GTR King Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) Is my Girlfriend (now ex) Being reasonable.. Me 29 (AUTISTIC) (30 In august) her 26 (Dyslexic) (27 August) I am from the u.k by the way... She lives about 21 miles (38 mins away from me) We started dating very end of January 1st date was few hours Soft drinks & uno (Bar in her hometown) after that we met up one day every weekend for the whole day (Throughout February due to work etc couldn't meet in the week) did things like Zoo Steam room/sauna cooked meal round mine spend day at hers had sex etc (Bought her flowers/card for valentine's day) Couldn't stay round hers (Lives with her mum & Grandad) as her mum won't let anyone stay whilst her grandad is there (Been like that way before i came along) and i was waiting to get new bed/move into brothers room as bigger (Saving up to move out in next year or so) before she could stay over... then beginning of March we started to see each other more (2 times a week) I then went on holiday to see Family (planned to see them way before met her) about 195 mils 3 hours 20 mins, When I got back (18th march) couldn't see her, Covid-Symptoms so had to stay in doors for a week then lockdown happened and didn't see each other for 2 months... did call each other every day her idea (Even bought her NCIS New Orleans dvd box sets £40 as she loves the show and loved my gifts) She bought me fosters pringles Dairy Milk chocolate (plain) Lucozade orange once lockdown eased a bit we socially distance met outside most sundays for walk Picnic/uno etc as weather was nice... I work during the week (get weds off usually my day to help clean the House as mum works in hospital) so can only see her at weekends as she busy in the week doing stuff for her business etc Each time we met she kept bugging me to kiss cuddle (Even asked for sex once there and then outside or go in the car somewhere) when I said no as wanna wait till it's safe and we are allowed too she moan and said I worry too much need to stop it no one will know about it... Last Thursday about 5pm Her: Can't talk tonight too tired x Me: Hope everything is ok have a great evening xx Her: Yes don't wanna talk x Friday Her Morning sweety, I speak to you tomorrow after 5 clock just want some me time today , we are all good , have good day are work Me: Morning babe, that’s fine with me , speak to you tomz have a great day xxxxxx Her: Hi sweety, I be thinking on a Thursday and Friday , we don’t talk on the phone , so I can have some me time, find it too much because working more now and got business to do , but I still like too talk to you on the phone, and we still go on holiday in August don’t worry , have good day at work Me: That's fine speak tomz have a great day xxxx Yesterday 13th june she rings me about 5pm 1st 15 mins she starts talking about stuff going on in her life (Didn't event let me speak) then she went off on one to say she not happy at seeing me once a week for 4-5 hours and feels like I am not making an effort to see her more often and ask me do all the girls I have dated only get seen once a week... and that I am not making effort in the relationship and when football (Soccer starts again) I won't be free on saturdays... Football is not every week and I would always make time to for her and do things at weekends would even miss football for her... she said I CBA to wait for you to get up about 8-9ish and meet about 9--11ish should would rather I get up early and see her 8-9ish every weekend (don't mind if we going somewhere nice) she feels like it always what I wanna do all the time... but I am happy to do what she likes as well... is She being Reasonable?? I am not breaking the rules/law to see her just so we can have sex/kiss etc and would love to see her more often but due to me working during the week and her now working on my day off we can't and covid-19 restrictions It P*sses me off that she thinks I don't take dating seriously and do what I want all the time that's not ******* true I always try my best to work hard in the relationship etc Edited June 13, 2020 by GTR King
Alexa 95 Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 1 hour ago, GTR King said: Is my Girlfriend (now ex) Being reasonable.. Me 29 (AUTISTIC) (30 In august) her 26 (Dyslexic) (27 August) I am from the u.k by the way... She lives about 21 miles (38 mins away from me) We started dating very end of January 1st date was few hours Soft drinks & uno (Bar in her hometown) after that we met up one day every weekend for the whole day (Throughout February due to work etc couldn't meet in the week) did things like Zoo Steam room/sauna cooked meal round mine spend day at hers had sex etc (Bought her flowers/card for valentine's day) Couldn't stay round hers (Lives with her mum & Grandad) as her mum won't let anyone stay whilst her grandad is there (Been like that way before i came along) and i was waiting to get new bed/move into brothers room as bigger (Saving up to move out in next year or so) before she could stay over... then beginning of March we started to see each other more (2 times a week) I then went on holiday to see Family (planned to see them way before met her) about 