xXSURFAGEXx Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Let's see now what was I going to say...Oh,yes! Now,I have a friend and I know this girl that I like(Obviously!).My friend likes her too.He told me that this girl liked him before.Here's what he told me: He got on MSN messeger and the girl talk to here,but she didn't have a MSN account.She used her friend's account.So they talked.the girl said that she likes my friend.He said it's good.The next day he sent her a gift card saying 'I LOVE YOU!'.The next day they got on MSN Messenger and talked.She said to my friend:"Do you like me?",and my friend said:"I just want us to be friends."Then the girl suddenly got offline. Ok,that's the story.He still likes her.I like her too,what sould I do?
d'Arthez Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 Your friend, who sent the outrageous "I love you"-card, only wants to be friends with her, in his own words, addressed to her? How old is he, that he thinks that girls love games like that? She is fully aware of the hot-and-cold nature of the feelings of your friend for her. I would not be surprised in the slightest if he blew his chances with that. For your chances. I don't know if you believe in the whole "not dating or pusrsuing an interest of a friend"- ideology. If you do, you will have to forget about this girl . If you don't, you can simply pursue her. But that might have some backlash on your friendship. Ultimately she is the one who has to decide in whom she takes the most interest. Of course, the course of action you should undertake really depends on the concrete circumstances. Without further detail, the only thing we can do on this board is making assumptions about the situation. And that could be catastrophical.
blue16 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 lol how old are you guys...14? When a girl says "Do you like me?" that pretty much means "I like you." So she likes your friend obviously. Even if he blew his chances, do you want sloppy seconds? Meaning that she chose your friend first (or so I presume) and he messed up, so you're her second option so to speak. Are you willing to accept that? I certainly wouldn't. Of course if you haven't really even talked to this girl before then it might not necessarily be sloppy seconds, but I get the impression she liked your friend first. Anyways...I think your friend has blown it IMO. He's out of the game. If you are happy with sloppy seconds, I wouldn't move in right away because your friend might think he still has a chance. Wait till he realizes he's out of the running till you do anything. But if it were me in this situation I wouldn't be pursuing this girl at all since I'm her second option (at best).
d'Arthez Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 But if it were me in this situation I wouldn't be pursuing this girl at all since I'm her second option (at best). How far would you take the concept of 'sloppy second'? After all the friend knew her longer than the original poster. How reasonable it would be to expect of her, since vaguely knowing her, that she should not be interested in anyone, and have not expressed interest in anyone but the original poster?
blue16 Posted October 10, 2005 Posted October 10, 2005 After all the friend knew her longer than the original poster. Not necessarily...but I'm realizing that theres just too much vague information to determine whether this is sloppy seconds or not. How long ago was this little MSN/ "I love you" note encounter? And how well did the two of you know this girl? If you both knew her about the same, but she is going on her friends account in order to talk to your friend...she clearly liked him more and that's sloppy seconds in my book. I'm out of high school now, and I was never a big fan of dating friends ex's, or girls that like/liked my friends. Maybe I'm just too proud to be second. However, if your friend knew this girl ahead of time (or he knew her better), and then the whole msn drama took place then I guess it's not really sloppy seconds. In that case, your friend is probably out of the ball game and you should be free to move in (assuming your friend realizes he's out.) I've always thought that if my buddy is really into a girl and he makes the first move and gets rejected (or gets into the friend zone) then the girl is fair game. Just because he still likes a girl doesn't give him the right to 'claim' her or anything. If he's taken the chance and given it go, and failed, then it's all you. But I'm not gonna speculate anymore until there is more information.
Author xXSURFAGEXx Posted October 10, 2005 Author Posted October 10, 2005 Ok,here's some other information.Me and her are going to the same school next year.Well almost.You see there's a 2 schools 1 for boys and 1 for girlsand they're next to each each other.Sometimes boys go to the girl's school.But my friend's not sure that he's going to that school cause he's moving.I'm too but I convinced my uh parents to go there even if we're moving.Is that a bonus???
Author xXSURFAGEXx Posted October 10, 2005 Author Posted October 10, 2005 yes i've talked to her.I talk to her all the time.
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