Dating a guy from happn *UPDATE*

[rainbow12]

1 minute ago, miranda561 said:

Some people genuinely don't like or want the person theyre dating to be seeing others. 

I think they would rather meet see how it goes..n if it doesnt work meet another person

 

@miranda561 Thank you Miranda, Someone who gets it. 

[miranda561]

Just now, rainbow12 said:

@miranda561 Thank you Miranda, Someone who gets it. 

Like i can see both sides in a way.

I can see  why people dont want to be tied  down to one case it goes badly. But i can also see why individuals want the  others full attention 🤔😂

[rainbow12]

3 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Like i can see both sides in a way.

I can see  why people dont want to be tied  down to one case it goes badly. But i can also see why individuals want the  others full attention 🤔😂

Yes, Same here. I can see both sides of it as well, but people on here who hardly know me, judge me for being a bunny boiler. 🤣 @miranda561 You're starting to be one of my favorites on here because you understand and not judge. 

[miranda561]

3 minutes ago, rainbow12 said:

Yes, Same here. I can see both sides of it as well, but people on here who hardly know me, judge me for being a bunny boiler. 🤣 @miranda561 You're starting to be one of my favorites on here because you understand and not judge. 

Thanks rainbow😬😁. No problem. 

Don't worry I've seen people accuse others on here too with  the whole bunny boiler term. 😂. 

But at least at the end of the day you can say you gave it a good shot! 

 

[rainbow12]

2 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

Thanks rainbow😬😁. No problem. 

Don't worry I've seen people accuse others on here too with  the whole bunny boiler term. 😂. 

But at least at the end of the day you can say you gave it a good shot! 

@miranda561 Yes, I did give it a shot and tried to meet him once, I'm glad to be moving on from everything that's taught me. 

[poppyfields]

@rainbow, well, what's done is done, the question now becomes, did lashing out at him make you feel better?  

If it did, more power to ya, I'm all for reacting in ways that will help us feel better and move on from the experience.

Personally, I'm not one to emotionally react that way as I'd rather he not know how his behaviour affected me. 

By doing what you did, he now knows he "got to you" which gives him all the power and a good chuckle with his friends. 

I just ignore or act indifferently, imo sends a much louder message than emotionally lashing out.

Just me. You do you. 

Best to you moving forward.  

Edited June 10, 2020 by poppyfields

[rainbow12]

2 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

@rainbow, well, what's done is done, the question now becomes, did lashing out at him make you feel better?  

If it did, more power to ya, I'm all for reacting in ways that will help us feel better and move on from it.

Personally, I'm not one to emotionally react that way as I'd rather he not know how his behaviour affected me.  By doing what you did, he now knows he "got to you" which gives him all the power and a good chuckle with his friends. 

I just ignore or act indifferently, imo sends a much louder message than emotionally lashing out.

Just me. You do you. 

Best to you moving forward.  

Yes, it did, I can't hold my emotions in and say it's ok, I'm not bothered anymore, I rather we went our separate ways, I'm the one whom tells it how it is. If I ignore him I would pretend it didn't affect me and I can't have that. I like it when someone gets the message and I have the last say then block. 

[poppyfields]

14 minutes ago, rainbow12 said:

Yes, it did, I can't hold my emotions in and say it's ok, I'm not bothered anymore, I rather we went our separate ways, I'm the one whom tells it how it is. If I ignore him I would pretend it didn't affect me and I can't have that. I like it when someone gets the message and I have the last say then block. 

If how you reacted felt right to you and helped give you closure, no one has the right to judge that and tell you to react differently.

We each have our own way and who the hell cares what HE thinks anyway?  Let him go have a chuckle with his friends, who cares.  Yawn. 

Continue doing you, fiery, emotional, the right man WILL come along, I promise you! 

