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2 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

No, I think princess implies really treating someone as incredibly special. Doing things that *that* person loves, not just practical things "I'm" comfortable doing. Just because they make my loved one feel happy. Going the extra mile. I think that's lovely. 😍

Totally agree! I like when both partners in the couple make the other one feel that way 

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6 hours ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

Yeah, but Miranda, to be honest about this, you give the hot-and-cold treatment. You have no way of knowing none of those guys would have fulfilled this for you. These three things really are not a lot to ask for but you don't give these guys a chance and intelligent, quality guys are going to given up and move on. So you think these guys don't exist because you shoo them away fast.

Maybe. But i mean the way i see it..i take time to reveal myself at the same time trying to show im interested..but its still not good enough..

So isnt that on them  more than me?

The last guy i did try..but he just isnt patient.if i don't do exactly what he wanted  he would ignore me..while at the same time being paranoid that im behaving as if hes an option and having insecure thoughts as (me leaving him for someone else..and then coming back to him when it didnt work out) ..just because  there was two months gap!! Where he didnt reach out either!

Like what am i meant to do exactly 😂. Be up his bum all the time?? His ex apparently complained he didnt call her enough...so she was most likely a girl who was always on his case. So maybe hes not used to someone like me who doesn't try to grab a hold of him 24/7

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6 hours ago, basil67 said:

I'm not at all criticising you, so please don't take this the wrong way:  I am curious about what 'adventurous' brings to the table when it comes to a long term relationship/marriage.  Or perhaps I should first ask what traits you define as adventurous?  

The context to my question is that I've been with my guy for nearly 30 years, 23 of those years spent raising kids.  (The oldest of which remains permanently in need of support).  I wonder if an adventurous spirit would be crushed in a long term family situation where our needs have to get put aside for the greater good of the family.  Or perhaps this isn't something you seek and I'm heading off on a silly tangent? 

 

Youre probably right.

 I haven't  thought  about  the raising a family aspect. And how the person should be stable. I dunno maybe im still young in spirit! Well and age 😂

I wanted  someone  who would want to travel a lot and do a lot of things  for a few years before settling. 🤔

 

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@miranda561 I agree when you say "Like what am i meant to do exactly" ahah sometimes it's hard for me to understand what men truly expect from a woman's behaviour

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I like a girl who has a propensity to realise a nine dart finish is a culmination of a mans life....

Seriously though, a sense of humour wins me over.

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17 minutes ago, Haydn said:

Seriously though, a sense of humour wins me over.

Turning tables, me too!  Life's just too short.  

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19 minutes ago, Haydn said:

I like a girl who has a propensity to realise a nine dart finish is a culmination of a mans life....

Seriously though, a sense of humour wins me over.

Well if that's all men want then ill be fine😂

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52 minutes ago, amanda141 said:

@miranda561 I agree when you say "Like what am i meant to do exactly" ahah sometimes it's hard for me to understand what men truly expect from a woman's behaviour

And especially if they don't  communicate. Like  the one im talking about i can tell hes probably  annoyed or frustrated..instead of communicating he will just be like bye! Act like i dont exist. Which isnt great really. 

Whereas women will tend to nag or bring up their  issues. ( ok im an exception). 😂

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To be desirable is to be less available. We want more what we can't have. Blame to dopamine.

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5 hours ago, miranda561 said:

Maybe. But i mean the way i see it..i take time to reveal myself at the same time trying to show im interested..but its still not good enough..

So isnt that on them  more than me?

The last guy i did try..but he just isnt patient.if i don't do exactly what he wanted  he would ignore me..while at the same time being paranoid that im behaving as if hes an option and having insecure thoughts as (me leaving him for someone else..and then coming back to him when it didnt work out) ..just because  there was two months gap!! Where he didnt reach out either!

Like what am i meant to do exactly 😂. Be up his bum all the time?? His ex apparently complained he didnt call her enough...so she was most likely a girl who was always on his case. So maybe hes not used to someone like me who doesn't try to grab a hold of him 24/7

No, but none of this is what you've described. You have described acting disinterested and so on. You have said you do this deliberately but you're not sure why. You've also described some serious negging and so on. Up his bum all the time is hyperbole. A great guy with his head on straight is not going to hang around for that. He will hang around for something he feels is real and could develop over time. This other stuff, he'll just need as games. Sure you could be letting great guys get away. Great guys want something real, not games. I'm sorry to put it that way.

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4 hours ago, Haydn said:

I like a girl who has a propensity to realise a nine dart finish is a culmination of a mans life....

Seriously though, a sense of humour wins me over.

I had to Google that so I guess I'm out!