195 mils 3 hours 20 mins, When I got back (18th march) couldn't see her, Covid-Symptoms so had to stay in doors for a week then lockdown happened and didn't see each other for 2 months... did call each other every day her idea (Even bought her NCIS New Orleans dvd box sets £40 as she loves the show and loved my gifts) She bought me fosters pringles Dairy Milk chocolate (plain) Lucozade orange once lockdown eased a bit we socially distance met outside most sundays for walk Picnic/uno etc as weather was nice... I work during the week (get weds off usually my day to help clean the House as mum works in hospital) so can only see her at weekends as she busy in the week doing stuff for her business etc Each time we met she kept bugging me to kiss cuddle (Even asked for sex once there and then outside or go in the car somewhere) when I said no as wanna wait till it's safe and we are allowed too she moan and said I worry too much need to stop it no one will know about it... Last Thursday about 5pm Her: Can't talk tonight too tired x Me: Hope everything is ok have a great evening xx Her: Yes don't wanna talk x Friday Her Morning sweety, I speak to you tomorrow after 5 clock just want some me time today , we are all good , have good day are work Me: Morning babe, that’s fine with me , speak to you tomz have a great day xxxxxx Her: Hi sweety, I be thinking on a Thursday and Friday , we don’t talk on the phone , so I can have some me time, find it too much because working more now and got business to do , but I still like too talk to you on the phone, and we still go on holiday in August don’t worry , have good day at work Me: That's fine speak tomz have a great day xxxx Yesterday 13th june she rings me about 5pm 1st 15 mins she starts talking about stuff going on in her life (Didn't event let me speak) then she went off on one to say she not happy at seeing me once a week for 4-5 hours and feels like I am not making an effort to see her more often and ask me do all the girls I have dated only get seen once a week... and that I am not making effort in the relationship and when football (Soccer starts again) I won't be free on saturdays... Football is not every week and I would always make time to for her and do things at weekends would even miss football for her... she said I CBA to wait for you to get up about 8-9ish and meet about 9--11ish should would rather I get up early and see her 8-9ish every weekend (don't mind if we going somewhere nice) she feels like it always what I wanna do all the time... but I am happy to do what she likes as well... is She being Reasonable?? I am not breaking the rules/law to see her just so we can have sex/kiss etc and would love to see her more often but due to me working during the week and her now working on my day off we can't and covid-19 restrictions It P*sses me off that she thinks I don't take dating seriously and do what I want all the time that's not ******* true I always try my best to work hard in the relationship etc No she's not being reasonable. And she sounds kind of annoying aswell. I agree with you about restricting the physical intimacy due to covid. If you work and can only see her once a week? I dont see the big deal. It just sounds like shes self centred and self absorbed.
Author GTR King Posted June 14, 2020 Author Posted June 14, 2020 (edited) We started to see each other more before lockdown, I work Monday-Friday get Wednesdays off for now so can meet in the week but she usually busy/ she Back at work that day, Most places where I live have been shut so can really only do walks etc, and it was soo wet last weekend we didn’t see each other for long and weekend before changed plans (Last min my fault) to Saturday as brother and his Wife wanted me to socially distance meet there new puppy & him before he goes away for 7 weeks with army,. but we met on Saturday for about 6 hours so tell me How could I of seen her more? is she right to be annoyed at me for not wanted to kiss cuddle/ have sex (That’s classed as breaking the law) I really wanted too but was following the rules/Law the government set out, why would she think I am not making an effort in the relationship and wanting to see her more? Edited June 14, 2020 by GTR King
smackie9 Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 This Covid thing has everyone split apart on what is right and what is not. She really misses you, and like a lot of people want some normalcy again ie: to have touch and intimacy. Gosh we have people posting all the time about "breaking those rules" and meeting up for dates and sex. In one way yes she's being unreasonable, in another you should be seeing her more often. Have to make a compromise somewhere so both are getting something. Yes some people are tempted to cheat the rules, she's not the only one, you just have to talk sensibly with her. This virus is nothing normal. It can kill anyone, it's horrible to go through, and can have life long effects like neurological damage. You have to hit that home to her. This is about survival, it's no laughing matter. 1
