mortensorchid Posted June 12, 2020 Posted June 12, 2020 I connected with this guy on Hinge, the younger man I had mentioned in another thread (he's 31 and I am 45). We had agreed to meet tonight,just as I was about to leave the house he texted he was sorry but he couldn't make it. He thought he would be finished with this work thing by 6 and they were not. I said that's ok, another time and work comes first. He did not make an effort to reschedule. Waiting for an answer... Bummed but waiting. Getting comfortable with Netflix.
Weezy1973 Posted June 12, 2020 Posted June 12, 2020 Sounds like you’re not too invested, and that’s good considering you haven’t met him yet. One of the problems people have with OLD is getting invested way too early and then they burn out. Netflix Friday’s are great too!
alphamale Posted June 12, 2020 Posted June 12, 2020 you should try dating people around your own age mortensorchid, a 14 year difference is waaaay too big 2
rjc149 Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 I agree, emotionally investing yourself into prospects who are over a decade your junior is going to result in a lot of disappointment. That goes for men but especially women. As I’ve mentioned on your other threads, if you’re attractive enough to match with younger guys, why not open yourself to an older guy who would see 45 as on his level, if not a spring chicken? Not saying you should hit up a nursing home, but older gentlemen who have taken care of themselves. What about those prospects? 1
alphamale Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 2 minutes ago, rjc149 said: I agree, emotionally investing yourself into prospects who are over a decade your junior is going to result in a lot of disappointment. That goes for men but especially women. As I’ve mentioned on your other threads, if you’re attractive enough to match with younger guys, why not open yourself to an older guy who would see 45 as on his level, if not a spring chicken? Not saying you should hit up a nursing home, but older gentlemen who have taken care of themselves. What about those prospects? i agree rjc149...mortensorchid really needs to stop sabotaging her dating life. it's almost as if she doesn't want a relationship 2
CaliforniaGirl Posted June 13, 2020 Posted June 13, 2020 (edited) Older? Than 45? Girl no. I know I'll get a lot of pushback and peacocking from this but if you're talking about pushing 60 (based on the "spring chicken" commment...I mean he'd have to be significantly older than you to think that) then...sorry, changes in all levels are happening and you're just too young to have to deal with this...IMO. It's a whole other stage of life and near retirement and senior citizenship. What's wrong with 40somethings? Like you? BTW, this may not even have been an age thing anyway. I know I mentioned in the other thread, you were doing the calling, texting, he'd cancel and you'd hurry to ask him to do something else instead...you were chasing him and he just wasn't that interested. Trust me, there are interested men out there...and I'm sorry but you need to not keep pushing and "following up" when somebody has already canceled on you twice (as of that thread). Honestly you should have given him some breathing room and some time to make his *own* decision to reschedule...JMO. He may have felt really pushed. Keep looking... Edited June 13, 2020 by CaliforniaGirl
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