Edited June 10, 2020 by poppyfields

[Ellener]

On 6/7/2020 at 4:00 PM, Gaeta said:

Men with no experience are shy. Men suggesting going to your house  to cuddle are predators that know too well how to get unexperienced women like you. A man that is really interested in getting to know you would never EVER bring up that kind of talk, he'd be too afraid you get the wrong impression and you bail. Women that know their worth don't fall for this, inexperienced women with a  need to find  love will fall for it.  

Interesting isn't it, I dropped someone last week because he kept asking when am I going to invite him over! 

[Gaeta]

Rainbow12: Use each of your dating experience, the good and the bad, to learn and grow. You cannot change men, or the dating world, so ask yourself what you should have done differently and apply it next time. Did you give too many chances, did you accept behavior from this man you shouldn't have, did you lower your expectation to accomodate him, did you expect too much too fast, etc.

I have learn in my years of dating that I cannot *force* men to respect me, to date me the way I wish, and cannot force a commitment out of them. It has to come 100% from them without me suggesting it. If at the very beginning I find myself wanting to tell them things like *you should have..*, *you could have..* then he's the wrong candidate for me to date. 

At the begining do not beleive what these men tell you. Talk is cheap, let them show you with actions. *You're beautiful, sexy, exciting,* means nothing from a man that has not went out of his way to spend face to face time with you. 

Good luck in your search. Remember there are players everywhere, online AND in real life as well.

 

Edited June 11, 2020 by Gaeta

[miranda561]

9 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Rainbow12: Use each of your dating experience, the good and the bad, to learn and grow. You cannot change men, or the dating world, so ask yourself what you should have done differently and apply it next time. Did you give too many chances, did you accept behavior from this man you shouldn't have, did you lower your expectation to accomodate him, did you expect too much too fast, etc.

I have learn in my years of dating that I cannot *force* men to respect me, to date me the way I wish, and cannot force a commitment out of them. It has to come 100% from them without me suggesting it. If at the very beginning I find myself wanting to tell them things like *you should have..*, *you could have..* then he's the wrong candidate for me to date. 

At the begining do not beleive what these men tell you. Talk is cheap, let them show you with actions. *You're beautiful, sexy, exciting,* means nothing from a man that has not went out of his way to spend face to face time with you. 

Good luck in your search. Remember there are players everywhere, online AND in real life as well.

 

Yeah unfortunately more amongst men than women i think there are  a lot of fakes, who dont say what they mean or mean what they say. 

This is what I've learnt to accept. 

Rainbow is young, i think she has yet to experience the worst unfortunately..but she will understand men better in time. 

[rainbow12]

9 hours ago, Gaeta said:

Rainbow12: Use each of your dating experience, the good and the bad, to learn and grow. You cannot change men, or the dating world, so ask yourself what you should have done differently and apply it next time. Did you give too many chances, did you accept behavior from this man you shouldn't have, did you lower your expectation to accomodate him, did you expect too much too fast, etc.

I have learn in my years of dating that I cannot *force* men to respect me, to date me the way I wish, and cannot force a commitment out of them. It has to come 100% from them without me suggesting it. If at the very beginning I find myself wanting to tell them things like *you should have..*, *you could have..* then he's the wrong candidate for me to date. 

At the begining do not beleive what these men tell you. Talk is cheap, let them show you with actions. *You're beautiful, sexy, exciting,* means nothing from a man that has not went out of his way to spend face to face time with you. 

Good luck in your search. Remember there are players everywhere, online AND in real life as well.

 Did you give too many chances? No

Did you accept behavior from this man you shouldn't have? Yes

, did you lower your expectation to accommodate him,  No

did you expect too much too fast, etc.Yes

 

9 hours ago, Gaeta said:

 

 

[Alexa 95]

19 hours ago, Ellener said:

Interesting isn't it, I dropped someone last week because he kept asking when am I going to invite him over! 

Its evident whats on his mind 

[Alexa 95]

On 6/10/2020 at 9:56 PM, rainbow12 said:

@miranda561 Yes, I did give it a shot and tried to meet him once, I'm glad to be moving on from everything that's taught me. 

This dude is like a typical young boy. Fickle n wanting more than he can offer