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49 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

No, but none of this is what you've described. You have described acting disinterested and so on. You have said you do this deliberately but you're not sure why. You've also described some serious negging and so on. Up his bum all the time is hyperbole. A great guy with his head on straight is not going to hang around for that. He will hang around for something he feels is real and could develop over time. This other stuff, he'll just need as games. Sure you could be letting great guys get away. Great guys want something real, not games. I'm sorry to put it that way.

I feel like he plays  games too. Not replying to texts..but only responding  to calls  (which i rarely  ever make).

The last thing i said was can't  believe its been nearly two months since we last spoke ..you must hate me..and all i got was *silence*.

So im guessing hes done. 😶

Sometimes the most genuine  people take the longest time to be open. . The fake ones are all too much too soon at the beginning. Maybe he would be wise to realise that. 🤔

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5 minutes ago, miranda561 said:

I feel like he plays  games too. Not replying to texts..but only responding  to calls  (which i rarely  ever make).

The last thing i said was can't  believe its been nearly two months since we last spoke ..you must hate me..and all i got was *silence*.

So im guessing hes done. 😶

Sometimes the most genuine  people take the longest time to be open. . The fake ones are all too much too soon at the beginning. Maybe he would be wise to realise that. 🤔

You couldn't have just called him? This is what I'm talking about. You went two months without speaking but you're sad he's no longer interested? He sounds pretty normal to me. If you guys aren't a match then you aren't it putting guys through stuff like this, then deciding when they back off that there are no good men out there, is foolish. Anyway, once again this is going off topic. It is a general topic meant for everyone, and if we're being honest with the OP then just saying negative things about the opposite sex if we too were doing things that all but guaranteed a failure to launch isn't a complete picture. I am not trying to get on your case, I promise. But you describe some really odd, unusual situations and I don't think these can possibly give an accurate view of the opposite sex. 

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17 minutes ago, CaliforniaGirl said:

You couldn't have just called him? This is what I'm talking about. You went two months without speaking but you're sad he's no longer interested? He sounds pretty normal to me. If you guys aren't a match then you aren't it putting guys through stuff like this, then deciding when they back off that there are no good men out there, is foolish. Anyway, once again this is going off topic. It is a general topic meant for everyone, and if we're being honest with the OP then just saying negative things about the opposite sex if we too were doing things that all but guaranteed a failure to launch isn't a complete picture. I am not trying to get on your case, I promise. But you describe some really odd, unusual situations and I don't think these can possibly give an accurate view of the opposite sex. 

Ok i sort of get where  you're  coming from.

I could have called..but he could have text. Ive never come across anyone so against texting. 

He did once say texting is disingenuous..or the other person can be hiding their true selves. But to me communication should be a combination of texting and calling.

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The only way you can make somebody fall for you is to run a thin piece of fishing line across a doorway, about a foot off the ground.

Then when you see someone walking by, nonchantly drop a few bills on your side of the fishing line, making sure at least one is a $50 bill or greater.

Then turn and start walking away. Odds are they will come running and they'll hit the wire and .. down they go.

 

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2 hours ago, gamon said:

The only way you can make somebody fall for you is to run a thin piece of fishing line across a doorway, about a foot off the ground.

Then when you see someone walking by, nonchantly drop a few bills on your side of the fishing line, making sure at least one is a $50 bill or greater.

Then turn and start walking away. Odds are they will come running and they'll hit the wire and .. down they go.

 

I've tried it but you'd be surprised how strong those buggers are. You wouldn't think anybody could snap a.fishing line until you've seen one trapped with commitment approaching fast.

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5 hours ago, miranda561 said:

Sometimes the most genuine  people take the longest time to be open. . The fake ones are all too much too soon at the beginning. Maybe he would be wise to realise that. 🤔

I couldn't disagree more.  The most genuine people I know are open, reliable and consistent.   

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On 6/6/2020 at 8:17 PM, enigma32 said:

In my experience, I did my best with women when I tried not to hit on them in any way. Talk to her sure, but treat her like any other person, not some girl I am trying to smash. Treat her like I would a guy friend even. Most guys are so thirsty these days that they talk to all these women like little princesses. I don't even think they like it beyond the ego boost it gives. 

Same here. I treat guys like I would treat a brothers guy friend until he has made all the obvious signs. 

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On 6/7/2020 at 1:33 PM, smackie9 said:

To be desirable is to be less available. We want more what we can't have. Blame to dopamine.

Works everytime😉

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But that just sounds like more games to me.   l was always just whatever l was or my sitch , worked everytime too , not that l was that way to make anything work though that's my point , in other words l was just honest with whatever was going on. But l could say if l had to practically make an appointment to see her it would turn me off so fast her ass would spin.

But eh, that was me, just sayin.

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