to that degree. Being just introverted is a little different, I know a lot of homebodies who aren't crazy about parties and crowds, but not liking people in general...well, that's the vibe, and that's what has sent those particular women running, most likely.
Amanda141 Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 I would reject a guy met online only if he has no social media at all, as I would be scared he could be a catfish. But rejecting someone for not having a particular social media it's very strange 1
Backinthesaddleagain Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 2 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said: Okay...there you have it...it isn't just because of SM specifically...if you don't like people many women might shy from that...most of us want an SO who can stand people, unless we too are antisocial to that degree. Being just introverted is a little different, I know a lot of homebodies who aren't crazy about parties and crowds, but not liking people in general...well, that's the vibe, and that's what has sent those particular women running, most likely. I'm not an introvert or anything(actually quite the opposite), I am just very selective of my friends and who I chose to devote time to. And with regards to SM, it's basically a platform for most people to strut, pose, and lie so they can show off a life that isn't really true. It's so ridiculous. ***This is my opinion, please don't get upset if you love SM*** To the OP, the way you denounced snap and then they clammed up sounds like they think you are stuffy or a Betty Buzzkill. I would try humor as suggested by smackie. Keep negativity out of any conversation until you are dating, and keep negativity out then, too. But if that is truly how you feel, you aren't on the same page as these guys and you did both of you a favor early on anyways. 1
Fresh_Start Posted June 17, 2020 Posted June 17, 2020 I don't do social media at all anymore and nobody has ever made a big deal out of it for me. The people who are my friends and family members don't need to know what brand of toilet paper I just bought at Walmart, what I ate for dinner last night, nor a blow by blow account of what I did for the day. It was all a little silly and shallow to me not to mention that I ended up being a magnet for some pretty broken and troubled women, including hooking up with a gal whom I later learned was a porn star. Once upon a time we didn't have any social media platforms and it didn't stop us from hanging out with our friends, going on dates, or engaging in any other social activities. Those things didn't come to a screeching halt the day I deactivated my Facebook account and if anybody I attempt to date makes having a social media presence a prerequisite to going out and having a good time then I'll wish them the best and move on to someone else with better priorities. 2
Ruby Slippers Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) Lots of guys online try to get you onto other annoying and sometimes creepy sites like kik, Snapchat, whatever. If they ask if I'm on whatever fruit loop other app, I just say no with no explanation. A good guy who's interested can communicate just fine via the site where you met and phone. Edited June 18, 2020 by Ruby Slippers 2
hippychick3 Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 Any man over the age of 35 using Snapchat would be so unattractive to me that I’d lose interest. I’ve never been asked about my SM before a first date. I never told a stranger I met online my last name or gave him access to my private life. And there’s no reason not to communicate by text or calling. Using SM to talk or send pics at your age is just weird. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 21 hours ago, chillii said: Crazy shyt , read a lot of the guys here moaning women won't date them if they don't have social media too , whatever the fk that's suppose to be. Unbelievable bs , forget em. Tell us how you really feel lol
chillii Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) 5 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: Lots of guys online try to get you onto other annoying and sometimes creepy sites like kik, Snapchat, whatever. If they ask if I'm on whatever fruit loop other app, I just say no with no explanation. A good guy who's interested can communicate just fine via the site where you met and phone. Yep , never worried anyone when l was single late 40s at the time, sorta woman l go for would feel the same about all that bs anyway and my woman does, has nothing, anywhere , just like me. This here is as SM as l get haha. l think l'm untraceable , l bloody hope l am. lf someone wants me they can ring me up or knock on my door. Actually once years ago this chick left me a very abusing text accusing me of using a fake name because she found me on FB ummm, only one problem ahhh, l'm not on fb. But l hope he was good lookin haha. Edited June 18, 2020 by chillii 1
