Amber1985 Posted June 15, 2020 Posted June 15, 2020 Hi I am having a problem with this guy at work he is a manager and single and he has been touching me and following me he has been asking other people for my number and I just don’t understand why he is doing this Thank you
SincereOnlineGuy Posted June 15, 2020 Posted June 15, 2020 How big is the company/place where you work? IT would be very appropriate for you to go 'above' his head to others to report him. Is your place of business a large company? or a small store of some type? We need a little more information to give you the best suggestions. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 16, 2020 Posted June 16, 2020 Are you brave enough to speak to him directly ? Next time he touches you, take a step back, look him in the eyes & say, "Stop touching me. You are my manager. It's not appropriate. Stop asking people for my number. If you do it again, I'm going to HR. Are we clear?" Meanwhile try to back date a log of every date he touched you -- where you were in company building; who else was present, etc. Include this confrontation on the log. If he does it again send him an email or if you have to an actual letter with the date on it: On ____ (the date you spoke to him) I verbally told you to stop touching me. You didn't listen & did it again on ___. I have had it. This has to stop. Your conduct is unwelcome & constitutes sexual harassment and assault. I have kept a copy of this letter. If you violate my very clear boundaries again, I will have no choice but to go to HR (or the boss). You cannot be equivocal or vague. You cannot mince words. Stand up for yourself or this will happen forever. Predators see the word "victim" stamped on some people's foreheads. 1
Stevnx3 Posted June 16, 2020 Posted June 16, 2020 (edited) On 6/15/2020 at 9:20 AM, Amber1985 said: Hi I am having a problem with this guy at work he is a manager and single and he has been touching me and following me he has been asking other people for my number and I just don’t understand why he is doing this Thank Report him to H.R. or Admin if possible. Way out of line! Especially the touching you. They should deal with him. @d0nnivain is absolutely correct. Edited June 16, 2020 by Stevnx3
FMW Posted June 16, 2020 Posted June 16, 2020 If you feel comfortable enough to do it, deal with it directly. Say please do not touch me. Straight and simple. The message should be clear. How do you know he's been asking other people for your number? I assume those people have told you. If he's talking to your coworkers about you that needs to be stopped immediately as well. You said he's a manager, if he's not YOUR manager, then speak to your manager and ask for advice on how to handle the situation, and if requires immediate reporting higher up the chain. If he's YOUR manager, then going directly to HR is probably the answer. If you try stopping it by talking to him directly and he doesn't react well (does something in retaliation) then most definitely go to HR.
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