Author GTR King Posted June 14, 2020 Author Posted June 14, 2020 (edited) Thanks mate I did tell her the truth about how bad covid-19 can be etc as was not very nice when I had it in march (Think I did have it can't be sure tho but mum 100% had it) but she just kept saying stop being a wimp and worrying about it who cares if we catch it the old people will die one day anway no one will know if we kiss hold hands/have sex outside or in car etc.. I was not comfortable doing that till the government (Boris says so) say we are allowed to.. she also said once a week for few hours is good enough and I should of made more of an effort to see her as it feels like we are just meeting up as friends, How the hell can I when I am working and can only go out for a walk when we do meet up etc as most thing are shut and she can't stay over at mine (can once lockdown eased) and not allowed to stay at hers, as her mum won't let her have anyone to stay,... i 100% tried to see her more kept telling her that..... I did tell her once things start to open up I will be able to see you more and look forward to our holiday in august she even made me birthday present (23rd august) she just said fed up of being stuck in doors just wanna go to spa or on holiday and want Wednesday Evening till Saturday evenings no contact as find it too much/stressful due to work (Was not happy with that) she event said lets talk every day, She did hide her HPV For about a month (Whilst she wait for her yearly check up results) and didn't tell me before having sex (Did use protection) told her wasn't happy with that she just said sorry you will be fine She has now blocked me on Facebook and my number I bet.. yesterday Just told her to think things carefully about what she wants and where she want to go with the relationship and to have a few days to think things over, I am willing to make an effort to see her more once lockdown eases more and things start to open.. about 10 mins after she called said lets just be friends bye... then messaged later to see if i was upset told her I am fine thanks need a few days to think about things she said fine Edited June 14, 2020 by GTR King
Mystery4u Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 Yes she is being very reasonable. She wants to see you more, spend more time with you. How is that anything but a good thing? I actually cannot believe you turned down having sex with her because of the virus? Like really? Why can't you meet up with her after work during the week? Have a drink in the car, find a nice quiet place and have sex in the back? Sounds so hot, no wonder she is annoyed with you. All I'm reading is excuses as to why you can't see her more. You definitely should have made more effort. She is your (ex) girlfriend, who you are (I'm assuming) wanting to marry one day etc etc, not just a friend to meet up with when you have spare time. 1
Juha Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 Can't say I blame her for dumping you. You totally dropped the ball here.
Author GTR King Posted June 14, 2020 Author Posted June 14, 2020 I did offer to see her in the week but she said I like to study for business in evening and too tired to do anything after that as goes to bed 7,30-8.30ish and could of seen her on wednesdays but she works that day, When she offered sex there and then we was outside on public walkway (Wasn't comfortable doing that) and few people walked passed us (Had no condoms on me) and when suggested doing it car I was all for the idea once we are allowed to... I know why she left me as was fed up not seeing me much and having sex etc but in the u.k we have been in lockdown since march things are only slowly opening up but i didn't wanna break the law to see her
introverted1 Posted June 14, 2020 Posted June 14, 2020 4 hours ago, GTR King said: She did hide her HPV For about a month (Whilst she wait for her yearly check up results) and didn't tell me before having sex (Did use protection) told her wasn't happy with that she just said sorry you will be fine Sounds like you are better off without her. First, she puts your sexual health at risk (and HPV can lead to throat cancer, so protection is useless unless you used a dental dam). Now she wants to take risks with covid-19. Doesn't strike me that she has good impulse control.
Author GTR King Posted June 14, 2020 Author Posted June 14, 2020 Thanks mate.... I wanted to see her as much as I can within the 2m distance rules. No sex kiss/cuddling till the government allows it, Found it hard when working and can only meet outside when it’s not wet for few hours etc... each weekend or odd Wednesday.... Tried to tell her all this but said wasn’t making enough effort to see her (Even when we was in full lockdown) she was fed up of being stuck in doors & didn’t care about the lockdown rules.
Author GTR King Posted June 16, 2020 Author Posted June 16, 2020 Update.... she messaged me on Instagram from her business page... Just asked how I was & if wanted to be friends & that she is working more, and bit sad about the breakup But said was really tough during lockdown and wished me all the best for the future i was civil and replied wishing her all the best in the future and was bit sad about the breakup etc
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