Azincourt Posted June 18, 2020 Posted June 18, 2020 (edited) 18 hours ago, mortensorchid said: You may ask , and I am 45. These guys are at least 35 who ask this and I still think that's too old to use it. But it's what it is. Many of us use snapchat for sexting and to send and receive nudes, and so we enjoy using Snapchat and we kinda expect women to be also on it. It's a lot better than sexting someone using Facebook's private message system even though it can work. It's a great way to see if I'm wasting my time with someone or if someone is just looking for a free meal. Say, I meet someone on an online forum. We start chatting in the public forum, then eventually we take things to private messages. We talk for a week or two, just casual stuff, getting to know each other. Usually, the woman I'm taking to gets in the mood and starts talking about sex. Her past experiences, what she enjoyed, etc. I amp it up. She gets more into the mood she was already in, we end up sexting, and then we trade nudes. If she likes what she sees in my pictures, we arrange to meet, we sleep with each other, and then we figure out if we want to see each other again. Sometimes they don't want to, if I was bad in bed, or if they already have a boyfriend and want to stay with him, and sometimes they do want to see me again. Snapchat, tinder, facebook and other online apps save me my money and save me something more important than money. Time. I don't want to waste time with women who are looking for a ''romantic relationship first'' before sex, arrangment, and I'm not interested in women who are not sexually attracted to me,. Online apps are a godsend. Besides, think about it. How many dates can a man go to in one single night? The money it costs. The time it takes to make the guy look good and sexy, and the time the actual date takes, and the time it takes to go to the date and back, and then to get ready to the next date. On snapchat I can be talking to 10 women at the same time, which increases vastly my chances of getting sex that very night, because if one woman isn't in the mood or isn't interested in having sex with me, another woman will. Why is a man in his 30s too old to use snapchat? It's a great tool not only to have some fun(sexting, nudes exchange) but also as a mean to communicate with. I remember casually seeing this woman a few years back, she was about 30 minutes walking distance from me(I don't have a car) and she wanted to go out, but I was tired and I don't feel comfortable as a dude walking outside when nightime arrives, so she went out to her local bar to watch one of her favorite bands play. We used snapchat and we talked for 3 hours straight. I was sitting on my living room watching The Postman Always Rings Twice (1946 film) sending and receiving snapchats from her every 5 minutes, enjoying myself a good time without having to shower, shave, put some clothes on, then walk for 30 minutes outside in the middle of the night, and then I'd have to sit there and pretend to enjoy the music while getting my eardrums blasted away, and I'd probably have to buy drinks and pay for them. This way I get to enjoy her company, even if she's far away, without much effort on my part. I'm curious tho. Why is it bad for a man in his 30s to use snapchat, a phone app that was created to get people to talk to each other? Are men in their 30s also too old to use Tinder? Edited June 18, 2020 by Azincourt
chillii Posted June 19, 2020 Posted June 19, 2020 On 6/18/2020 at 5:52 AM, amanda141 said: I would reject a guy met online only if he has no social media at all, as I would be scared he could be a catfish. But rejecting someone for not having a particular social media it's very strange You talk on the phone and stuff , zero drama. Although l suppose women do have to be careful.
Author mortensorchid Posted June 19, 2020 Author Posted June 19, 2020 I agree that the only reason anyone would offer in this situation to use SnapChat is in order to send nude selfies or dick pics or something naughty to someone so it can be erased immediately. Whatever the case may be, not going to do it just because. 1
clia Posted June 19, 2020 Posted June 19, 2020 (edited) 35 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: I agree that the only reason anyone would offer in this situation to use SnapChat is in order to send nude selfies or dick pics or something naughty to someone so it can be erased immediately. Whatever the case may be, not going to do it just because. Not having Snapchat actually seems like a pretty efficient and easy way to weed out some of the creeps. Edited June 19, 2020 by clia 4
MaleIntuition Posted June 19, 2020 Posted June 19, 2020 5 hours ago, mortensorchid said: I agree that the only reason anyone would offer in this situation to use SnapChat is in order to send nude selfies or dick pics or something naughty to someone so it can be erased immediately. Whatever the case may be, not going to do it just because. No, you are being ridiculous, and it’s your attitude that drew him away, not the fact that you don’t use a certain app. 1
Miss Spider Posted June 20, 2020 Posted June 20, 2020 agree. There’s a vast difference between Me: Oh hey do you loveshack? Guy: *Snorts* No that’s just a bunch of girly relationship sht Vs Guy: Nope sry
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