Grey40 Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 You should always lock down the definite time for a first date because it forces their hand and makes them have to commit right on the spot to a yes or no. Without a definite time, you’re leaving it “up in the air” and it’s much easier for them to come up with an excuse. That being said, none of that matters if her interest level is a 10. Everyone’s over analyzing this too much including the OP. Her interest level is very low, if it exists at all. If a girl likes you, and wants to see you, they are not going to take DAYS to respond. AT MOST, 24 hours later is usually maximum. If it takes longer it’s almost always because they aren’t that into you, or you aren’t the top option. Plain and simple. Nothing you do differently would make any difference. She just doesn’t like you enough. If she had high interest, none of what you texted or said would have mattered, she would have Been happy and agreed relatively quickly. Or give a nice long apology on why it too her so long and then make it up to you. 1
jspice Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 If you need to “force their hand” to say yes to a date, you’re doing dating wrong. If someone wants to date you they’ll say yes and show their interest. If they don’t respond or say no, then that’s that. Do you really want to force someone to go out with you?? 1
Mystery4u Posted June 24, 2020 Posted June 24, 2020 14 hours ago, compcloud said: Bingo What a useless comment. You post this after ignoring everyone asking what happened. Why even bother posting at all? No wonder you can't get a girl. 1 2
Author compcloud Posted June 24, 2020 Author Posted June 24, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, Mystery4u said: What a useless comment. You post this after ignoring everyone asking what happened. Why even bother posting at all? No wonder you can't get a girl. Dude, relax. I've been busy and didn't feel like making a huge update post yet. I'm talking with her regularly again but I've mostly moved on to other options. If something interesting happens with her and we get a new date set, I'll give you all a proper update. No need to be rude. Edited June 24, 2020 by compcloud 2
Grey40 Posted June 25, 2020 Posted June 25, 2020 On 6/24/2020 at 3:17 AM, jspice said: If you need to “force their hand” to say yes to a date, you’re doing dating wrong. If someone wants to date you they’ll say yes and show their interest. If they don’t respond or say no, then that’s that. Do you really want to force someone to go out with you?? You missed the point of my post because you literally just agreed with my point. “Force their hand” was just an expression. The idea is if you actually say “how about we meet at x at 8pm?” It’s definite and the only way to respond to that is either yes or no. If it’s anything other than a yes, without some type of valid excuse or reschedule offer, then she’s most likely not interested. It’s an incredible way to gauge interest level without investing more unease art time talking to them.
Phallacy Posted July 6, 2020 Posted July 6, 2020 Accepted behavior should be expected. Folks have their phones glued to their hips these days. For texts? No response in 12 hours shows no interest. I’d stop contacting her. IMHO, mixed signals are negative.
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